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IHi Reddit, I really need some advice on a situation that’s gotten out of hand.
I (27M) met a woman (40F, married with one child) at a railway station in November 2024. We got talking, exchanged numbers, and eventually grew close over the following weeks. Things did become intimate a few times.
However, by December 2024, I started feeling uncomfortable about continuing the relationship. I decided to step back and communicated clearly that I didn’t want to take things further. Since then, things have taken a turn I wasn’t prepared for.
She has been calling me non-stop — around 10 to 15 times a day — every single day. She’s also been sending long voice notes, crying, begging to meet, and saying she’s emotionally attached and can’t live without me. I’ve told her multiple times, very clearly, to stop contacting me, but she isn’t listening.
**Although she isn’t threatening me but as a male anything can go wrong with me as I have long career ahead**
I’m honestly scared and exhausted. I don’t know how to handle this anymore.
Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? What should I do?
Note:- I tried but I am not able to attach screenshots of our conversations in this post
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SI have gone through this.
The woman I was involved with must be 40 now.
It all started with conversation on WhatsApp.
She first flirted and I responded. One thing led to the other.
Even the woman I was involved with had a kid.
After a few conversations on WhatsApp, she told me her husband and she are not physically intimate. They are staying like flatmates. She’s craving for love and romance.
She said she loves to travel and her conversations showed she’s free spirited. Basically, her conversations showed that she’s adventurous and very open-minded.
Most of our conversations were about travel, books and films.
She said that she has a different world in her head than the reality she’s living.
She said that she loves me more than her husband though she can’t leave him and can’t live without me either.
I am the most precious thing in her life and she doesn’t want to lose me.
She even said that I can have affairs but should not leave her.
Is your story similar? If yes, this can work for you.
Bro, it took me almost a year to end it, as I was emotional and trusted everything she said.
It was very slow and painful end.
You don’t make the same mistake. Don’t worry about she knowing where you live and where you work. Just end it as quickly as possible. Nothing should happen.
She’s doing all this because she badly needs company and adventurous “experiences”. She needs a lot of attention.
Until it ends, she won’t let go of you. She may or may not talk about suicide. Mine never did. But she will try to hold on to you as long as possible. You will always think that she will appear at your doorstep any day. But that won’t happen.
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QFirst thing in life Never Ever get involved with a Married person. Think about the karma which can haunt you back and other guy – Bro Code
At this point it’s best to not respond, keep the messages intact so that if she files any false case you have protection
No response and Zero contact. Change your number
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UFirstly, you’re dumb. This is you fucking around and now you’re finding out.
Move. If you have a house sell it, if you rent break your lease and rent someplace else. In the meantime, get cameras for all around your home and a security system even if it’s minimal.
Send one last message that says any further communication you will consider stocking and harassment. Also, in case you haven’t done this yet, let her know that you were just using her for sex and you have no love for her at all. Mute all conversations coming in from her in case you need them for evidence later because she pulls a Fatal Attraction on. You could also get a new number get everyone else transferred to this number and then eventually shut off the old number once you’ve collected enough evidence.
If you are like really worried for your safety, you can send everything to her spouse. I don’t know if you were in a place where you can be held accountable in someway for having sex with a married woman. If you call it out first, she can’t have anything to hold over your head anymore.
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DBro karma is real, try to stay single for life Varna tere se baada koi hoe tujhe he mil jayega as wife or girlfriend.
Seen these things happen to so many guys and Fuckboys who used to fuck around , cheat and date women who were already committed or married and they got the top tier hoes as their partner, because universe has a way of getting back at you.
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BSo many saints here on the replies of this thread, didn’t know all morals were upheld in the holy alleys of reddit. but all the best. Send a restraining order if required and own up to the fact that you lived a moment that most moral commentators here fantasize about, not in here, but in your real world.
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CLegally there is nothing that you can do now. Just wait and watch. Delete the stored contact. All screenshots should be with her number and not a name. If you are ok with things coming out then maybe you can file a harrasment case against her. For this you should utilise the services of a lawyer.
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Continue having fun but withdraw and reduce contact only to physical activities. Reduce talking and chatting and create a situation such that the relationship is mostly physical.
Slowly reduce contact. All contact. She is emotionally attached at this point so talk of breakup will make her more desperate. So you will need to maintain contact but reduce frequency.
Do not discuss your financial situation with her. In fact create a image of financial difficulties. Slowly and steadily.
Do not introduce any talk of family and marriage. Just show loss of interest…
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UBe careful what you wish for, you might just get it. Well besides this, as a practicing Lawyer my suggestion would be to not antagonize each other in this while you’re at it. You can’t just drop a dime on her and move on give her time to process all of this also to understand that you got a future ahead of you. Other side of the story is unheard too
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