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UHi, I just found out that my wife cheated on me with my friend. I saw messages on Instagram where words like “I loved kissing your neck”, “I miss your touch”. I confronted her and she accepted (sort of, not explicitly). I have screenshots of the conversation. I would like to file for a divorce. Will I be required to pay an alimony? I know the laws of our country favour the wife. Are the screenshots enough? What if she files a fake case against me? I am distraught and clueless. Please help. 🙏
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EDon’t go for divorce so soon. How long you two have been married? Is she sorry for what she did? Do u still love her and continue if she don’t cheat again? Do u have kids?
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Phey dude… calm down.. don’t take it so seriously… maybe she is just having sex with him but still loves you… maybe her sexual cravings are stronger than yours so she went out for sex with your friend… give her time.. don’t make an issue out of it… respect her feelings as a human… she will love you for it and may not do it again… you may even try a threesome… seriously…. don’t get hassled…world is changing…women are getting confident and want to experiment…. you can write to me for more… best…
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BHire a private detective (there is Sleuths) and get more evidence on her. Talk to a good lawyer (take references from people).
Understand that divorces are won (figuratively) by good lawyers and it doesn’t matter which party is in the wrong. If you don’t want to spend money on alimony and maintenance, spend good money on getting a lawyer and private detective. Speaking from personal experience.
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LAdultery as a Ground for Divorce under the Hindu Marriage Act adultery is a valid ground for divorce If the husband can prove that his wife had an extramarital affair, the court may grant him divorce on this basis.The court considers various factors before granting alimony . For more clarification and query kindly visit my Instagram @advocate_shahnawazkhan or contact me on my mobile number and WhatsApp 9818473787
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BGiven that this is a sub oriented around legal help, I think mods ought to bring in some checks and balances as to who gets to comment and offer advice.
Earlier, members offering their opinion would mention NAL to highlight their lack of expertise, often limiting their inputs to sympathy and words of encouragement.
This is not the case anymore it seems, given that people here are advocating for ‘ a lady lawyer ‘ for questionable reasons like ‘ she is going to handle the wife very well ‘.
Posters here often come during duress and having people here, with little to no knowledge of law and judiciary, strutting around playing make-believe lawyer doesn’t help the sub.
I hope the mods will intervene and restore a modicum of normalcy.
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UHello kind and helpful reddit family, I have found a solution. I will ask her for a mutual divorce. If she disagrees then I will name and shame her in front of her family. The screenshots may not work in the court of law but they will be effective in society and family. Thank you all for taking out the time to reply. God bless you all!
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BNah nah, not just family. Try the media. You can fuck up both of them with this. For your ex friend, any future alliance will at-least do a google search their name before marriage and this search result will pop up. Make sure they have a photo of both of them. Then apply for divorce, enjoy life and watch drama.
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M“Please adjust. What will the world say. Since you are now married, it is your responsibility to keep the family together. Think of the kids. It will become okay. She will change. You have to make the effort to make the marriage work somehow. Etc.,etc.,……”
Some of the typical things a typical indian married woman might be typically told if she asks something like this..
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EGet rid of the cheater they will do it again now that it’s known to you she will get more courage to do it openly and she will blame everything on you , you will feel guilty about it though she cheated on you, that’s how every girl operates when they get caught.
Focus on getting her out of your life calmly, then plan out your life everything will be okay at the end.
Accept it , then move on , also it’s not your fault it’s always the cheater. Try giving her a chance she will bring another friend and they might have a threesome and blame you for it. That’s how cheaters are. -
NFirst and foremost go and secure an anticipatory bail from the high court, if possible. This will almost certainly diffuse the situation and dissuade her from filing the fake case as now police cannot arrest you or your family. After that, confront her in front of her family and ask for a mutual consent divorce. Tell her the reason.
As much as possible, try to handle it in a civic manner. Don’t get her agitated or make her defensive. And then, file for the mutual consent divorce and get it done in 6 months.
All the best OP.
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CDo you want a divorce? Is this a Knee jerk reaction because you are hurt or this is something that’s non negotiable with you?
Have you had a past of affection with anyone else? (At times dirt too comes out when you dig)
Will forgiving be possible? You find space that trust can be built again?Now legal it is not that laws are tilted towards women but see it from logic if she is earning lesser than you ( which usually happens because of family responsibilities and care etc etc, they The’s to take career slow than a male spouse. not sure of that’s your case or not. But law only says equal lifestyle as that of spouse. So you get to be logical here too
Confront only when you know you can maintain your calm and stay determined to your decision.
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PI had been through a similar situation. In my case, I had recorded the entire Instagram & WhatsApp chats of them (my ex-wife & her boyfriend) using mobile’s inbuilt screen recorder, and took backup the entire recording at multiple locations just to be on the safer side. Though I know that this evidence will not suffice as it can be challenged in many ways in the name of AI, deep fake and what not. In a nutshell, digital evidence like screenshots, screen recording are fragile and digital forensics reports will be required and it would take a hell of a lot of time. Plus proving all these would be time consuming as per our country’s procedure 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️.
I didn’t let my ex-wife know about my intentions even though I didn’t let her know that I know about her affair even. I just convinced my couple of cousins and some elders in my family about everything as well as my decision so that I can have their support. Then I convinced my wife to visit her family and I went to her hometown along with her and disclosed all the screen recording and my decision of getting divorce to her family members. Her family members tried a lot to convince me and my family members and later we decided to go for mutual consent divorce. In my case, screen recording of their conversation was in great help.
I am sharing this with you just for your reference. It’s well known that what’s the situation in our country related to procedure in terms of law in such cases especially. Personally, I would suggest you to get rid of your cheating wife with mutual consent by involving both families rather than getting into another mess.
I wish you all the best for your future as well as great and speedy comeback in your life.
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SDude the key to you winning this case is your so called friend. Pretend to be a good friend for sometime and use him as a witness. Tell him he made the mistake and you are not angry at him, Make him say in court that he had a relationship with your wife. Use his phone as evidence rather than your wife’s. Use him until divorce, when all is set and done, part your ways from such friendship. Gain his confidence as boys friendship most of the times are stronger than some futile intimacy for a day or two. Just use him and when all is set and done you got two snakes out of your life in on shot.
When this is over and it works. I want samose with hari chutney and jalebi from you, also hakka noodles.
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