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UI am constantly worried about this thing and its repercussions.
This is in relation to two girls that I know and I have reasons to believe that they might want to marry me.
I am good friends with both of them and I hang out with them occasionally. Both of them on separate occasions, have asked me to be in relationship with them. One had even texted me that we will get married if I was not married till a certain age. I didnt say anything because she was already very stressed about other stuff in her life. but on earlier occasions I have made it very clear on texts that I dont want to be in a relationship with her.
Other one is getting old, and her parents are pressuring her to get married and she keeps asking me to hang out even if I say no and tries to do all kind of girly stuff.
Sometimes, I feel really frustrated and strangled with their stupidities and want to lash out on them but always have to calm myself because I don’t want any trouble. Honestly, now it feels like I am being forced to even be friends with them.
I don’t know what to do. I know I have done nothing wrong and have always maintained my boundaries with them. It’s even more stupid because both of them were on dating apps as well when they said they wanted to marry me and stuff but could never find a decent guy on dating apps. However, I am always worried what if I start a relationship with some other girl and then they commit suic*de or hurt themselves, would i be held responsible for it?
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SBreak those friendships gradually. Start distancing yourself from them. Stop texting yourself, stop responding to them. Take days to send response. They will themselves go away. And if they don’t block them from everywhere. Live your life however you want.
About legality, The case would be registered on you only if they name you as reason either verbally or in any leftover messages/sucide note from them. Otherwise in general investigation would take place, where their phones other personal data would be looked through to find the reason of suicide. If they sent you the text messages last, you would be interrogated but nothing would happen much unless there’s proof that you talked to them from your side.
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UI want to distance myself but I cant because they have not given me any reason to actually block them or distance myself properly.
One of them would just sometimes ask me to marry her and I would decline and then it would be friendship as usual. Other one has not asked to marry me but she is looking for a guy to marry and she has been in multiple relationships with assholes in past and now wants a nice guy who won’t care about her past. She keeps on sending me reels like how guys need to know a good girl and not worry about past or how guys need to marry fast before good girls learn to go their own way. Just that, again she has not given me any reason to just distance myself from her.
Anyway, I try distancing myself, then something would happen and I would console them and its again the same cycle.
I am worried about if they do end up doing something to themselves, would i be responsible for not being sensitive enough or what if they do something to themselves simply because i said NO.
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SAs long as you have never sent anything romantic or even vague messages that can be interpreted as romantic from your side you would be fine. So if they send cryptic reels, don’t react on them. Just ignore. Also you can simply put in words like you like “xxx” girl preferably someone they don’t know previously or related to in life (say it even if you don’t actually have a crush) so these girls realise you aren’t interested in them and can move on.
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SWell, its like you are a backup plan for em ig. If they couldn’t find a decent guy from dating app they would marry you and vice versa. I don’t think its that serious for them to resort to suicide.
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CWhat you have mentioned is not abetment of suicide. For abetment of suicide there has to be a positive action from your side that instigates someone to take their own life.
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UWhat constitutes positive action from my side? would my denial to be in relationship with them can be counted as an act.
What if they do something to themselve and say I broke their heart or something.
Besides, do police even care? I am especially worried because there are so many cases on reddit where police just arrested a dude because the girl knew the boy or family complained against the guy
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CMere denial to marry cannot be taken as instigation. In abetment of suicide cases, clear mens rea has to be established showing that the accused intended that the victim take their own life. There are many judgments clarifying this.
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Besides, do police even care?Police may register a case if the victim’s family give a complaint or there’s a suicide note blaming the accused. Unfortunately, in some cases police has also made hasty arrests but this is not common. Get a good lawyer and apply for anticipatory bail if there’s a case against you.
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