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Desiarav9031.
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DDesiarav9031
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March 4, 2025 at 5:46 amHi all-I am 30M, earning 29 cash component and 10Lkh stocks each year.
My wife 28F, earns 32 lpa. We are in Mumbai.
My parents are retired while her still works.
We are separating due to lots of fight and mental torture. However I tried everything to keep the relationship healthy but she doesn’t want to stay. She is looking reason to fight and separate. Also, mentioned that she will file false accusations on me.
Marriage expenses – 24LPA
Years of marriage – 1 year ( stayed together 4 months), no childHow much alimony on approx would I need to pay?
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DDesipanda6983
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March 4, 2025 at 6:08 amIsn’t she earning more than you or you have mistaken 3.2 lpa fir 32 lpa-
DDesiarav9031
OP
March 4, 2025 at 6:11 amHer is 32.Cash component she has more but overall I earn more inclusive stocks
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DDesipanda6983
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March 4, 2025 at 6:14 amIf she’s making that much, why doesn’t she deny for alimony-
UUser_8361182f
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March 4, 2025 at 6:35 amWho paid for the wedding-
DDesiarav9031
OP
March 4, 2025 at 6:56 am70% girl side
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UUser_affcc216
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March 4, 2025 at 12:14 pmas op said the girl’s side beared 70percent of the wedding expenses.-
UUser_e3255816
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March 4, 2025 at 9:06 pmOp family also paid 30%. There is difference of only 20% for equal pay.Op should pay only 20% of that money and not insane amount of alimony or any form of maintenance
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BBrightseeker9869
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March 4, 2025 at 6:14 amLawyer here based in Delhi. It depends if you’re settling the alimony amount amicably or fighting out in the court. And that depends on who’s eager to get the divorce earlier. You could leverage some tactics to reduce the alimony amount or even leave unscathed. There’s no range here. It could be anywhere from 0 to 1 crore or even more. Matrimonial cases are all about mind games.-
DDesipanda6983
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March 4, 2025 at 6:19 amIs there no way to exclude the money he makes from stocks because it can go both ways ryt, profit or loss-
BBrightseeker9869
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March 4, 2025 at 6:22 amWhen things go out there in court. There’s a certain affidavit which is required to be filled by the parties. It has various categories in it such as list of assets, liabilities, non movable assets, loans etc. The point is not everything is counted in ‘net worth’ but nothing remains undisclosed.-
DDesiarav9031
OP
March 4, 2025 at 6:27 amThat scared me. What should I do now? Any proof I can accumulate? I thought I would not be eligible for so much alimony-
BBrightseeker9869
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March 4, 2025 at 6:34 amDo not get scared. Consult a smart lawyer, personally. You’d be able to save a good chunk of your assets.
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BBravezoya6074
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March 4, 2025 at 6:28 amThis is where the country has landed. The law now has turned to mind games.
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PProrider4116
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March 4, 2025 at 6:24 am1. There is no straight jacket formula to calculate the alimony or maintenance. Paying and receiving alimony and maintenance is the couple’s choice. It is not compulsory. To understand how does alimony/ maintenance determined, you can read through this [https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)2. When it comes to getting a divorce, talk to your wife without bringing out your emotions and ask her what does she want. If she is looking for a peaceful separation, go ahead with the Mutual Consent Divorce [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/)
3. Marriage expenses, if spent by both the parties equally, don’t bother about it. If spent by her/ her family pay at least half the amount back to her.
4. If you haven’t tried couples’ therapy, give it a shot. It may save the marriage. In the 4 months of living together you wouldn’t have had enough time to open up to each other.
5. If she insists that she doesn’t want to go for a Mutual Divorce and wants to file cases against you/ your family file a case asking her to get back to you. It is legally termed as Restitution of Conjugal Rights [https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/](https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/) By filing this case you may get little advantage over her filing false cases.
6. If you do not want to do that go for a Contested Divorce on the grounds of Cruelty and irretrievable breakdown of marriage [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
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**Disclaimer:** In the absence of all the facts of the case, the comments given may not be the best solution for your case. One on one consultation with a legal counsel/ advocate is advised to get better guidance.
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UUser_f37ccd8e
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March 4, 2025 at 7:40 amActually you might not need to give anything, both of you earn alimony the same and have barely stayed together. Just talk to her once and do not be rude, ask her nicely how she would like to go about this and how TOGTHER you can make it an easy process. You can pay a little for the wedding or jewellery and that’s it but you’ll have to play your cards right -
FFiercerajat8996
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March 4, 2025 at 7:45 amNAL, but have decent knowledge of law.Polite ask your wife to ” Go fuck herself, ek paisa nehi milega”. Court is not her ” Daddy’s place” where she will get princess treatment.
Especially in a case like this, a a half decent lawyer should be able to ensure you don’t have to pay any alimony or maintenance
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IIndianhero7294
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March 4, 2025 at 7:56 amLawyer this side i would advise you to sit across the table and discuss the amount with your wife and their lawyers to simplify the process and file a mutual consent divorce petition -
UUser_abde119a
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March 4, 2025 at 8:05 amNAL from what i can understand if the wife can financially sustain herself, that will be taken into account as alimony is usually money secured to financially support the women after divorce for her dignity. Now the amount depends on the judge you get, but if you have a good lawye,r he can cite SC and HC judgements that state that if a wife can financially support herself, the amount wont be exorbitant -
SSuperabhinav527
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March 4, 2025 at 9:32 amtry to gather evidence, have a recorder or camera- where she says she will file false case- this is what you should worry about mostmy guess is she is having a affair – do try and check- if you get such evidence – share it with your lawyer only
she will ask more then she deserves, for once swallow hard pill throw money and move on
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UUser_688d89ec
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March 4, 2025 at 9:57 amThey’ll take your salary & assets into consideration before calculating alimony. So get rid of hard assets before you get into these hassles. Do not leave job, because that doesn’t help.The Supreme Court stated that 25% of the net salary of the husband might constitute a “just and proper” amount as alimony, but she will likely start with a alimony demand in crores, but if you fight for few years, you’ll be settling at very less. Probably 15-30 Lakhs at max. A good strategy is to buy out her lawyer and pay him to drag the case for decades on end. Destroy her life in that way.
Other alternate suggestion: Speak to her nicely, do not force her to return into your life and give her an option to go away peacefully and return all her stuff rightfully, with a little more if needed. Apprise her of all the all the costs involved and her ultimate losses – and tell her fake cases work two ways and it’ll be a decades long fight with no winners.
If she still files a fake case, catch hold of a SC/ST couple, pay them 50k-1 lakh to file false POCSO, SC/ST and Rape case on her parents & relatives – She’ll retract automatically.
PS: Do not seek revenge whatsoever. Your only goal is to get rid of her in the least cost possible. You won’t earn a single rupee from her, so seeking revenge from such fools is a useless pursuit.
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UUser_63badbbf
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March 4, 2025 at 11:32 amLol i dont know why men marry in this country ab 30 percent detey rhiyo saal ka jab teri salary badhigi to aur jyda alimony dena padeyga .Ab tu shadi bhi nhi karsakta apne bache ko sambhaleyga ya alimony dega
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UUser_63badbbf
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March 4, 2025 at 11:36 amLadkhi job chhod kar 50 percenet property bhi claim karsakti hain
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BBrighthawk4837
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March 4, 2025 at 12:00 pmShe got someone else and wants to be free. It’s up to you OP how you want to play. There’s plenty of comments here. -
UUser_538a658a
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March 4, 2025 at 12:18 pmGet a good lawyer…
Need to give some money may be in the end as one time settlement. It would be pulling so long, if she’s greedy.
Mostly try to avoid giving any money as you don’t have kids.
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MMegapanther829
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March 4, 2025 at 1:06 pmA good lawyer makes all the difference. Get one. And don’t go cheap. -
UUser_a9e63639
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March 4, 2025 at 2:00 pmAs someone mentioned file for restitution of conjugal rights as a precaution if even she seem to go with mutual divorce and/or asking for huge alimony. Do try and talk to her how she wants to take this divorce (mutually) and mention that you are ready to take it forward mutually if that is what she wants. She will definitely consult her lawyer before even telling you a number on what she is expecting in terms of alimony. Keep a good lawyer and negotiate well -
UUser_0942d545
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March 4, 2025 at 3:07 pmAs you said her side beared 70% of the wedding expenses. Just pay 30 or 50% more to it. And sit and talk with her, maybe she agrees to it. -
EExpertstar7750
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March 4, 2025 at 3:12 pmThis is off topic but these posts scare me, OP can you tell how you met her so that others can avoid such situations, i know your concerns are bigger but if you can just help out whenever. -
SSuperfox8559
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March 4, 2025 at 3:26 pmAssume at least 1/3 of income/net value. -
UUser_0d1c3fe3
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March 4, 2025 at 3:40 pmAgain saying spend money on a good lawyer than alimony as she earning well a good lawyer will get the amount reduced a lot if not 0 -
UUser_87400232
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March 4, 2025 at 3:47 pmlol karma farming!!!!! Look at OP’s profile before jumping on the “women bad, women take alimony’ bandwagon-
SSuperthinker6466
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March 5, 2025 at 2:23 amAs per you, alimony doesn’t exist?
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MMegaamar9740
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March 4, 2025 at 4:18 pmHas she mentioned alimony or are you assuming? Given you both are in same earning bracket ideally the alimony shouldn’t be in the picture.However who paid for the wedding expense? If it was entirely her family then i believe you might have to pay atleast half the amount as settlement she might ask from you.
I don’t agree with you or like your thought process but i would highly recommend go for mutual if you get the option. It’s the best thing both of you can do for yourself and don’t take this as ego war.
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UUser_a7b6abbf
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March 4, 2025 at 4:28 pmZero. She is earning and more than you. There’s no monetary loss she has incurred due to this marriage. Perhaps you can claim alimony since you earn less. -
PPrimefalcon577
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March 4, 2025 at 7:51 pmU shouldn’t marry in India if u earn more than 15 lakh per year ..lol -
UUser_e3255816
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March 4, 2025 at 9:09 pmNAL India should immediately change alimony laws. Imagine paying alimony just after 4 month marriage 🥲🥲. It’s money extortionGet a good lawyer dude.
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UUser_5dd462e9
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March 5, 2025 at 2:02 amKeep herself occupied with conversations for a few days.Transfer all assets into your parents’ names. Liquidate any fixed deposits or investments and transfer everything to your parents’ account as soon as possible.
Resign from your job by doing something foolish at the office so that they terminate you. This can be used in court to demonstrate that your wife has caused you mental distress, which has led to you losing your job.
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PPrimebro2833
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March 5, 2025 at 2:56 amAsk her mutually.If she is willing to sort out in 5L/10L then go for it.
Else go for a contested fight at court. Court would not directly grant absurd alimony to someone who earns more than 24L a year
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DDesiarav9031
OP
March 5, 2025 at 2:59 amThank you all for your comments and the time you took to respond—I truly appreciate it.After going through all the feedback:
1. I feel more confident that my case is strong, but I will need to fight strategically with a good lawyer to ensure alimony remains on the lower side.
2. I’m increasingly concerned about not having any video evidence. Many have suggested gathering proof, but I don’t have any so far. Since she has been living separately for the past 6–7 months, though I can still meet her, I’m unsure how to proceed. Any suggestions on how to collect evidence or recommendations for a spy camera would be helpful.
3. Would it be wise to file for restitution of conjugal rights as a precaution before she files for divorce or any false allegations?-
PProankit8173
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March 5, 2025 at 7:49 amYou should edit your post and update this. No one goes through all the comments.
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EExperteagle1892
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March 5, 2025 at 3:54 amWhat are her demands. She upfront wants separation then mutual solution is best. Don’t get into minor fights and waste time. Courts will kill you present and future time. Even if your losing now. Better do mutual -
LLuckyharshita6737
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March 5, 2025 at 4:00 amAlimony is two way. You said your wife is earning good as well. So, she can support herself. Get it done mutually only by exchanging material stuff. -
UUser_9109321a
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March 5, 2025 at 4:06 amYour life will he’ll with fake cases and all..Not only Alimony, all the best hope you get out soon -
MMegamayank3760
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March 5, 2025 at 4:07 amBro spitting out expenses like a company salary package. -
UUser_cda55f8e
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March 5, 2025 at 4:32 amSell of whatever is in your name and give it to your parents ..and then file for divorce – with injunction -
KKhushistar405
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March 5, 2025 at 5:10 amI don’t think you should pay anything. Worst case reimburse their wedding expenses. Return their gifts and ask for your gifts back. Pls get a good lawyer -
UUser_57add52d
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March 5, 2025 at 6:28 amThe Alimony calculator is a need of the hour. Someone should make one. -
VVandanashark196
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March 5, 2025 at 7:13 amPark your funds in a trust.Ensure you don’t stay in your parental home.
Live in a small house before you initiate separation
https://www.dspim.com/investment-calculator/alimony
This may help.
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PProankit8173
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March 5, 2025 at 7:47 amDid she marry you to get alimony? 4m seems so short to call it quits.
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