Need help with a personal situation!!

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February 22, 2025 at 7:09 pm

I’ll keep it very short, I cut contact with my family two years back. They are very toxic (biological mother – narcissistic and physically/verbally abusive and drug addict biological brother) and because of that my dad committed suicide, I was very scared that I’ll end up like him and for peace of my mind, I cut contact. Biological mother has been trying to contact me thru email, saying that she’ll give a police compliant but I don’t think there’s a valid legal case for it so I ignored all that. Suddenly today, I got a call from her and she is saying the company I work for and I gave the phone to a friend, asking to deflect, biological mother said she got the number from the police but doesn’t make sense.

I’m a 28 year old male, I think I know it cannot make sense to some people as I’m an adult but I’ve been traumatized pretty bad and my panic attacks started coming back. I feel so helpless.

Can any advocate help me how to tackle this situation? I’m so scared that I’ll end up like my dad! 🙁

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February 22, 2025 at 7:22 pm

ADVOCATE HERE. Well, an adult need not necessarily be in contact with parents. However, your mother can certainly file a case for maintenance against you. You still don’t need to remain in contact for case purposes, as long as you keep paying and maintaining her. This was something ahead of you, however, to address your immediate concern: You are under no obligation today to remain in contact with her. WHAT YOU CAN DO: File an injunction suit seeking stay order against her, so that she doesn’t contact anymore. This is bound to get you results. My best wishes.

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February 22, 2025 at 7:30 pm

Thanks a lot! She is quite rich(working as a principal in a school) also gets pension for dad. Can she still file for maintenance?

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February 22, 2025 at 7:34 pm

Can she file? Yes. Whether she’ll win? No, but you will have to prove that she is in capacity to maintain herself, which requires handful number of hearings.

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March 2, 2025 at 3:07 am

Here is an update, I received another email from my biological mother mentioning that the commissioner started their work and my passport will be ceased and my name will come on the news and I’ll also be kicked out of the company. Is it even possible? Please help!!

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March 2, 2025 at 4:18 am

That’s too cryptic to be advised properly. Let me assume the worst, i.e. if she has submitted a complaint against you (can be a frivolous complaint too), then police is within authority to reach out to you. Impounding of passport is usually not done but also exceptionally done. News? No chance about it. Company kicking out? If you are in public employment, suspension may be done but not termination at this stage. Private companies usually don’t terminate unless offence is of moral turpitude. There are a lot of ifs and buts in this proposition, better would be that you engage a counsel. My best wishes.

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