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UI (M36) have been married to my wife (35 Yrs) for about 6 years now. Our marriage is tarred with my wife accusing me of infidelity without any evidence continuously right after our wedding. I have been linked by her with her sisters, friends and any female that she sees around, including females from my family (my friend’s wives for instance). And the linking is done from the motive of degrading my character, and not something that girls do in a playful way. For the first year, it was more passive aggression, but over the last 4-5 years, it has turned into proper angry behavior. She has abused me physically, slapped me multiple times and has abused my family as well. Reason she gives for this is that my family status is not as per her standards (she apparently comes from a richer family). Every logic that I try to give her to calm the situation is met with illogical arguments. She has been unemployed for over 3 years and practically does not have any social circle. Any attempt made by me to bring my friends or family over for some change is met with resistance from her side. She got fired from all of her previous jobs (9-10in total) due to behavioral issues. Given her behavior, I have tried multiple times to get her some medical help. She does go to the doctor once but then refuses to take any medicines properly. With zero acknowledgement of anything being wrong with her, her parents also encourage her to not take any psychiatric or psychological help and instead blame me for her situation. She has been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and bipolar disorder by a psychiatrist that I took her to, but both she and her immediate family refuse to acknowledge the diagnosis and instead take her to some aura healers (or whatever you call them), which is bizarre. We don’t have a kid, and given the abuses on a daily basis, I do not know how to continue with her in this situation.
One more thing, even after being slapped and being hit from her side time and again, I still feel sometime that I still care for her, ensuring she is taken care well when she’s home. She generally goes to her father’s place for days without any info on when she’ll be back. I have raised all the concerns with her parents too but they blame me instead and accuse me of jail time if I think about separating. I feel trapped in this emotional and physically abusive situation. Being a man, the society tells you to man up and live through whatever life throws at you. But 5-6 years of abuse… I feel like I haven’t been truly happy ever since I got married. I have stopped talking to a lot of my own friends since my wife tries to link me up with their wives, and the circle continues.
What should I do ?
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