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UHi everyone,
I’m looking for legal advice regarding my current marital situation, which has become increasingly distressing and complicated. Here’s a brief overview of the situation:
1. I got married to my wife in May 2024. It was an arranged marriage, and I’ve always approached the relationship with openness and respect. However, issues began surfacing a few months into the marriage. She was a house wife and use to spend her time doing house hold regular chores and with her phone. Since the beginning of our marriage her mother and sister used to constantly interfere in our marital affairs. There was never a day when she did not seek opinion from her mother and sister even for the basic things. Whenever I use to visits her home, her mother used to start a quarrel with me abusing me, my mother and family. It was very disrespectful although I used to remain calm as much as possible. She continued to display hostility toward me and my family especially my mother since the beginning of our marriage.
Since she was a house wife, to support her so that she also feels financially independent I used to give her 10k for any expenses that she may want to do, no questions asked. All these transfers were online.
2. My wife was in contact with a former acquaintance (who had previously proposed to her) and was sharing personal and marital details with him. Despite repeated attempts to address this maturely and resolve our differences I confronted her in a private setting and she instead of accepting the mistake started to abuse me for checking her phone and was not at all guilty for doing such a thing. She even slapped me during this conversation. When my family brought this issue with her mother she was aslso d ant that her daughter hasn’t done anything and it’s quite normal thing. I don’t know how normal is it for a person to share their personal marital affair to someone outside your marriage especially to the person who have proposed you in past for marriage. I have screenshots of all chats.
3. The situation escalated when, during an argument in October 2024, she left my residence with her mother and two men who entered my home without my consent making a huge drama in my society. Since then, she has not returned or made any effort to reconcile.
4. I have already submitted a formal complaint to the local police station documenting the incidents and have tried discussing a mutual divorce with her and her family, but they are not agreeable to this route.
I am now seeking advice on:
– How to legally protect myself and my family from any false allegations or retaliatory actions that may arise.
– The best steps to pursue divorce with minimal complications.
– Whether mutual divorce remains a viable option, or if I should proceed with filing for divorce on grounds of cruelty or desertion.
– Any other legal remedies or precautions I should consider given the circumstances.
I’ve tried my best to remain respectful and accommodating throughout, but the hostility and unwillingness to resolve matters have made it clear that continuing this marriage is no longer an option. Any guidance on how to proceed legally and practically in this situation would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance for your help.
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UNAL
If things are good enough to talk about, please get an affidavit signed by her and her family regarding no dowry and domestic violence.
If they are not signing it I don’t think anyone can save you legally from false cases.
Don’t panic, but try to get the declaration signed and notarized as soon as possible.
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SA lawyer
Unfortunately there is no option or legal proceedings where you can safeguard yourself and your parents. What you can do is send her a legal notice communicating your decision for amicable divorce and documents everything happened till now. Keep the chats backup and whatever you have. Emails and bank statements and everything.
Consult a good lawyer please. Rest he/she will advise you.
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SThis is also another reason to not marry someone who doesn’t work. No work breeds such situations.
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UHow did you marry her? I mean how did you meet? Were there senior people from your society/community involved, had there been any relative involved.
I have seen 2 divorces in relatives but both were resolved by community where people separated on condition of earliest divorce and no money exchange was involved. The jewellery of men’s side remained with them, girl took her side of jewellery and gifts.
But that’s when people really want peace and community is involved to pressurise the wrong side to resolve amicably. All the best! -
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