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UI know how this could be a politically charged topic and might trigger personal emotions for a lot of people, including religious bias. But please, I request you to be a bit considerate and not leave insensitive comments.
The title of this post is the main issue I need help with, but there is more to it. I have an extremely physically and verbally abusive mother, to the point she has become a threat to my life; she has strangled me to the point of near passing out, two times now, and she later admitted that she genuinely wanted to take me out. Saying things like “I wanted to kill you, but I thought you’re my daughter” or “If I killed you, then my life wouldn’t be so miserable”.
Now, if you’re thinking that it’s understandable because I changed my religion, then no, she was always like this. Now, people around me are also realising her psychopathic tendencies and my cousin, especially, is recalling past similar memories, so there are patterns even before I decided to change my faith.
Coming to the main part, after I converted, there was this muslim guy in my college whom I started liking a lot. I liked this guy because he helped me regain my self-worth when my mother completely shattered it. The reason I’m mentioning this is that this guy is basically my saviour. When I was suffocating, he helped me breathe; he’s my escape from reality.
We both liked each other, and since we were both muslims and did not want to fall into haram, we contracted a nikah. Now it’s not a secret, his parents know and accept me, I speak to his family often, and our friends, including my non-Muslim friends and some of our teachers, are aware of this nikah.
I spoke to an advocate about legalising my marriage, and he told me that even though I’m 20, since I’m primarily dependent on my parents, the judges might call my parents, and that’s the last thing I wanted.
Although recently I’ve blurted out my marriage to my mother, she has not taken it seriously and has kept up her abuse with a higher dosage.
I genuinely want to leave this house, and my end goal would be moving in with my husband, but even if that isn’t totally possible at this moment, I am open to alternatives as long as I can get out of this house without being harassed back in.
For context, I’ve tried to leave before and just move in with my husband because people move in with their boyfriends all the time, right? But that resulted in endless harassment from my parents directed towards my husband and his family, as well as me. My parents psychotically tracked me down even though they had no idea about his address. Publicly humiliated me and dragged me back.
I am just afraid that, hopefully, at some point, my life would not become the final scene from the movie Dhadak.
Any kind of legal advice to tame my family and help me escape would be really great for me.
EDIT: How come you don’t see the threat that is posed in my life? Saying stuff like you need to get a job first, when I already have a support through which I could leave immediately, what’s the point of getting a job if I just get killed?
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