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PSo, this 23M guy from Tollygunge, Kolkata hit me up on reddit..shifted to instagram…talked on calls since 31st of January 2025…he said he would like to meet up..so he came from another state to meet that’s what he said..it was a public place..I said fine it was safe for me..I know probably I’m the stupid one in this but well..the adult should know better…What happens is on the day we were about to meet.. this guy vanished…Nothing…isn’t answering calls his phone is switched off…no texts are seen but are delivered…I tried texting his so called bestfriend and then he blocked me…I called the hotels where he told he stayed but they told me they have no info on him…talked really sexually on text and was almost showing himself to be filthy rich…which just gave me the ick..I know I probably dodged a bullet but I need guys like this to be taught some lesson…I have his passport and photos and all the texts and voice messages…Well since I’m a minor parents shouldn’t really know about this..they aren’t the non conservative types…Please be kind and give your opinion
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B“I know what is happening is wrong but I’d rather not take steps to ensure my safety and blame it on a possible predator”.
That’s how it sounds like.
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Pwell the blame IS on the predator cuz who on earth as a 23 year old would approach a teen that too in an intention to just play with her…the teen is a victim of brainwashing and manipulation by the adult…she didn’t realise it at that time..we tried warning her and that’s the reason we were around the place they were supposed to meet so that if something feels off we’re there for her
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B1. Who on earth – all of the child molesters will? And what else will be their intention, date her and groom her?
2. Your post, if taken verbatim, mentions that she understood that this was a trap, and then mentions that she wouldn’t take the responsibility of staying away or breaking contact with the guy BUT continued despite that.Glad that your friend came out of this unscathed. It could have gone wrong in a million other ways.
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SSo your friend wants to teach this guy a lesson because she is angry at him but more at herself. You can spread his personal info in different public groups with evidences calling him out as pedo and make public aware which may or may not be traced back to you(depends on who is looking). Ask for legal advice, I hope she haven’t send her compromising pictures to him
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**1. The Situation-**
It’s clear that what your friend experienced is extremely unsettling and dangerous. A 23-year-old approaching a 17-year-old with sexually charged conversations and manipulative behavior is **predatory** behavior. The fact that he vanished right before meeting up and then blocked you shows **manipulation and deceit** on his part.**Things you must understand-**
**a) Age Difference:** In many countries, including India, a **17-year-old** is still considered a **minor**, which means they are legally unable to consent to certain actions with an adult. The behavior of this 23-year-old is **highly inappropriate** and crosses legal boundaries.
**b) Manipulation Tactics:** The way he communicated with your friend, making her feel comfortable and promising things like showing off wealth, is classic **grooming behavior**. He’s using his age and possibly his maturity to manipulate her.
**c) Red Flags:** His vanishing act, lack of accountability, and the fact that he blocked you after you reached out are clear indicators of someone trying to avoid responsibility. This is typical of people who **have no intention of acting honestly or with integrity**.**2. What You Should Do Next-**
Given the **seriousness** of the situation, here’s what can be done:
**Things you must understand-**
**a) Legal Action:** If you have **his passport details, photos, texts, and voice messages**, this is **evidence** of his interaction with your friend. Even though your friend is a minor, they have **legal rights**, and this situation falls under **sexual harassment** and **online exploitation**.
**b) Reporting to Authorities:** **Don’t keep this to yourself**. You can report this incident to the **Cyber Crime Cell** or the **local police** in your area. Sharing the evidence with the authorities can help them track down this individual and take action against him.
**c) Protecting Your Friend:** While it’s understandable your friend is hesitant to involve her parents due to their conservative views, involving **law enforcement** is crucial for both **her safety** and **her future**. At the very least, a **trusted adult**, like a teacher or counselor, should be informed to ensure your friend gets the support they need.**3. Consequences for the 23-Year-Old-**
This individual’s actions could be classified as **cyber harassment**, **sexual harassment**, and possibly **stalking** if his behavior becomes more persistent. If the authorities catch up with him, the following consequences are possible:**Things you must understand-**
**a) Criminal Charges:** Depending on the **severity of the harassment** and **the laws in your country**, he could face **serious legal consequences**, including jail time for exploiting or attempting to exploit a minor.
**b) Future Repercussions:** His actions could also harm his **reputation** and prevent him from gaining a trustworthy job or being in professional circles.
**c) Accountability:** While you might feel the urge for him to be “taught a lesson,” the best way to deal with **predators** is by reporting them to authorities and **allowing the law to handle the punishment**.**4. I advice to-**
– **Support your friend:** Your friend may feel confused, embarrassed, or unsure about what to do next. Continue being supportive, but also encourage them to get **professional help** (e.g., a counselor) to deal with the emotional side of what happened.
– **Online Safety:** This situation is a reminder to always be careful about who you trust online. **Teach your friend** about **online safety**, how to identify red flags in digital conversations, and how to protect personal information.
– **Moving Forward:** If your friend is feeling overwhelmed or unsure, let them know **they’re not alone**. There are people, including trusted adults and law enforcement, who will be able to support them.**I recommend to-**
1. **Report to the Authorities:** Immediately report the incident to **local police** or the **Cyber Crime Cell** with the evidence you’ve gathered.
2. **Encourage Your Friend to Seek Support:** Let your friend know that involving a trusted adult, even if it’s someone other than their parents, is the right step to ensure their safety.
3. **Protect Your Friend Online:** Educate your friend on online safety and encourage them to **block and report** any further communication from this person.
4. **Document Everything:** Keep all the evidence safe. If you need to provide it to the authorities, make sure it’s well-organized and preserved.
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