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UUser_1db6d415
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January 23, 2025 at 4:52 pmI am 24M in a toxic relationship we were in love for about 3 years but in june 2023 I found out that she 23F cheated on me with her colleague I am trying to get out of this relationship for past 2 years but i couldn’t she threatens if I break this she would call her relatives and come to my home and make a mess which i cannot take she takes that as an advantage now am really stressed now she forces me to marry her before march 2025 saying we were close and we had sex before(yes we had before june 2023) there is no option for me to say no kindly give me an advice to get out of this relationship before my life gets ruined but I cannot handle if she comes to my home to threaten
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UUser_270af189
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January 23, 2025 at 5:00 pmdaaamn , let her call the so called relative , write a formal complaint with all the proof of cheating to ur police station also stating that if anything happens to you or your family she will be responsible for everything as she’s mentally harassing you , Im not a lawyer soo this is the only logical thing that came to my mind.-
UUser_3608881d
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January 24, 2025 at 5:17 pmbest advice
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KKamalstar291
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January 23, 2025 at 5:10 pmWhatever you do, don’t marry her. You are not just putting yourself in danger you’ll hurt your family by bringing this person into your life.It’s a tough spot, but stay strong and reject her. You are very young and you have a whole life to look forward to.
If she’s threatening you even before marriage then think about what will happen after marriage. She can file 100s of cases post marriage.
Tell your family about this situation and end things with her.
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UUser_60912f70
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January 23, 2025 at 10:05 pmThis advice is like a perfect kadak chai on a winter morning; sane, balanced and wonderful. -
YYogeshshark691
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January 24, 2025 at 5:14 amListen to this
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UUser_c43e3f0e
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January 23, 2025 at 5:19 pmPerfect example of fuck around and find out ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ -
UUrbanknight9782
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January 23, 2025 at 5:29 pmChange your sim card. Block her number from your relatives’ phones.Even if she calls, tell them she’s a scammer.
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UUser_514706e8
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January 23, 2025 at 5:37 pmDon’t marry and change your address move towns go below the tracking -
UUser_7e59f6d6
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January 23, 2025 at 5:42 pmIf I were at your place, I would do something that would make her think I am not perfect fit and she would break up. Act crazy,do something stupid that would make her hate you. Then you should opt for legal advice if your plan doesnโt work.Good luck.-
UUser_1db6d415
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January 23, 2025 at 5:44 pmYes, i did the same. Now, i came for advice as that didn’t work-
UUser_0752e4c3
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January 23, 2025 at 6:59 pmTell her u have crazy unpaid loans n ur dad has unpaid loan n u need money urgently… N ur stressed too -
FFierceagastya4323
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January 24, 2025 at 2:47 ambhai , dekh k aa alimony kitna hota hai and divorce k case kitna time chalta hai. wo banda mata tha uski wife ko kuch naa hua. soch le. -
JJignesheagle772
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January 24, 2025 at 4:08 amKeep pestering her for money . She will leave ya
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VVansheagle85
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January 23, 2025 at 5:45 pmLag gaye bro. -
UUser_d9fe93cc
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January 23, 2025 at 6:14 pmFrom whatever I’ve known till now, don’t marry at all. That will be the end. Whatever she says now, law dynamic change unbelievably after marriage even if you’re married for even one day, so you won’t be able to come out of the situation and things will only escalate because just see, if she’s threatening you now, what all can she do after marriage. Best thought that comes to mind is to connect with a good lawyer after proper research, discuss the possibilities for you, evidences you can collect etc. to be safer once she decide to trouble you legally. -
UUser_7e8ca7f1
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January 23, 2025 at 6:30 pmNAL if she has cheated once, she’ll cheat again.. Hire an actor who’ll sort of make her interested in him and breakup with you. This might be a way to solve this problem.Note: just a random idea bro, take steps carefully
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UUser_ef707731
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January 23, 2025 at 9:12 pmBro watched too many movies
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UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 23, 2025 at 6:38 pmFile a police complaint and get restraining orders against her. Then she can’t even come near you, let alone barge into your home with her relatives -
UUser_ce2f56c7
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January 23, 2025 at 6:40 pmFind that colleague of hers and bribe him to cheat on you again. -
UUser_71e0fba9
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January 23, 2025 at 6:47 pmit’ll only get worse after you marry -
UUser_0752e4c3
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January 23, 2025 at 6:58 pmJust tell no that’s it n tell her relatives n ur relatives she cheated on u so it’s big no
That’s it grow some balls -
UUser_c2a6121f
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January 23, 2025 at 7:21 pmItโs important to prioritize your safety and well-being. Start by firmly deciding to end this relationship, as staying in it will only cause you more harm. Document any threats or manipulative behavior from her as evidence, in case you need legal support. Confide in trusted family members or friends and let them know whatโs happening so they can support you if she tries to create a scene. Consider consulting a lawyer or legal advisor to understand your rights and how to handle any false accusations or threats. If needed, seek help from local authorities or organizations specializing in domestic abuse or harassment. Stay calm and firm in your decision, and donโt let fear of her actions control your life. You deserve peace and happiness, and taking these steps will help you move forward. -
PPramodhawk102
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January 23, 2025 at 7:29 pmNAL – You need to take a firm stand. Start ignoring her, make excuses of work. Keep reminding her of her cheating you and how it has broken the trust of this relationship. If she wants to tell the relative let her. If she is that shameless to let them know of her sex life and that bring the dole reason for marriage. Then you have every right to discuss adultery with them.
What is her reaction when you confront her of the cheating? Or you didn’t? -
UUser_9a843357
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January 23, 2025 at 7:42 pmNALTake all this proof that you but make sure you have no where promised to marry her, or else she can file rape on marriage promise case. But it is difficult for you to prove that you didn’t promise than that for her to prove. I’d suggest you be a good man for a few weeks before you change yourself and force her to break up with you. Try to make her confess that you have consensual sex and that she was not forced to do it (you didn’t promise marriage in exchange of sex). Making her emotional shall be the trick to let her spill out while you record. Ik this sounds bullshit on a legal advice subreddit, but this is the best option you have got.
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UUser_3e71f190
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January 23, 2025 at 9:11 pmTell her that ur dick doesn’t get up for her anymore -
UUser_36a3d9b9
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January 23, 2025 at 10:07 pmAssuming the above to be true – I’d suggest to have “friendly” conversations with her to record either phone call or WhatsApp to show that all her intimate activities with you were with “consent” (hoping it was) and that you “never promised to marry” (assuming you didn’t). **Dealing with relatives is not what you should be worried about, but should be investing your efforts/time into preparing your defence against possible legal repercussions that she might cause for you.** -
UUser_2f81d5d6
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January 23, 2025 at 10:39 pmBhai uske saamne sab ajeeb harkatein karna shuru kardey, uskey saath jab bhi jaa apney izzat ko ghar mai chordh ke aa, jo ajeeb harkat kar sakta hai kar public mai…ye bhi kaam nahi aaya toh bas always refer to IIT baba, bol yehi banna hai bas life mai….step by step creepiness ka level badha tey jaa, there will be a breaking point for her to put it up -
UUser_666da7c9
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January 24, 2025 at 1:06 amMajedar. Just leave her man. Deal with the randirona later.This will fuck your life up. But you don’t seem motivated enough.
Just because she will come over and do drama you can’t marry her, that’s the dumbest shit I’ve heard.
Let her come, tu hi de diyo usko gaaliya.
Write a complaint about being criminally threaten by her, and send it to her parents/brother/bestfriends and your local police station and take a receiving copy from the cops.
Then block her everywhere.Save your ass buddy and leave her. This shit show will be the rest of your life if you don’t get your shit together and do something about it.
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UUser_2172e2f2
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January 24, 2025 at 1:12 amDo not marry her at any cost It’s much better to go to jail most probably you won’t as you bhot had a long term relationship -
EExpertsaloni4292
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January 24, 2025 at 2:31 am24M so you are probably already working. Get out of town and say you are going to Bengaluru if you have a job in Chennai. Change everything after that. Emails/phone/Banks etc.It will need confessing to your parents for this to work. Your parents have to play along for telling her+her relatives “if it comes to that” that you are in Chennai.
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FFierceagastya4323
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January 24, 2025 at 2:46 amppl have broken up after having sex and getting a girl aborted. u grow some balls. distance yourself. tell you want to focus on career. don’t engage with her. -
FFierceagastya4323
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January 24, 2025 at 2:48 amfooling take proof of her affair with colleagues u win there and then. -
UUser_c89ad3c7
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January 24, 2025 at 9:51 amIf she really is a cukuku, she can file a complaint alleging you had sex with her under the guise of marrying her. -
UUser_50a9d8ab
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January 24, 2025 at 10:01 amYou have to tell this to her to her face. She’s the one who cheated. Let her threaten you and let her come to your house or doing anything she wants to. You have not done anything wrong here and you shouldn’t be scared even if your parents get involved. If you marry her, this threatening will follow you all your life. Because she will think it’s her way of getting anything done. You have a very concrete reason to break up, so don’t be scared. -
UUser_371dc49b
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January 24, 2025 at 10:41 amBreak ups are easy. -
UUser_cb7afc54
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January 24, 2025 at 4:49 pmSome dirt is hard to remove but it’s good to stay clean .. Start choosing yourself and stay safe๐ซง -
UUser_1fe0bf8e
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January 25, 2025 at 6:14 amYou can also cheat then -
UUser_638026b3
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January 25, 2025 at 5:10 pmDON’T MARRY HER!!! You should talk to your parents and then file a case against her. -
UUser_7d6a2abe
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January 30, 2025 at 4:11 pmMan just stand your ground and be strong about it. It seems like you are too guilt ridden and ashamed to think that you can’t get out of it. Realize that all you have to do is stand strong, and face whatever shit she may throw at you. Also, I hope you are legally prepared to face any false allegations (abuse etc.) that she might use against you. Gather proof, stand strong and move on man. All it takes is that you have to say NO and stay away from it.
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