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ALink to the og post – [link](https://www.reddit.com/r/LegalAdviceIndia/comments/1hnz6bc/parents_hacked_my_phone_and_read_all_chats_with/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) . As situation were heating up in my family i decided to leave the house but with in that week dad got sick and got hospitalised cuz he is going through heart problem from last 4 years ! Doctors told to do operation but its very risky so dad is avoiding that and telling that i have completed my life and i can die ! Kya fayda aisa duniya mai rahneka jah mera beta (me) usko parwa nhi aur dusri samaj mai shadi kar rha ! Current situation in my house is cousins have stopped coming and they have stopped talking to me even my both sisters are not talking to me !
The biggest blunder and problem now is that my 27 years old sister who is married since last 4 years in our samaj she doesnt have kid yet her MIL ANd FIL are saying agar apka beta (me) aisa karega toh hum apki bete (my 27 years old sister) ko nikal dege WTFFFFFF I was in trauma when i heard this even my jiju is saying same WTFFF i literally cried last week when i heard this ! i was like whats the point of this jiju if he cant even stand for u but jiju is like i cant go against samaj ! hamari family pr dhabba (insult) padega !! now this came out of nowhere idk still i told them aisa samaj mai rahenka fayda hi nhi jah aise faltu rules and all this is happening ! Me and my Gf are strong together her family is caring and we have decided to marry asap within next 3-4 months ! She had her family business and We both starting a pharma distributorship business.. her dad will be funding and i told them to trust me even i came from family business. Last 45 days are literally toughest and ik upcoming days will me more tougher when my family will get to know about my marriage but i have no option i had to be strong ! And continuous abusing and death threats have been given to me by my cousins so I had to go to police and file something against them for the safety of mine and my GF ! What should I file against my family ? like what’s the procedure
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Udidi ke L lag rhe hai wo chalega….. shabash even idgaf about samaj but bhai didi ki life se masti nai jeevan bhar regret rahega
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QBhai agar didi aur jiju ke beech is wajah se esa ho rha to it’s better leave that cunt family, future me fir dekh kese unlgi aur oppression ho skta, itta toxic behaviour
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Ugrow up idiot…….tere dimag mai aya to jija ko chod do.
fir didi iski bakchodi ke kiye apne bache ke sarr sey baap ka saya utha de
didi single women ke tarah reh tune kabhi single women ke life dekhi hai kaise hoti…..merko to lagta hai married women ke life ka bhi terko idea nai single women to chhod hi do.
court ke har mahiney chakar lagye 10 15 hazar alimony ke liye.
single women ko society jis tarah sey dekhti hai chalega terko teri behen ke sath aisa ho
aur phir jab didi ke sath aisa hoga kya guarantee hai uss ladki ka baap op se shadi karwa dega.
grow up 2 kitab padh lene sey duniya ka gyan nai ata School cllg se bahar nikloge jindagi ka swad milega tab aise bakwas opinion paal lena
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AAre bhai pr mere kya galti isme ? Yehi galti hai ke maine pyar kiya bas alag caste se ! I have been with her since 7 years she is loyal , caring and what not ! I can’t leave such life partner bhai
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AAgree with u ! But the toxicity, no understanding, muje jah pdhai karni thi jaisa karna tha waise kabhi karne nhi diya ! But when now i want to do everything on my own they are giving me death threats , abusing etv
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UArey kisse baat kar rahe tum? Your sister is not supporting you and your so called brother-in-law putting his unrelated nose in between your affairs. Why? Because they think they can control you and your actions. Aagey jakar bhi tumhe hi threat de dekar tumhari life ko narak kr dengey.
It is your life to live and grow and not theirs. So, seriously do not give a single fuck to what others are saying. Think, relax, act.
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UDon’t take this in a negative way, but I am just curious about one thing: how can 6 years of a relationship with a girl (unknown for 19 years) be stronger than the bond with your parents which is for 25 years and till they depart?
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Uwhen his dad blackmailed him by saying ” have completed my life and i can die ! Kya fayda aisa duniya mai rahneka jah mera beta (me) usko parwa nhi aur dusri samaj mai shadi kar rha ”
that’s the clue.
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EI am a marwadi too but never faced this issue, it seems family specific. Infact my cousins are happily Married to Punjabi, bihari etc
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Uliberal family kudos to them!
I have seen all my gujju/marwari friends getting married only in their samaj, they have their share of affairs but break up citing “Mahro samaj accept natthi kari” ( IDK that language to speak but can understand)
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UNALA. Apologies for the rant but your case hits home because I empathise with your situation.
Holy fuck!!!
Your posts have been utterly eye opening on how rigid some of our Indian society is and the unwillingness to change and adapt based on our choices and needs.Sure, arrange marriage and choice on partner is okay if all parties are willing. But why force the horse to drink if it’s not thirsty?
This won’t be healthy for everyone involved, you may resent your parents and family. Even hate the poor girl, if it goes in the way of your family. Bring children in to this world that may not be able to give all your heart for. Then, there’s the case of infidelity, as it’s been multiplying exponentially in the last decade, because of the injustice forced by our own families. -
EIt is a cultures responsibility and duty to take care of the elders.
You will be an elder one day.
This disown, suicide and things are all drama. You are better educated probably has already seen more of the world then them. You can not have the same reaction like theirs.I was in your situation and I could have done any number of things but didn’t and the situation keeps running in my mind everyday. It has run on repeat for the last 16 years and probably will run this whole lifetime. So be careful because you are still young and things have a funny way of coming back.
Jindagi balidan maangti hai chote. Balidan kabhi temporary kabhi permanent hota hai.
I’m also not asking you to hurt the girl and her family.
Dhaga bandh lo haath me ki shaadi nahi karenge bolke aur karenge to isise karenge.
Remember kabhi jaan dene ki baat mar karna unke saamne.
Parents are different beings they will never allow you to be alone. You know even your wife won’t be able to love you as much as they do. Even in her 7 life times(You can take this in writing from me).
Bagawat karne se mana nahi kar raha hoon lekin bagawat me aassu aur khoon ka behna jaroori nahi hai.
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UFuck off with that “Parents will love you more than anyone does” bullshit. If that love leads you to be depressed and suicidal then that’s not love, that’s possessiveness.
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EThe Internet has created a generation of people which doesn’t care about how they talk because of the lack of consequences for it.
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UAbe chal na, he is right. What sort of parent threatens to disown their kid because samaj me naam khraab hoga
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EYour thought is still unidirectional for now. Not saying it twill not change with time and a few grey hairs. For “MOST” Parents the single largest worry is their kids happiness. The parents don’t know the culture and frankly the girl “For Now”. For them this is an attack to their lifestyle and culture and will take their kids away from them. So their first reaction is to defend and hence all this manipulation of disowning and the rest. I’m asking him to diffuse the situation first.
You have not learned to detach and think to be able to give proper advice to anyone. You have become the part of the problem thinking the parents are really going to do it. How many parents do you know or have even heard that have disowned their kids who have lived with them for 24 years.
I’ve gone though this personally and I pray that you do not. Things went quite bad because of my “Knee jerk reaction” before my fathers friend explained it to me what I’ve exactly told you now. We are all young once. Took me 6 years of threats/fighting/manipulation before they agreed. They are all bumchums now. Yash Chopra Happy ending if you will.
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ABhai yrr humanity hi dead hai aisa samaj mai all they care is about their status , 4 log kya bolege
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UI have same situation just like you OP I am a Rajput (Kirar) and I love a marathi girl the problem is that girl belong to shedule cast given that her family is well settled but still my parents refuses to accept her as my spouse I am fighting till now but Indian parents being Indian parents” Agar isse shadi hui toh hamara mara hua muh dekhle ” I am pissed with this family rn. More power to you OP with time people will change so do your family stay strong buddy.
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