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UWhile I’m writing this I feel so horrible as I couldn’t do anything about it . I was on a call with my gf and she was on her way to her home when a random guy on bike said iloveyou looking at her . She immediately screamed ‘chutiye’ to him . And then he came back and said kya bola and the guy literally had guts to say ‘terko thappad mar dunga’ . All this happening while I was on the call and I felt so helpless . She said she have seen that guy often around the area near her house .I feel like beating the shit out of that guy but I have no idea what to do . Its not like I’m scared but I belong to a very simple family with no such political connections or anything . And i live in South Delhi and she lives near shahadara. What shouldi do!???!
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UExactly ! If the punk continues, just involve your families. Try and Record him, file a complaint. And don’t try be a hero.
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UI feel bad that some random guy had the guts to say all this to my gf . Had i been there, I would’ve beaten the shit out of him .
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UYea, that is what I’m asking if that is what I should do or something else that is a righteous thing to do .
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UI don’t think the police will take any serious action on this . Plus my girlfriend and I are both students abhi and we probably won’t want our parents to get involved .
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UHe is harassing your gf. I am not very knowledgeable on this but aren’t there dedicated departments for women safety? Women helpline? Why don’t you try it?
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SShe’s not your wife. You were not present at the scene. If you get involved, it could possibly result in the other party trying to smear the girl’s character claiming she has a boyfriend, hence she must necessarily be of a questionable character. As her boyfriend, you do not have much locus standi.
Moreover, if something were to happen to you, the girl and the guy on the bike will move on but you and your family will have to deal with the long term consequences.
I understand your frustration as a man, but sometimes we need to pick our battles. To be better prepared for a future eventuality where someone actually did this to your real family, hit the gym, become physically strong, train MMA, try to cultivate a large friend circle, and above all, become financially secure so you can drag people to court for clear violations of the law.
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UThanks man. But I’m actually scared because she told me she has seen that guy around her area a number of times . What if something like this happens again i cannot simply just wait for myself to be financially secure . I’m physically well built but honestly even i won’t want myself indulged in some criminal shit .
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STagging on social media does not do shit unless you have significant reach.
People need to stop recommending that as a viable solution, it’s not.
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QHave many times have you tried. Don’t give unsolicited advice unless asked for. I have tried it many times , and it works every damn time. Why do you think tagging a commissioner of police , chief minister will not work. We are trying to help a fellow citizen and you are trying to derail. Grow up Idiot!
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S>unsolicited advice unless asked for
Go make your own reddit if you have a problem with unsolicited advice, otherwise deal with it.
For one such successful example there are thousands which did not get any response. Yeah, I’m sure I’m the idiot when your best idea to tackle sexual harassment is tag someone on Twitter 👏🏻
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UYou said your were both students. Believe me when I say, Its not your fight. Tell her to inform her parents and let them handle this.
Going and beating him cannot end good for anyone. So, let the family and Police handle this.
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UI told her to inform her parents . She said her mom will just tell her to come home early and ignore such people :/ .
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UIdeally toh usko azaadi honi chahiye k jab marzi jaae jahan jaae but being a fellow woman practically her mom’s advice is solid. I know sun ne me acha nai lagta but jo iss desh k haal hain usme kya kar sakte hain.
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UTo all the comments saying let her handle her fight? I would like to say i feel ashamed, imagine your sister or wife being called out like this and you said this! Imagine how lonely and helpless she would feel and would just let it go, we cant let this happen if we dont raise a voice for her and women like her, no one will!
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UDon’t get physical with him, and do not reveal that you are a boyfriend either- all that does in a country like India is malign the victim’s character. The best course of action here would be for your girlfriend to record this person following her, and take it to a women’s cell of the police. If her college has a women’s safety organization, ask her to approach them for help as the safety of students is ultimately paramount. When she goes to the police station, she should go with a group, if a prof can be convinced to come along, that’s ideal. Last measure is to move out of the area, preferably move into a hostel.
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UTry to not escalate, he seems like a local goon, could make matters much worse for her. If there’s another incident, the best course of action would be to inform her parents and let them go to the police to file an FIR. Tell her to keep her phone handy in case he does something again, she can record it, and ask her to take down the bike number.
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UOnce i was crossing the road to catch my auto. 3 guys while crossing the road just said i love you and left.
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UI’m sorry that happened to you . I too have got my girlfriend a pepper spray and would suggest the same to you .
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EIf that’s a place she frequents then a very easy way to improve is to connect with nearby shopkeepers and tapris. Those guys would ensure such miscreants don’t cause nuisance around their place of business.
If you report it to PCR, they’d do a couple of rounds for a few days, but ultimately can’t be everywhere all the time.
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