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UI need some advice regarding a difficult situation involving my parents (both 53 years old) and their house help (19 years old).
Recently, she stole ₹6,000 from my parents’ home. The concerning part is that my parents had already given her ₹30,000 in the past out of sympathy when her family needed financial help. She had promised to return that amount, but now, with the theft, she effectively owes them ₹36,000.
We have a security camera in the living room that show her and her sister entering my parents’ bedroom while they were out, where they had no reason to be. The next day, the money was gone, and no one else (other than my parents) had entered the room.
We were planning to file a police complaint, but our neighbor informed us that this girl and her family have a history of falsely accusing people of sexual misconduct when confronted about theft. Apparently, they took money from another household in the past and, when asked to return it, they accused the owner of sexual harassment.
Given how the legal system in India often works, I’m extremely conflicted. If we file a complaint, the police will question her, and she may retaliate by making a false accusation against my father. On the other hand, if we don’t take action and simply ban her from our home and warn others, she might still create a false allegation out of spite.
At this point, we don’t even care about getting the money back. We just want to prevent her from doing this again without putting my parents at risk.
One thing I’m considering is whether there’s a way to formally document the theft without involving the police, so there’s a record of why my parents dismissed her. This way, if she retaliates, we have proof that she was fired for stealing and any accusations she makes afterward can be seen as an act of revenge. Is there a way to do this legally or officially without escalating the situation too much?
What are our options here? How do we proceed while protecting ourselves from a potential false accusation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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NBe more vigilant. Forget about the 6k. Tell her that she needs to pay back the 30k or you will stop paying her from next month to recover the money.. Watch her vanish from your life.. Get a new maid and put locks on your almari at all times.
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It is best to let this go and move on.
Pursuing an FIR against the girl could backfire, as she might counter with serious accusations, such as claiming that you placed hidden cameras where she changed or even making false allegations against your family.Given that your evidence is not concrete (only indicating that she entered but not proving what happened inside) she could easily twist the situation against you. Even if you had stronger proof, she might argue that you secretly recorded her, putting you in a difficult position.
Instead of dragging your aging parents through the stress of police stations, courts, and legal battles, it is wiser to cut your losses and focus on moving forward.
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UThanks for your advice!
She does not live at my parent’s home. She comes for work in the morning and leaves in the afternoon. The camera is only in the living room and for security purpose. I am reading online about NCR which is different from FIR in a way that it formally records the complaint but no action is initiated. What do you think of filing NCR?
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PStop her from work. Don’t have to give any reason. She may harm your parents, because she came inside the house with her sister. She can bring in more people to do something bad.
You can complain to the police only if there is a direct evidence where the money is seen in her hand in the footage.
Even if you complain, she will deny or she’ll put some atrocities case on your parents. Worst she may do self harm and blame your parents to be the reason. Giving a police complaint could turn ugly.
Your parents can ask her to pay back the money in small instalments, which she will not pay. Let them try asking.
IF your parents feel they can’t forget about the 36K, they have to be very very careful about her coming into their property. It could be extreme steps like asking neighbor or a relative in the house while she’s in the house or after securing all the valuables, parents going out of the house until she finishes or more security cameras in place.
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