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ANeed advise on my situation
I’m 25 male, currently working abroad .My girlfriend is from a very conservative Muslim family in Malappuram, Kerala( I’m hindu). We have been in a relationship for a long time despite knowing the challenges her family’s beliefs would present. Her family recently found out about us, and their reaction was extreme. They have forbidden her from going to college, confiscated her phone, and are closely monitoring her. She can only text me occasionally using her younger brother’s tablet when he visits home from his hostel. When i called her father he threatened to kill me and later threatened me using an advocate who is prominently active on news channel debates. He said he will trap me and left to death .
Before I left for my current job abroad, we had a plan for me to settle my career and then return to build a future together. She assured me she would wait .
Now, she is feeling hopeless and desperate. Her family has taken her to psychiatrists, counselors, and religious leaders, trying to convince her to leave me. They are even using emotional and psychological pressure to manipulate her. She wants me to do something sooner, but I feel trapped by my current situation abroad.
I am trying to build a stable career to support her and my own family, who are in bad financial condition. I feel guilty for not being able to protect her or help her pursue her education. She is suffering a lot, and it’s affecting her mental health.
I am feeling lost and desperate. I want to know is if there is any way to sort the situation, Complaining to police is no use, her family is well settled and all of them are politically strong in malappuram. -
SIf she is an adult – her parents can’t force her.
You need to step up and be responsible for her food-health-lodging or you leave her.
Staying in limbo will cause both of you more harm than good.
In my experience such cases can either be instantly resolved or take years and years of constant FIRs and other frivolous fake cases and in some cases physical violence.
My personal recommendation would be to leave her so that she is now not tortured and can actually live her life.
2/100 such cases rurn out to be a good story. The other 98 turn into toxic marriages because there is ZERO chances of you actually understanding what she went through for you.
You can empathize but not walk a mile in her shoes. -
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