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PAfter marriage. during love bombing phase, since narcissist used to mirror our likes, i thought i found love of my life & shared all the financial stuff. I was not hiding anything. My phone was open for her. My bank statements, credit cards access all she was having.
then slowly she started asking money for her father. Out of love and empathy, i started helping her and her family. It was not stopping. So one fine day I asked her ‘How much money I have given to your father?” .. I felt like a fool to trust her fully because I did not even noted how much i have given to her family. Since there was no answer from her for 3 months, I shouted at her.
That’s it. I am doomed. I became womanizer, I became drunkard, I became irresponsible father.
Sir, I thought I found love of my life. But later found that my wife is a Narcissist who royally screwed with all her accusations like having affair with another women, Drinking and beating her everyday, character assassination, smear campaigning, gaslighting, lies lies, silent treatment, disrespectful behavior, etc.
I have registered 2 lands worth 50Lakh on her name during her love bombing phase & 25 Lakhs of jewels I have given her.
Now I would like to recover the lands since I have proof that I have made those transactions from the bank + I would like to protect my existing properties as well. With the bank transaction proof, can I get it back since she is not giving it back even for kids education, etc.?
What I should do to protect myself & my earnings from this cruel Narcissist with Narcissistic Personality Disordered women ?
P.S: Somehow i have secured sale deeds with me which is registered on her name.
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E“What I should do to protect myself & my earnings from this cruel Narcissist with Narcissistic Personality Disordered women ?”
Whose diagnosis is this?
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PThere are some Narcissist traits are there.
Love Bombing, Lies, Silent Treatment, Gaslighting, Smear campaigning, Financial abuse, physical abuse, Flying monkeys, No guilty, no remorse, No love, NO EMPATHY,
I went through each and every abuse. But i was not knowing the name of it.
Atul Shubhash who died due to wife harassment – his wife is a narcissist
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PYes Covert Narcissist will nice with you as long as you serve them as their slave.
When you confront them for their wrong doings, then the demon would come out..
Some covert Narcs are identified after 20 years also.. I am in Narc FB groups and reading the posts.
In summary, Narcs have no EMPATHY which makes them non-human beings.
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B>are identified after 20 years
Lmao
Whats more likely? That you lived for decades with a person with an inability to behave and feel normal emotions, sensed nothing wrong, that this person planned this decades long scheme on you out of everybody or that your marriage fell apart in spectacular fashion?
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Rdude, pretty sure she didn’t plan anything, she’s going as is, it’s second nature to narcs, it’s just OP realised, connected dots
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BOh ok she just contracted narcissism in her middle age, 10 years into her marriage. Makes much more sense
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Ryou don’t recognise narcissisism on the get go… look at Indian parents, majority of them would have shitbton of toxicity but sleep like livers at the end if the day, you know how that bullshit goes…
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Ryou must be fun at the parties…
you know what yes, something or the other laundry list of bullshit, like ocd or this compulsive behaviour of control or you known what the my way or highway disorder, look at your parents you ll find something here or there, that they themselves are not aware about
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DFor people making fun of OP in the comment section you guys have no better jobs. The person is genuinely asking for advice and youre just here to mock. Do better.
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UFirstly narcissistic disorder or personality is a very misused word that is thrown out here and there without diagnosis . Basically selfish and self centred people who will do anything get their way. I would like to inform you that Narcissism is not a ground for divorce . Some particular instances could be cruelty in marriage which is a ground for divorce . Coming to your property .. if you have registered in her name very very hard to get it back .. you could show all financial transactions and say it was a benami property .. jewellery given to her will be her stridhan and she has her right over it . Since there are a number of issues .. speak to a lawyer in person to help you decide how you can protect each asset .
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PYes. NPD abuse is not a ground for divorce because the Narcissist people are very clever in manipulating things and take people on their side.
Thats why there is petition going on to make NPD Abuse as Criminal offence.
[https://www.change.org/p/government-make-narcissist-abuse-a-criminal-offence-in-india?signed=true](https://www.change.org/p/government-make-narcissist-abuse-a-criminal-offence-in-india?signed=true)
Thanks for your suggestion about checking with lawyer. I will.
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AYou now have two options – fight or flight.
Fight: The odds of succeeding against a women, that too a narcissist as you claim, is slim. She will weaponize against you say against you. The courts will side with her by default.
Flight: Liquidate all assets in your name and invest in a safe country like Dubai. Don’t tell anyone about this. Next, you relocate there and get a job. Tell your wife your salary is too low to sponsor a family visa. And live happily ever after.
Forget about the property and gold you purchased in your wife’s name. Let her use that for her maintenance.
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PYes. I told her to keep the land & jewels as maintenance & asked her to give divorce & kids to me.. but Narc is not agreeing.. She needs all i have. Greedy Narc
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PYes Covert Narcissist will be nice with you as long as you serve them as their slave.
When you confront them for their wrong doings, then the demon would come out..
Some covert Narcs are identified after 20 years also.. I am in Narc FB groups and reading the posts.
In summary, Narcs have no EMPATHY which makes them non-human beings.
You can quickly chatgpt about Covert Narcissists. U ll know the truth
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BOP ten years is a long time, what stage did this diagnosis start? Was it with helping her father for money? If it was your father would you keep a count? You should try therapy to understand what the core issue is, narcissist is always often a misused word, ten years is a long time to have invested in a relationship, try marriage counselling n save the relationship before jumping into accusatory mode an honest advice here.
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PYes Covert Narcissist will be nice with you as long as you serve them as their slave.
When you confront them for their wrong doings, then the demon would come out..
Some covert Narcs are identified after 20 years also.. I am in Narc FB groups and reading the posts.
In summary, Narcs have no EMPATHY which makes them non-human beings.
You can quickly chatgpt about Covert Narcissists. U ll know the truth
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DNAL. I have gone through something similar in my divorce. You can’t even get a penny. I had to let go of lakhs of jewelry and cash to my ex wife as per settlement.
And dude who registers land in wife’s name . Never heard that.Anyways if you can persuade her to rename the land in your name then u have chance otherwise higher a very good lawyer who can advice. The thing is you didn’t do it under duress but did it willingly and happily.
So I doubt you have any grounds but anyways good luck and find a decent lawyer
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PFor people who is not aware about NPD Abuse (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), please read this to understand.
It’s a huge psychological abuse that the Narc can do and destroy the Empaths.
[https://www.change.org/p/government-make-narcissist-abuse-a-criminal-offence-in-india?signed=true](https://www.change.org/p/government-make-narcissist-abuse-a-criminal-offence-in-india?signed=true)
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D1. Asset Recovery: Lands & Jewels Given Under Manipulation
• File a Civil Suit for Declaration & Cancellation of Sale/Gift Deeds:
Since the transfer of land was done under emotional coercion (“love bombing”) and without free consent, you can plead fraud, undue influence, and misrepresentation under Section 17 & 19 of Indian Contract Act, 1872.
• Grounds to Claim Ownership:
• The property was paid for solely by you (bank transaction trail available).
• Benami Transactions (Prohibition) Act, 1988 may not apply since this was a spousal gift — but recovery is possible if mala fide intent or undue influence is proved.
• Relief under Trust Law: You can argue an implied resulting trust — i.e., she was a trustee of property bought by you.
• Jewels worth 25 Lakhs:
• File for return of stridhan under Section 27 of Hindu Marriage Act or in alternative, under Section 406 IPC (criminal breach of trust).
• These are not gifts — these are retrievable movable properties given under emotional fraud.2. Protecting Existing Property & Future Income
• File for an Injunction (Temporary and Permanent):
• Prevent her from interfering in your bank accounts, property transactions, or accessing your financial instruments.
• Use Order 39 Rule 1 & 2 CPC for urgent injunctions.
• Execute a Will or Living Trust immediately:
• To safeguard your self-earned assets and direct them towards your children (if any) or rightful heirs.
• Update Nominations in Banks & Insurance:
• Remove her as a nominee from PF, insurance, mutual funds, demat accounts, etc.
• Protect Future Income:
• If anticipating divorce, route income through a trust or family-owned entity to minimize alimony exposure.3. Build a Psychological Abuse Case
• Document Narcissistic Abuse Patterns:
• Character assassination, financial manipulation, gaslighting, silent treatment, lies, defamation — all fall under mental cruelty.
• Use this to your advantage in:
• Contested Divorce Petition under Section 13(1)(ia) HMA (cruelty).
• Child custody (if applicable) — psychological abuse impacts mother’s fitness.
• Alimony negotiation — reduces or eliminates maintenance if cruelty is proved.4. Criminal & Legal Precautions
• Pre-emptive Legal Defense:
• If she falsely accuses you (e.g., 498A, DV, 376, 354 IPC), file a General Diary Entry or NCR with police about the ongoing harassment and emotional manipulation to establish a timeline.
• File for Restitution of Property under 406 IPC if she refuses to return assets (jewels, land profits, etc.).
• Apply for Judicial Separation if not ready for divorce — to protect assets & cut off her legal access to your finances.5. Litigation Strategy Timeline
1. Week 1–2:
• Draft and file suit for cancellation of land registration and for permanent injunction.
• File a detailed police complaint under IPC 406 if she refuses to return movable assets.
2. Week 3–4:
• Prepare for family court filing — either contested divorce or judicial separation citing mental cruelty and financial exploitation.
• Simultaneously, draft will and update nominations.
3. Month 2 onwards:
• Initiate civil recovery proceedings for money given to her family, if documentary proof exists.
• Counter-defamation suit, if necessary, to rebuild your personal reputation.Bonus: Leverage the Sale Deeds
• Since you have physical custody of sale deeds, you have a tactical edge.
• Do not disclose this prematurely — this can be used during negotiation or trial to pressure her into a compromise or consent decree. -
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SSorry to say this, you will lose everything, money, kids, your reputation, character, emotional health, mental health………….Don’t lose your self respect, mental peace and your life with (which is more valuable than everything else).Get a divorce and move on.
Note: Even after the atomic bombing, japan came back to normal – time and perseverance heals.
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