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VI got married 2 months ago and today someone sent me a very derogatory message related to my wife on Instagram. The account is deactivated so there’s no way of knowing who sent it. The intent of the message was to create distrust between my wife and I, levelling allegations which are not true at all.
I filed a complaint with the cyber cell this morning. Can anyone please advise what else can we do. We just want to find out who sent this message. Is there any way we can find that through Instagram? Will filing an FIR help?
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MAlways remember, whenever you receive an anonymous message from an unfamiliar account, try logging into Instagram with that account and click on ‘Forgot Password.’
There’s a high chance you’ll recognize their email ID or the last few digits of their phone number
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Mthe email id used for such purposes is usually temp also the mobile number is burner so no use also instagram mostly masks it so u cant figure it out from few digits or letters
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EWell, I don’t know what you will do even if you find out who sent it. If he has other proofs backing up the messages he sent, will you still deny the facts and try to create trouble for him, or maybe you will act maturely and take the information and keep quiet? If you trust your wife, there is no need to take all that trouble to find that person.
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SWhat if it was one of her ex? Or if may also be someone who was trying to show you proof that she’s not what she tries to portray?
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SConfront wife if all of that is true? And take appropriate action? What else do you think he should do? Just ignore and do nothing?
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SJust because someone is married doesn’t mean past doesn’t matter. There are plenty of appropriate actions one can take.
You think past doesn’t matter even if it is criminal past? Promiscuous past?
Pretty easy for you to say and endure it when it happens to you
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EPromiscuous doesn’t matter at all. Criminal to some extent but not if it is over and done with. Like, let’s say, I learn that my wife had stolen something a few years back. That wouldn’t matter. If she had killed a few people, that would be different.
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SPromiscuous past does matter. It does mean partner is more prone to cheating on you. That’s the main reason why infidelity and insecurity grows in married life.
A promiscuous person can never be trusted.
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CDon’t shoot the messenger.
If you trust your wife and sure about her loyalty then forget about it and the instagram user.
If you have slightest of doubt and/or any fraction of truth in his message then keep quiet and do your own investigation-
AWhy not ? This shit seems to happen too often. A guy near my home was affected like this. Someone legut send a derogatory, pathetic and disgusting letter about him to his fiance’s house from a fake address and they never informed him. Marriage happened and he got to know only after a month or two.
Not taking any action actually motivates these criminals
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SThink with the mind of whoever sent you that message. If their true intention was to expose your wife, they wouldn’t have deactivated their account. The more you think, more it will disturb the peace between you and your wife and that is what the perpetrator wants. The best is ignore them and deactivate your insta account as well or just change privacy settings so that unknown people cant send you any messages.
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BNAL
But whatever that message told please don’t take it lightly I mean if he put some serious allegations on your wife do your own investigation and due diligence if he/she is Whistleblower type person maybe he/she is trying to help you a lot of people knows about someone cheating or something they Wanted to share but they don’t have guts to confront the person so try These things like anonymously Messaging even I did it once when my Friends GF was Cheating on him with a guy from her coaching class , don’t blindtrust your spouse whom you know only for 2 months the more earlier you catch your spouse Lying the more easier it will be for you to move on … And Easy divorce if marriage is childless, like in one of the cases a woman Was pregnant with her BF and Married a guy now guy has to take care of the illegitimate child
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VGot one more message just now from another account. They are saying that they have proof and are asking me to accept the message request so that they can share it with me.
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UI believe you should not take a look at them, just ask them if there is something which still remains between them and your wife, ask them to prove it. If they are able to, confront with your wife and if they can not, it is in the past of your wife and they are simply trying to create trouble. If she has left it all behind, so you should.
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D>I believe you should not take a look at them
>ask them to prove it.
Yeah genius prove without sending anything.
>If she has left it all behind, so you should.
The past can’t be left behind it’s part of the person.
It shapes a person and his character.Somethings can’t be left behind or overlook.
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UNo need to send in the things they want him to see, just prove by saying for eg if I text hey let’s meet here, she will meet there. That’s enough to prove it sherlock. And no, past don’t matter once you release it. It may mold the personality, but it can be molded again by letting it go
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D> I text hey let’s meet here, she will meet there.
Ohhhh wooooow 🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓
>. It may mold the personality, but it can be molded again by letting it go
Yeah easy peasy.
And who is going to mold it and how ?>molded again by letting it go
I totally oppose this idea.
I believe it’s nearly impossible to change someone or mold.
And i believe people don’t change they show their real character , time to time.Btw there are many cases of resurfacing of old character but very very very or none of your saying.
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BIt’s probably sex videos of your wife. Accept the request, if he sends the videos, confront with your wife.
Disadvantage: You can’t do shit, even if those are sex videos because you are already married.
Advantage: You will gain an upper hand and pious husband card in your marriage after you forgive your wife.
Also later in life if u want you can visit prostitutes guilt free, if you get caught, tell your wife you can’t get those images out of your mind.Modern problems require modern solutions
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QYour brain is gonna be fucked. I would say better talk with your wife. Now a days people do kinkest things.
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RNothing good is gonna come out of it. Trust me, have a chat with your SO. If it’s her past let it be. Give importance to the present. It’s prolly someone from her past, maybe an ex, or some guy who was interested in her, you can make out he doesn’t have any intentions. Please don’t let him succeed, because you are winning right now if you have a good loving relationship with ur wife.
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RGo ahead, accept the message and see the proof. Don’t click on suspicious links or make payments. Don’t give your personal details.
Attempts to expose or destabilize a marriage are usually done by ex-es, jilted lovers, members of your family, and work colleagues. Have an honest chat with your wife to identify potential suspects.
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DHey if you trust your partner, talk it out.
But if that anonymous person is saying they have proof, then accept and see what it is and then figure out lol.But don’t take it lightly especially in this day and age where people love to spoil other people’s life by not being clear about their feelings and their past.
That person might be some stupid sigma who didn’t get to date your partner or someone who definitely knows that you got cooked. So accept and see , take care.
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MEven if you say no to it, it will keep bugging you till you see it. I don’t think you can forget something like that ever!
I had similar experience with my gf of 4 years where someone random pinged me and told me about her with proofs, I’d consider myself lucky since we were contemplating marriage.I’d suggest at this point, go, take a look, get it out of your system.
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CTake the blackpill. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. All girls have a past unless she’s your school sweetheart. If you can accept it then you have no reason to bother with this. If you can’t, then prepare an exit plan if it’s true. But don’t humiliate yourself by discussing with anyone other than your parents probably. You don’t owe anyone anything by living a life of misery, there are plenty of girls out there.
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CWhoever it is, wants to create a rift between the two of you. If you care for your wife and think she is ok then don’t get into this. Seat with her, talk it out.
A lot depends on the way you think. If you can accept her then just ignore everything, the other option is to separate.
Think this thru.
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ESomething very similar happened to me. The messenger was telling me information about my wife which i already knew. The person was trying to create a barrier between me & wifey.
Truth he told me when I got the message I was kinda upset because we just had a small argument. It’s amazing how the brian works and small things can lead to bigger issues.
However I left for work and when i came back I sat down with my wife and I was positive that she would not cheat on me.
My suggestion is to speak to your wife. At the end of the day she is your life partner and you can speak to her about this.
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