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AI have been married for 4 years. My spouse has not slept with me for more than 3.5 years. She doesn’t pay rent or do household chores over that I get legal threatening that there will police and all. She is neither ready to change niether ready for divorce and house is on loan on my name so she ain’t leaving either. Even if my parents visit she disrespects them and provokes them. So I wanted to ask are contested divorces tough.
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DHi. I’m a lawyer here. Contested divorces can be draining, especially in light of the women centric law wherein you will also have to pay her monthly maintenance for as long as the proceedings are pending (especially if she’s non working). Plus they easily last 3-5 years. You might still end up winning if you can prove the grounds on which you’re asking for divorce, but if you’re ready to battle it bravely and bear the lawyer fee as well as the monthly maintenance and then giver her alimony, you should be good. However, best is to do it through mutual consent, if possible. For both, you’ll have to live apart for a year first.
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DThat’s a tricky situation and I empathise with you! Hope you’re able to get your way around the situation at the earliest, because I don’t think that you’re ready to leave the house, to meet that pre condition.
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PPush her out yourself , stop working , let the house be taken back by the bank , get a medical issue and burn all the money spending .Keep a fund hidden. Make her scramble for money/lifestyle and come to you for mutual divorce .finally give it to her ,take alimony if required
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AExactly she also is working. So basically of I take loan from bank and don’t repay the bank will take it back?? Their family is well off.
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PHouse is banks until the last 1 rs is paid off , if you go jobless and medically unfit , you can almost declare bankrupty . But consult a legal before all this
And whatever proceeds out of it ,utilize it
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SShort answer, yes.
Long answer, yes very very tough.
Just to give you an idea, contested divorces are so emotionally draining that even many practising lawyers stay away from a family law practice.
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DThe reason for most lawyers not wanting to practice family law is also because such matters are mentally draining for them too. And most clients don’t want to pay enough, but also want their lawyer to be their psychologist.
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SYou know she’s cheating on you as no women in the world will be lonely like that(not sleeping with you) they crave hex more than men. Find out whereabouts of her cheating spree, show proof and get divorce.
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EFind anyone who can talk to her parents, probably neighbors, or the parents relatives, you need to shove there, your wife is just a puppet, listening to her parents, so go to their house and talk to the neighbors that their daughter is doing this, then societal pressure can help you get the consented divorce.
Or get up one day, move out to another town, and let see what happens, at least you will be happy, if I were you, that’s exactly what I will do, she may not leave the house, but you can, she is betting on that you are greedy to lose, once you are ready to lose, they can’t hold you with anything, pack up and leave.
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AGo to a good lawyer. Start building diary and documentation. Once she is out of home to her native, get injunction for her to stay out. Be ruthless.
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CWhy don’t you both go for therapy or counselling like relationship counselling……
And it would be good if you record her misbehaviour. You can definitely ask legal help on that basis. Cruelty from any spouse can be considered as the basis for divorce.-
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CAsk your lawyer about how can you file a case against cruelty and negligence from her side. I have heard daughter in laws who are abusive towards old in laws are subjected to domestic crime.
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CAlso you can ask to get her mental health checked, if she keeps denying you have the right to file a case.
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CAn aunty I know, tried attempting fake suicide and filed a case against the abusive dil, she was given restraining orders to stay away from them, now she doesn’t live with them.
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CIf you remember Tanu weds Manu movie second part, he was send to a psych ward during counselling, because he started shouting …. Idk if such thing is available in india.
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Lontested divorces can be challenging, especially when one partner refuses to cooperate, but they’re not impossible. It might take time, legal effort, and patience, but you don’t have to stay stuck in a situation that’s draining you. Getting the right legal guidance can make all the difference in finding a way forward.
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BBro what I understood from your situation from all the comments is that wife is already trying to emotional attack you and your family. She has sabotaged you from your family and friends I believe l, this is what narcissists behaviour of female does. What she want is to extract money from you smartly as she already know that you have homeloan so she waiting for right opportunity to get rid of you by taking your consent and money. Also keep an eye on her is already in sexual relationship with someone I believe hence she is not interested in you anymore.
Point 1 – Be patient
2- Just fuck around secretly it’s better giving all your money due to divorce (paid service or affair)
3. If you have children, start taking them into your confidence by caring them more that how her attention gets towards you if she is not fucking around.
4. Also make your inlaws on your side by taking care and spending time with them and remember don’t talk about divorce with them just give them comfort and make them believe you are the best SIL
5. Also for your wife to not dought you take her out sometime here and there so that she don’t figure out that your having fun with other. And other time just make her that your are not always available to her that’s when her vagina gets wet and then she will makeout with you.Legal
1. You are fucked in all the matter in divorce unless there is bigamy so you have very little chance then loosing it.so just keep her like a accessories in life that’s what our ancestors did with women in general.All the best.
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PYour option is to make yourself worthless for 2-3 years . If possible make it as negative as possible.
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SWith all the laws in this country, I wonder how the celebrities get fast divorces. Mostly i see them getting within a year of the news of separation of the couple
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AJust remember that once a partner brings legal layer, there is no mercy. And be very methodical. This is life’s toughest battle for you. God bless.
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PYes, they are tough when the other spouse is difficult to handle. If you feel that your rights of being married are upheld by your wife, you can go for divorce on the grounds of cruelty. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
There are chances that she may file domestic violence or dowry harassment case against you. It is better that you collect some evidence of her acts through your messages, emails, photographs, videos, etc. Try counselling to understand what is her issue. Even if that doesn’t work, then you think of divorce. Or after counseling if she’s willing to go for a Mutual Consent divorce, it could work for you. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/)
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**Disclaimer:** In the absence of all the facts of the case, the comments given may not be the best solution for your case. One on one consultation with a legal counsel/ advocate is advised to get better guidance.
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