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UAlready posted it in Relationship India and OneX India subs… But posting it here, with a few added points..
1. She will always portray her family and her extended family members as the best in the world. She will never say anything against them to you, even if you are completely on the right side of things. She will always be the “daddy’s lil princess”. 498A is never filed solely by the wife, her parents definitely have a role in influencing her.
2. She will show her hatred/disdain only to other specific family members all the time (mostly other females like her cousins/sisters-in-law). Observe how she treats all the women in her family. If there’s anyone she hates, she’ll give vague replies like “She’s crazy” or something similar, rather than giving you specific examples/situations. And if you ask her about it, she’ll say, “I don’t know” or “I don’t involve myself in her affairs”. A person who doesn’t know the ground reality has no right to pass off casual judgements.
3. Never marry a girl who’s the apple of the eyes of her extended family members. She has built a “good girl” image in front of them and will do anything in her power to protect it, even if it means throwing you under the bus. Also, she’ll always show great attachment to specific members of her family. Others, she’ll hate with a passion. There’s never a middle ground for her in how to maintain relationships.
4. During marriage discussions, if her dad says, he’s getting her married “off”, because of societal pressure and not because he wants to, run….
5. Does things with your joint account/money/wealth without informing you, and when you confront her, she uses the equality card, or ask, “How does it matter?”. She will always be unempathetic to your financial requirements.
6. Never be in a relationship with “the frog in the well”. A person like that will not know much about the world and will only have major interactions with her family members only, and not with her friends/colleagues.
7. She’ll always have a rosy picture about her relationships. She’ll never acknowledge the fact that all relationships have their ups and downs.
8. She uses her job not as a means to earn and sustain her livelihood, but to show the world how she’s “independent”. She will try her best to put down her fellow female colleagues by either shaming her or by any other means.
9. If at any point of time, she uses the phrase, “I want to set an example for everyone…” in any instance, just run….
10. If she cries or throws a tantrum because you just asked a question in a polite manner without showing any form of intimidation, dump her. She has the skills to use her tears to manipulate people, rather than talking sense.
11. If she complains about every little thing/mistake you do to her daddy dearest, ditch her. By little things, I mean forgetting to switch off the washroom light, not keeping your room tidy, etc.
12. She will love you for your money, your status. Because if you deny her that privilege at any point of time, she’ll go to any lengths to destroy you.
13. She’ll consult her personal problems with her parents only, rather than her close friends. Her conversation with her friends will always be generic and will never be on a personal, intimate level.
14. She doesn’t disclose much about her family’s/friends’ problems. If you get to know anything by chance and ask her about it, she’ll usually try to steer clear from the conversation.
15. She will have severe inferiority complex. Rather than not counting her blessings, she’ll always be thinking about people who are more fortunate than her. And the worst part, she’ll just sulk and not do anything about it. She will always feel that “she deserved better”.
My intention is not to tell you to ditch your potential mate in case you detect any one of these traits. It’s generally a combination of these, especially the first 3 points. When you notice these, at least your spidey sense should tingle and go into observation mode. Repeated instances should pretty much give you an idea.
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VAll things hit home. My ex fits the shoes.
Look up NPD. Classic example of narcissistic person.
Always talking shit about her colleagues females. High image among relatives. Anything wrong happens in our relationship, she would be more concerned about what will people think about her more than how it hurt me.
Her dependant visa was rejected. Instead of putting in effort to apply visa again, she was sad that now she can’t upload wedding pictures and get likes in fb.
I pointed out something wrong she did. She turned that argument into how she made only 10k/month 4 years ago and struggled to be where she was today, start crying. Shut me up.
Her brother made fun of me at the wedding reception. Now she is your problem. She never listens to us, now you deal with her. Such humiliating.
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UDamn… NPD is seriously spreading like an epidemic thanks to social media whorish behavior. My narcissistic wife had the same behavior, wish I had knew about these pointers but hopefully this helps others.
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USevere lust for likes at the cost of personal relationships and basic decency. Also, display of a distorted view of life (1000% contradictory to real life) and hope for others (especially husbands) to give them that imaginary life (money, extravagance, etc.) in reality while she (the wife) doesn’t want to make any effort in improving herself. If she doesn’t get that, then all hell breaks lose with tantrums, brattish behavior, insolence, and much more.
“Whorish” would be a understatement when talking about NPD and social media.
Disclaimer: My definition is subjective but I know its quite accurate based on what I have read about NPD and social media and my NPD ex wife’s behavior.
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UOh yeah I know I know a lot of whorish men. Now I get it. They are always sleeping around like whores
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UGood for you, but you are talking out of context. The topic was about NPD wives but glad you know women who are sleeping with whores.
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UHoney I am straight so I date men and most men are whorish
You also ate straight so your experience is with women
Why you get so whiny…all of you I’d never understand-
UWell, your choices define you, just like not all women are NPDs, similarly not all men are whores unless its your preference. Here is how it goes – “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”.
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UYes I believe NPD could be at the core of most abusive marriages. In my case, my fiance put on the nice guy act for 6 months and literally the day we got married he turned into a different kind of monster. I’m glad my parents understood and I was able to escape from the situation and thankfully they agreed for mutual divorce..This person also stole the wedding gifts( 95% gifted from my family and definitely would be gold etc) and then went on to yell at me for being irresponsible for it going ‘missing’. We checked the CCTV footage from the wedding venue and saw him stashing the gift bag in his tuxedo garment bag.
A lot of other nasty things happened in the span of 6-10 days that we were married. His true colours emerged and his mother is an overt narcissist.
He would call on the phone and literally force me to fight for hours until exhaustion for things that were at the core very silly arguments.I just couldn’t comprehend where the person I thought I was marrying had disappeared. Oh and to sum it up..just imagine when your bride asks you on the wedding day about how she looks knowing all the effort and hard work she put into it…only to be met with a response..” You look like a ghost” with absolute hatred.
I wish I lived in a cocoon where I was still not aware of NPD and didn’t have to face it in my life.
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VYou can apply this to and person male or female, doesn’t matter its a common sense.
Generally try stay away from people who loves
Power, who values money over his he’s self respect, validation/ attention seeker, bitch about their all friends and colleagues behind their back with much reason, show off through luxury or trends. Etc-
UYup. People need to be aware that this is true of both genders. Completely cut off a psychopath of an ex like this.
He talked about how abusive his mother was. His example of abuse? She insisted that he to to school before his exams even though he was a topper. Ffs.
His best friend’s gf moved to the US and the best friend chose to wait. Apparently that makes him a simp. He chose to cut off contact with the same “best friend” because the friend had the audacity to choose a career path my ex didn’t agree with. Like wtf dude.
Constantly posted on reddit about how abusive I was. When I asked how, verbatim what he said was “you abused me by shaming me for getting into trouble with the cops”. The idiot had been secretly selling drugs under my roof and had been called in by the NCB.
Just stay the fuck away from people who use therapy speak to manipulate you. They will always be the victim because they can’t tell the difference between embarassment and actual trauma. Life is fucking golden without that psychopath around. I cut off contact 2 years too late.
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SThese red flags on their own might not always be a deal breaker but when they show up together – they could point to a pattern of manipulative or emotionally unhealthy behavior. Spotting these signs early on gives you the chance to address the issues, reach out for support or even walk away from the relationship if it’s not right for you.
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Shttps://498a.org/
They have a [50 page survival guide](http://www.498a.org/contents/Publicity/498aSurvivalGuide.pdf) over there.
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UBro ! what the fuck.. you essentially described my ex wife ! lol
But there is more, many of the things you mentioned are classic BPD symptoms – borderline personality disorder, not to be confused with bipolar
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any lengths to destroy you
severe inferiority complex.
manipulate people
always have a rosy picture about her relationships.
There’s never a middle ground for her in how to maintain relationships.
unempathetic
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These are all class BPD / narcissism behaviours.See here: [https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/)
Is it BPD or narcissism ? If she has severe fear of abandonment, clinginess , then its BPD, elseif sense of grandoise, superiority, then its narc. PS: am no expert.
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AWe should make a repository/list of woman who files false cases like there is sexual offenders list in US, and God forbid anyone that dates such kinda females, single moms and divorced woman.
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UCan you even think? Why cherry pick a crime that is statistically very low when there are more serious crimes and criminals who should also be put on a publicly displayed/available list of offenders.
Start with the ones that are more important to the general population.
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U>Why cherry pick a crime that is statistically very low when there are more serious crimes and criminals who should also be put on a publicly displayed/available list of offenders.
You think falsely sending an innocent man and his family to jail and having those people get graped and beaten in prison, destroying their lives and making them a societal outcast isn’t serious enough of a crime?
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AWhat about cleaning the system and destroying the courts instead of playing psychological games
Not everyone is a psychology degree holder nor they are interested .
Simple question to ask . I am paying the taxes . What am I getting in return? are there laws to protect me ? will police protect me
Ask Right questions . Fight against the system
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