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UHi all, I need legal advice on how to proceed with the below case please help with inputs
My brother and his girlfriend were in a relationship for 2 years in which they were physical as well, the girl got pregnant once for which me and my family went to girl’s parents to straighten the issue out and to ask for marriage.
Even after this issue their parents said no to the marriage strongly, we tried for almost year convince their parents in the most decent and courteous way. Their final answer was no. Even the girl told my brother to move on. Meanwhile they were humiliating my family for its caste and other stuff which we all bore for my brother.
My parents went into depression. My brother too moved on from the girl and asked my parents to see for alliance since he is almost 30 now. We are having an engagement in few weeks. Now The girl and my brother were in contact in an awkward friendship. She was mentally torturing my bother with suicide My brother being a mad idiot was trying to call the girl multiple times now to finish the issue before his engagement, which the girl played it cleverly and her parents are suddenly okay with the marriage and are trying cancel his current which will push my parents for suicide.
Im not kidding my parents are really down to earth in their city and everyone respects them, they told the whole city about the alliance, now the ex girlfriend wants to break it.
The ex girlfriend’s family barged into my house shouting all nonsense and humiliating my family by shouting standing in the road. Threating if my brother doesn’t marry her ex they will file a rape case and put him in jail. The girl and her mom started beating my brother so much he has injuries all over his face.
I don’t know what to do here, i have some audio recordings from when they barged into my house and threatening to kill me.
What should i do im lost? My family is in a ruined state, my mom tried for suicide. Im barely holding my family together.
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UNAL. but Kindly collect all evidence from your brother’s mobile recordings and chats. it might help the future.
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UI can understand that but what if she brought up this issue on engagement venue or marriage venue?
My brother had stopped all contact a while back, all this contact was reinitiated by her threatening my brother with suicide
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MStill don’t reply… doesn’t matter who initiated or not.
Nobody fights a wall. If you don’t care, then stop contact. You people maintaining contact means you are being influenced by a third person, then you will blame the situation.
It is your fault to maintain contact.
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UIm trying to straighten this out now.
I’m aware of my brother’s stupidity. But things happening is not fair for my family. Its not like we didn’t go for marriage initially they humiliated my family and said no.
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HHire a large number of paid bouncers and share images of the girl and her family members with them. Instruct them not to allow them near the venue if they are spotted.
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UNAL
you have witnesses right? file an FIR against the girl and her mother for aggravated assault. If you have evidence they insulted your caste in a public place and you belong to ST/SC, make sure the police note down they assaulted you under the ST/SC act.
However, if you feel all these FIR will call unnecessary jhamela, then try to get it mediated through family and friends . Ask a trusted middle man to make both sides understand and to ask her to leave your brother alone. This might also save your brothers engagement
If you dont want to do anything, at least keep evidence on how her parents insulted you and broke the marriage, that your brother and ex were in a consensual relationship for years and that they had come to your house and assualted you. She might actually file a false case. Please aks your brother to go to the hospital and get proof of the injuries he recieved.
on a side note, your brother should not have stayed in contact with his ex. If he is still in contact with her, ask him to cut all contact.
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UWe are in BC category and they are FC.
But trying to move it with a middle man right now. But they are adamant in destroying my brother’s life.
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HFile a police complaint immediately for assault, blackmail, and threats, use the audio recordings as proof. Get a medical report for your brother’s injuries. Cut off all contact with the girl. Hire a lawyer and apply for anticipatory bail. Don’t worry about reputation. If they file a case first, you’ll be in bigger trouble. Act fast and protect your family.
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SBefore legal. Get the support of the community. People who were jealous of your family will take it as a opportunity to humiliate ur behind your backs (it doesn’t matter). Even though i am against casteism, play this card. Ur father is a respected man right. Tell him to gather the support of local caste leaders, and tell them how you were humiliated earlier due to the caste. Tell them about your mother and ask ur family to shill some money for thier political causes. Police in these cases will always take the side of the lady if caste angle is not involved.
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HTry to get recording of them threatening you and register a FIR with the Police. Does your brother still have chat or other evidence from before from which you can show that it was them who have broken the relation earlier? Also, if you belong to SC/ST then you can file your complaint under the Scheduled Castes and the Scheduled Tribes (Prevention of Atrocities) Act, 1989.
If you don’t file FIR first, it may become troublesome if they file a false case against you later on.
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UI have a voice recording of a man threatening me at my house that he’ll kill me. Chats backups are there. Im from BC. My conscience wont allow me to make it into a caste riot.
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U> My conscience wont allow me to make it into a caste riot.
All that stuff is judged in God’s court, not people’s court. Save that card for there.
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UI come from a rural area where i have seen issues where people not even remotely related to an issue being hugely affected and outright done off due to caste issue.
This is my family issue i dont want unrelated people to be affected by this
If i instigate the said so caste issue, the results will not be pretty
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QGet a good ass lawyer, go to the police station and bribe them.
Ensure her family, along with her are dragged into the station and they bloody give it in writing that they will not harass you guys again.
File a bloody restraining order if you have to. And tell them clearly that you’ll file a case for defamation and also communicate the number of years they’ll be behind bars if they file a false rape charge.
(Ensure you share all the proof, call recordings and exchanged messages from your brother to her.
Also ad proof of your parents visiting her family to convince for the alliance.)
It’s better you reach out to the cops before they do.
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UCurrently getting advice from an advocate on how tp proceed post which gonna file a harassment, aggravated assault and murder threat cases against their family
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UNo she wants to get revenge or destroy my family
She outright said she wont marry yesterday but today morning she said if he doesn’t marry she will file for rape
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SOkay. Here is what your brother and family do.
You all call her family and tell them that your brother wants to marry her but you all want it to be court marriage. Remember court marriage and not Arya samaj one day process. Court marriage takes some time. You all make sure that they inform everyone that you all are committing to court marriage.
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LNAL. Been in a slightly similar situation. What was the duration between breakup and the said new alliance?
Practical suggestion would be to keep in hold the marriage talks and get in touch with an advocate. Since the girl is aggressive anything you do will trigger her. File an FIR or atleast a complaint against the girl and her mother, take the receiving copy from local police station. Submit the same in SP office. Do not state explicitly that you were physically involved, that is the for the court to find out. Mention extortion in the complaint. Then just sit and wait, let the girl play her tricks.
Also hire a good experienced advocate don’t go cheap. Also pay the police through the advocate to avoid getting arrested.Hope you come out of it.
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UFile a police complaint before they file one, this will give you a upper hand. Also, consult a lawyer before taking this step. Find all the chats and conversations that you and your family had to convince them for marriage and also the ones they refused. Take all the evidence to the lawyer and ask what can be done. I am sure you will come out of it.
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MDon’t be a dumbass seeking Internet advice.
**GET A LAWYER NOW**
Collect all the proofs of casteist slurs, them refusing alliance etc. Share with lawyer and go as per their advice.
Too much at risk to spend time on Internet advice.
And yes, your brother is a dumbass. If you ever let him drag your family further into this mess, you are complicit in making life miserable for your brother.
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