Can I ask my estranged father to fund my education abroad even if we’ve never met?

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      Bravehero1344
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        April 10, 2025 at 7:26 pm
        I’m 18 and just got accepted to a university abroad. My parents separated when I was not even born, and I’ve never met my father. He’s had zero involvement in my life.

        There’s a long legal history between him and my mom. She receives ₹35,000/month as court-ordered maintenance, note that she doesn’t earn. He got a divorce, but my mom appealed and it’s still pending. We also filed a DV case against him not just due to emotional abuse, but because we later found out he was already married when he married my mom. That’s also why the court dismissed his plea to meet me because he basically threatned to hurt us on call when my mom and little me was at my grandparents.

        Now that I’ve turned 18 and got this opportunity, I need help funding my studies tuition, visa, and living expenses until I can start working part-time abroad.

        Can I still legally ask him for financial support, or does turning 18 end his obligation?
        And if we go to court, how long could it take? My deadlines are tight. Also, would I be forced to meet him in any way?

        Any legal insight or personal experience would really help. Thanks!

        I’ve heard he’s required to pay as long as I’m not independent? Is it true?

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        Coolowl7566
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          April 10, 2025 at 7:37 pm
          **-NAL-**

          You can directly request him. If he agrees, all well and good.

          If you’re a Hindu woman, your father might be legally required to support you until you’re married. Confirm this with a lawyer though.

          OR you can ask the lawyer whether your mother can approach court to raise the maintenance.

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              April 11, 2025 at 6:31 am
              The marriage was void because the man was already married. OP can’t do anything legally to get the money.

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                  April 11, 2025 at 6:52 am
                  First marriage was unregistered.

                  And first wife didn’t pose any problem now how will they get to know?

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                    April 11, 2025 at 5:56 pm
                    Then how exactly is OP’s mother getting 35k maintenance?

                    Indian law is sometimes contradictory.
                    Child marriage isn’t legal in India but the law still recognizes married couples who were wedded off as minors.

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                  April 10, 2025 at 7:42 pm
                  Damn u wanna scuk the fcuk out of everything from him👏

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                    April 10, 2025 at 7:47 pm
                    WTF! 😬

                    You don’t want to meet the father, yet you want his money? 😶
                    Get a bank loan or do your education in India only!

                    What is this entitled behaviour?

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                        April 10, 2025 at 9:52 pm
                        He said to kill him when he was young and you are asking for his behaviour

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                            April 11, 2025 at 6:33 am
                            And filling a DV case just for the sake of it was a good behaviour 🤷🏻

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                                April 11, 2025 at 6:48 am
                                >We also filed a DV case against him not just due to emotional abuse, but because we later found out he was already married when he married my mom.

                                Fuck off with your biases.

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                                    April 11, 2025 at 6:59 am
                                    You created another ID now. Great Enjoy. I didn’t disrespect you or abused you. This shows who you are.

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                                        April 11, 2025 at 7:11 am
                                        Try again. Two year old account.

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                                          April 11, 2025 at 7:21 am
                                          That’s someone else not me

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                                            April 11, 2025 at 7:25 am
                                            Tu chutiya hai wo dono alag alag hai dono ne comment kr rkha hai post pr aur tune dono ko hi reply de rkha hai jab biased ho toh bolo ki biased ho

                                            Chutiyapa kya kr rhe jo banda shi shi jawab dederha ussey toh tumne reply hi nhi kiya ( visible username waale ko)

                                            Shows you retarted and victim mentality thinking ki agr koi discussion jeet na paao toh play as a victim nice

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                                                April 11, 2025 at 7:28 am
                                                He’s a retarted mentality who won’t understand

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                                                  April 11, 2025 at 9:37 am
                                                  Sab thik ho jayega bhai. Tum tension mat lo. Aa jayegi tumhari bandi wapas 🤷🏻

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                                                      April 11, 2025 at 9:44 am
                                                      Topic pr baat krle bete uske alawa sabkuch krlerha hai tu.

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                                                April 11, 2025 at 6:48 am
                                                Any kind of abuse comes under DV.

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                                                April 11, 2025 at 8:17 am
                                                So why does he want to take money from someone who “wanted to kill him” ?

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                                                    April 11, 2025 at 9:41 am
                                                    His choice, we aren’t moral personalities but legal.

                                                    And I already mentioned that’s wrong on the moral side but if I’m getting a chance for better studies to secure my future I would have grabbed it.

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                                                April 10, 2025 at 7:47 pm
                                                Do you have some shame?

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                                                    April 10, 2025 at 11:08 pm
                                                    did his father have some shame when he married op’s mom while being married to someone else already?

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                                                      April 11, 2025 at 4:32 am
                                                      No shame and probably no self respect too. Seems to be a 18 year old educated beggar.

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                                                      April 10, 2025 at 7:48 pm
                                                      Waste of semen

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                                                        April 10, 2025 at 8:14 pm
                                                        Is this ragebait?

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                                                          April 10, 2025 at 9:51 pm
                                                          He won’t be obliged and neither you should ask him that’s out of self respect.

                                                          Pta nhi maybe he won’t be able to pay you and self respect aur jaayegi so matlab nhi.

                                                          Idk why these guys abusing you as there’s nothing wrong from your side it was his choice to have unsafe sex after marrying a woman whom he didn’t even want to have in his life and was too already married don’t worry you ain’t wrong here.

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                                                              April 11, 2025 at 6:28 am
                                                              Legally OP can’t do anything to get the money. And OP is wrong for sure.

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                                                                  April 11, 2025 at 6:43 am
                                                                  >Legally OP can’t do anything to get the money.

                                                                  Wrote in the first line itself.

                                                                  >And OP is wrong for sure.

                                                                  Wo apni marzi se nhi aaya hai iss duniya mei

                                                                  And dusri baat uska baap bhi koi dudh ka dhula nhi hai if you see already married and given threat to kill them.

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                                                                April 11, 2025 at 1:25 am
                                                                If you are going to ask for money from him, you need to be prepared for him to be in your life. No one is going to give you money and expect them not to be in your life.

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                                                                  April 11, 2025 at 2:15 am
                                                                  Lol, that not how DV cases should work, but unfortunately, we live in India.

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                                                                    April 11, 2025 at 2:39 am
                                                                    Even if you seek money from him for your education through Court, he cannot be forced to pay for your exorbitant fee abroad. The court will ask you why you can’t study in India, when there is an affordability issue. So he will only be asked to pay in line with what he can afford..

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                                                                      April 11, 2025 at 4:35 am
                                                                      You seem to be worse than a beggar.

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                                                                        April 11, 2025 at 4:47 am
                                                                        For the sake of education. Ask him politely. He’s still your father. He has no legal obligation, however he might be willing to fund your education out of love and affection.

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                                                                          April 11, 2025 at 5:38 am
                                                                          If you are a woman, you are entitled to maintenance from your father until you are married.

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                                                                              April 11, 2025 at 6:32 am
                                                                              The entitlement ended when the mother was receiving the money monthly for the support.

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                                                                                  April 11, 2025 at 6:47 am
                                                                                  Only if mother is receiving money for support of children. Children are entitled to their own maintenance.

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                                                                                April 11, 2025 at 6:26 am
                                                                                If he was already married before he married your mom. How is your mom a legal wife? It’s already void and she was never his wife legally.

                                                                                You my friend are an entitled brat. You didn’t want anything from him and just his money.

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                                                                                  April 11, 2025 at 6:49 am
                                                                                  Also, your mother can sue for enhancement of maintenance amount to fund your education if the current maintenance is insufficient for the purpose of maintaining a standard of living equivalent to what your father is currently enjoying.

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