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UThis is happening a couple of months after [This](https://www.reddit.com/r/LegalAdviceIndia/comments/1i43z6h/i_am_getting_rape_threats_by_college_senior_help/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) incident, To give the context of this post.
I couldn’t gather the courage needed to complain him, tell to parents, nor do anything of such sort. What I did do was to tell my boyfriend who is from other college, about it. He initially got so angry on this senior asshole but later brought me a pepper spray and urged me to carry wherever I go. and Thanks to all those commentors and those who showed care in dm (not you creeps) from previous post, it means a lot.
Now, after ignoring this whole incident (my biggest mistake I guess), He has completely turned into a psycho. Whenever he sees me in college he tries to “flirt” with me and tries touching inappropriately. I complained regarding this to few female teachers in my college and them being a typical Indian answered “He is a big shot don’t mess with those seniors, as long as he didn’t touch you, be fine with what he does”. this is pretty true, he is indeed a big shot having connections all over the college. But guess what he “accidentally” touched me once on my breasts. I had given my phone to one of my friends, but he happened to come there by accident and during the exact moment when I was not there, He unsolicitedly opened my phone and starting taking snaps of himself with creepy gestures. Found this when I my phone was returned back to me. One more incident, I even feel ashamed to tell, He was sitting near me and talking about me to some other guy from his class. All of a sudden I heard really lustful remarks about me being said by him. things like “I’ll f**k her” “I’ll spill my cum on her” god its embarrassing to even type it. But hope you get the idea of how shitty of a person he is.
Today I decided to plan to go outside on the college on a particular day and informed only my roommates about it. But this asshole somehow knew it (Maybe he is secretly getting info from my roommates) and messaged me that he’ll drop me. I ignored. But here comes the real part, He has informed to one of his female classmates who happens to stay in my hostel, about certain things. When I was roaming around the corridor of my hostel, She meets me and says “Senior is angry do what I say without asking questions. Tomorrow when you are going outside, senior will also get inside the car, He just wants to be with you for sometime. He will not harm you he just loves and cares for you. He’ll drop you to your location then he’ll return back. If you refused to follow his decision he will forcefully marry you and kill your boyfriend who is only in nearby college.” I am shocked to the core till now after hearing this.
When I told to my bf he suggested me to cancel my trip, safety is priority for now meanwhile raise a complaint because this is way too much. But me personally I think this is not a good idea because if he knows that he has been complained, Then he will harm me and my boyfriend. I don’t want to bring my boyfriend into this trouble unnecessarily. My only hesitation to complaining is that he’ll harm me in unimaginable way, marry me (can’t imagine this shit 😭😭), or harm my bf. He has power and influence. I don’t know what to do I am in a situation where I cannot tell any elder people about this like my parents. Please help me find a way, Lawyers of this sub please. Also please suggest some relevant subreddits to post this so that it reaches the maximum.
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IAt this point, if you still do not go to police or bring all attention to him, you will regret it for life. Your life’s in danger. Survival instinct should have kicked in by now.
And yes immediately tell your parents. Also, do they know about your boyfriend ?
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UWhat if I get blacklisted in my career? What if he harms me after getting to know that I complained? What is he harms my bf? Sorry if I am sounding dumb but that’s the only thing running in my mind
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UThat’s the biggest things every nice person is afraid of and it’s okay but seems he’s a bully and bullies stop only when you fight back
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At worse better to fall after a fight, then giving in and let them have their way
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Make as much noise as possible:
Police
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His college dean/principal
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TOP I understand your fear but when life is In danger you need to take these steps. Based on your story this person doesn’t have any plans to leave you alone and this is only getting escalated.
1 Have proof of his threats
2 please take help from a lawyer while making a complaint.This should give you enough safety. But don’t ignore this you need to speak
National Commission for Women
http://ncw.nic.in
Complaint & Investigation CellUse this atleast
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UParents are not supportive. They would stop my studies if I did something like this, they are very protective of me
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MIn addition to complaint, please speak as publicly about it as possible. Let it somehow reach people outside the circle where his influence is. Your fears are valid and yes he is definitely trying to harm you/ rape you. And once you make it public he will retaliate. So it has to be public in such a way that he has to be overwhelmed by forces stronger than him, and stronger than the people in your college who are helping him or not standing up for you.
Ideally I think all their names and faces should be popularized. And trust no one – not your roommates, or any friend from that college, where he has influence. Don’t inform of your plans beforehand.
Inform police also that you’ve written all the proof and kept it online and if anything happens to you then all their names will be there.
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CNot a lawyer .
1. You should immediately inform your parents about this .
2. File a complaint with the police.
3. Try to get some proof if that’s possible without risking youself.
4. You have to keep people in loop about this.5 . Also make an official complaint with the principal or dean of your college .
Dont take this lightly. He deserves to get his ass whooped .
Also I feel you should mention your city. Someone might be able to help you if they are from the same city.
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UMy parents will stop my studies if I file a complaint. Maybe I’ll try principal or dean but if I complain, won’t he get angry and harm me more? Atleast I am safe now. Correct me if I am wrong
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CSee , you are in a situation where someone is giving you rape threats. Do you understand the seriousness of this ???????
You are scared you can’t tell you parents ???
You are safe untill he decides to do something. Will you wait for him to do something or protect yourself ??Tell your parents . File a police complaint. All the other problems can be fought with later. Fix this first. I feel it will be better to go to police . Complain against him in police station. Police ka danda padega line pe aajayeg.
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ULook idk who you are but girl please use your brains for atleast one fucking time i will give you a step by step process here’s how you go
1. Approach the nearest local Women NGO and contact them for tell them everything and ask them from help
2. File a official complain in the police since college didn’t help you and by official i mean write a dairy involve your parents if they are not some typical conservative parents like log kya kahenge and clearly state that he tried to rape you when you were below 18 and when you got away he regularly molests you.
3. Call the local media and tell them about this going on in your collegeAll this can happen if you just follow the step 1 it is enough and if you have any political connections activate them if it means bribing them bribe them
and what power and influence please explain in detail who is he take the name of the college here
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SIf you don’t make the issue viral, then you will be like adviks victim. (Poor Nepali girl committed suicide)
Leave the college and forget about your career your life is more important.
No one in legal advice can help you, this country law system is dog shit, recently in Allahabad court the victim was ordered to marry the rapist.
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UTrust me police don’t care about big shot, care about yourself first ,your honor and dignity comes first you’ll regret not filing a complaint against him if you keep tolerating it he’ll go further, if required change the college it’s not worth the damage he might cause, so first off complain to police!!!
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UYou should approach women police station of your city.
File a complaint there with recorded evidences.Similarly file a complaint with your college authorities as well. All these so called bigshot guys piss on pants once they see cops incoming.
Also tell all your friends and tell the whole college about it. Ask your friends to protect you & seek their help. Stand for yourself. Also tell your parents and ask them to come to college. You can also talk to the guy’s parents if he’s in early 20’s.
If nothing works change the college. There no point living scared putting your security at risk.
Next time any incident happens immediately dial 112. That is one way to have a track of your complaint.
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