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KMy cousin got married when she was 21. It was a love marriage And now she’s 25. She don’t have both her patents (dad died when she was 9 and mom died with TB when she was 14). My grandmother raised her. That boy is an alcoholic, childish and weird so, my mom and other family members begged my cousin to not get married to this guy but she didn’t listen and married him anyway. From the start of this marriage he started coming home late and drunk and starred beating her on the second month of marriage. My cousin tried to change him but it was no use. He made her life miserable. He abuses her verbally and physically. Dont give her money for basic needs and always doubts her of having affairs (she’s a good girl ). Now she can’t take it anymore.
She came to my house crying. My mom wants to help but other family members are not trying to help her.
What should she do??
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ENot a lawyer
She needs to have proof of beating, be it medical bills, doctors record or any video or voice recording of the abuse.
Then she can file a formal complaint with the police.
Also, remember once police case is filed she needs to say good bye to marriage.
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KShe has multiple call recordings of him verbally abusing her and videos of him being drunk. Are they enough to file a case
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EShe can file the case, as her complaint act as evidence. But it would be better if we have additional proofs.
The above proof are ok and it will be better if she got any medical record from doctor, be it a slip or medical record.
As police will try to first solve it at their end,but if there is enough proof then they need to act on it.
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BThere are 2 scenarios which can happen
1) She can file for a divorce on the grounds of DV, abuse, etc but your sister is just 25 and the chances of her getting married again is very less and this might affect her in the long term.
2) if your sis has a kid and if she doesn’t want the kid to grow up fatherless there are high chances that the kid will grow up with a toxic father and which can ruin his future as well.
If your sister is willing to live alone and wants to end this marriage then go for a divorce, if not only possible option is to try and talk to the husband and make him understand the consequences if she files a complaint.
Man I feel so bad, there are so many people who literally file fake cases and extort money and there are such women who sacrifice themselves for the sake of family and reputation.
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BBecause it’s an Indian stereotype where if a woman is divorced people won’t even think of marrying her. Even if the man was toxic the blame will still go to woman.
A man can get married again easily but it’s difficult with woman. I’m not saying it’s impossible to get remarried but the chances are low and she’ll always have the tag of a divorcee. Harsh truth. -
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DHi. Delhi based lawyer here. She can file a Sec 498A complaint in the police station, which can encapsulate all his acts of cruelty, wherein she will also request for registration of FIR against him. Apart from that, she can file a Domestic violence petition and a contested Divorce petition (if she’s willing to stay away from him for a year before that). For a detailed discussion, you can reach out to me, or to any other lawyer, who will show you the exact road map. But before that, you have to be strong, to deal with the legal proceedings and his so called retaliation.
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BBecause it’s an Indian stereotype where if a woman is divorced people won’t even think of marrying her. Even if the man was toxic the blame will still go to woman.
A man can get married again easily but it’s difficult with woman. I’m not saying it’s impossible to get remarried but the chances are low and she’ll always have the tag of a divorcee. Harsh truth. -
LYour cousin can do legally :
1 – File a Complaint under the Domestic Violence Act.
2 – File an FIR at the Police Station.
3 – Seek Free Legal Aid.
4 – Claim Maintenance – Under Section 125 CrPC if she has no income.
5 – Stay in a Safe Place – Your home, a women’s shelter, or a government-supported safe house (NGOs) -
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SShe is into toxic guys, why do you want separate her from someone she is incredibly attracted to. What she is going through is just one of the aspects of the toxicity that she loves.
If you want to help her, best contact a lawyer. It shouldn’t be difficult. What’s difficult is going to make her give up on her dear lover.
Anyways after she has left him, make sure she stays away from innocent men. Else she is just going to ruin another life. Best wishes.
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SIt’s incredible how you shifted the blame on the victim simply because the perpetrator is from your gender. I bet you have deluded yourself into believing that you are a “nice guy” over whom such toxic guys are chosen by women.
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SWhere did i shift the blame on the victim? I simply said she is into toxic guys, that’s not going to change, unless she sticks to such guys she will ruin some innocent guy.
First i am not whatever appalling term you used. But it’s a fact observable all over the world. Women always chose a toxic narcissist over a stable boring guy. It’s common even among famous celebrities.
They do choose the innocent men, as backups after they had their fun, got tired or hurt by the toxic guys. But they are not attracted to them and soon ruin their lives.
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RIf she or you not willing to go to police or lawyers, just call Women’s cell and they will send counsellors to question the husband & rest. This will be more of a deterrent and in future used as some sort of evidence for DV .
Also, in case of physical abuses & bruises – tell her to go to any Govt. clinic or hospitals to get primary care and first aid. And get a written report from Doctor incharge. It will be another strong evidence to keep
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PIf she is willing , she can file a Domestic Violence case against him and ask for remedies such as protection, maintenance, etc. Read more here [https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/)
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Let her record some incidents without his knowledge, if she’s still with him. If it isn’t safe for her to go back to her matrimonial home, let her not go back there. If she has any medical report of physical hurt caused by him or photographs, messages, etc. would help her to prove cruelty easily.
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