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USo my father is an electrical engineer and my mom is a housewife. Yesterday my father physically abused my mom again(after like 2-3 years) and I wanted to file FIR against him at that very moment but obviously you know how Indian woman are. She decided to call her useless brother and refused to let me call the police at all so “protect family image” as she thinks dad going to jail will make it hard for her sons to get any marriage.(we are four sons, all above 18+ and 3 of us are willing to testify in favour of mom the fourth one doesn’t like mom but if forced to tell a truth on religious book he will also testify that father physically abused mom alot in past)
Nonetheless I asked her to file for a divorce and live independently of him at the very least and would like to know the options here given these are the options.
1)My mom have 1 property on her name but father takes all benefits from it(it’s just on name)
2) My father have 1 property on his name
3) My have father have 2nd property jointly owned by him and his brother
4)My father is an GOVT engineer with salary above 10LPA and is probably gonna retire within 10 years window
5)My mom have never done a job
6)All of us brothers are still in college
7)No FIR exist against him as of now, even the past violence never made it to police.
8)In terms of assets he owns 2 cars and one is in mom’s name I think for tax reason or whatever.Also one more thing, as you know my mother is “conservative” she isn’t filing for divorce right away either. Is there anything my dad can do in 3-4 months of time to reduce whatever support he have to give to mom? I hate this family, their stupid belief but nonetheless need some advice.
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UBlud tf u think we can do huh? If the victim itself doesn’t wanna do sh*t do u think I can single handedly do anything? My father is by no means poor and if my mom refuses to co-operate then the police will just ask for money and let my father go which he can easily afford. Give me some better “legal” advice instead of thinking like some Bollywood hero lol.
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Ukeep the fuck out of your life or get the fuck out of his life. bro simple. 3 sons can’t pay for food and shelter?
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ULife’s not that easy aashole, they r in college and they want to solve it through legally ? How can they kick him out from his house ? His father will file a police complaint and everything will go against them … They don’t earn ig how tf they will get out? … U can’t just gooo out aimlessly one day … Solving this legally is much better.
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UWe have done that before, we sent her to her flat and isolated her from dad. But like a traditional Indian woman she is she decided to come back saying ” wife ka haak hai mera dusre ke ghaar kyu raho”. The ultimatum is divorce only, until that sh*t is not done it’s gonna keep repeating so stop with this advice. All 4 of us can afford to keep her away but how many times do I need to remind you of its her tradition and her mentality stopping us.
The best scenerio is sending him to jail not throwing him out of the house to begin with which too isn’t possible. Just stop with your advice and let someone with knowledge in divorce comment here. I agree with your pov but it’s not feasible in this scenario, bhai Indian family ki taraaf se soch le thoda sa. My mom is from a reputed family and only got married to my father(who was poor) just because he got a govt job, she is too “sanskari” and you will probably understand the issue just by this line.
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U4 of you brothers need to sit and have a chat with him. Be brutal and strong. Seeing the 4 of you teamed up together is definitely gonna make him feel weak and outnumbered and make him relaise that hes wrong. play good cop bad cop (the old strategy). And don’t let your mother out of your sight and alone with your father. always have atleast 1 brother with your mom in the house.
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NOnly lesson I have learnt in my life is that you can be honest, fair and truthful while being respectful. If one stays silent on wrongs by parents, he/she only makes it worse.
I agree with someone’s suggestion that all of you should sit down with your father and talk to him. Be respectful and firm, you guys are grownups and as kids grow up, you have a right to speak on what happens in your house.
All the best, i hope you guys are able to convince him to mend his ways.
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UHow much dispensable cash you have if you have a round 2000 rupees then go with elder that you can trust completely and talk to police about this tell them your situation give them the money and tell them that is tell police to come to your house and give warning to your father give initially rupees 1000 and then later on if still your father is doing the same thing then give more money to police to come again and new warning again Si police doesn’t mind coming anywhere that is Sub Inspector constable they will come with you but then want to be compensated for their time but also remember it is never a good advice to involve police unless you absolutely have to and I don’t get this thing that you are four guys and your father is one how can you let this happen
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LTum benchod chutiya genz sidha divorce pe aate ho. You are alone tough for him. Confront him , sit down with your father and ask why the fck he did that. Ask your brothers also to sit down and ask what’s the problem, then proceed.
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PWell said..life will needlessly get complicated for all of them. If father is hauled for DV, then he may get suspended from job upon arrest amd then they have to fight him dor alimony and maintenance and spend money to hire an advocate. Your approach is sensible, restrained and will keep things within four walls of the house..
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U“within four walls” isi soch ke karan salon se victims bahar nhi aa pa rhe hai aur sehte rhe hai
Domestic violence ho to halla machao, sabko batao, publicly humiliate karo abuser ko …na ki ghar pe sehte raho
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UAa gye domestic violence supporter. “Sit down karke” bat kyun kare jab baap “sit down” karke bat nhi kar paya. “Why he did that” lmao there is never any justification for domestic violence
Accha hai genz better soch ke sath badh rhi hai. Salon pehle kar lena chahiye tha divorce.
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UWho will take care of you, your brothers and your mother? Considering all of you are in college and yet not earning? Figure out the finances first and then move ahead with whatever you want. Meanwhile give your dad a stern warning that if he touches your mom once again 3 of you will give it back to him. Divorce is unnecessary though i feel just live separately and that should be enough. Legal battles are time consuming and financially draining so not worth it.
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P1. all you boys speak to your father sternly and advice your father not to raise a finger on your mother. The first thing is to prevent the abuse.
2. If your mother has any physical injury, take her to a hospital and ask them to record it as MLC. There may not be any swift action by the police on that. But it may come handy later.
**Disclaimer:** In the absence of all the facts of the case, the comments given may not be the best solution for your case. One on one consultation with a legal counsel/ advocate is advised to get better guidance.
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