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AHey,.
Location: India
I was in a 9 yr long love relationship that ended up in marriage with her parents not agreeing to it. I was not okay with the marriage and not able to cope up with the pressures of my family and her I made the mistake of cheating on my wife with a friend. I had a brief affair. Fixed things with her and set things straight after marriage. My wife found out about this soon after marriage in a month or 2. and confronted me about it. We spoke and sorted the issue. We worked on rebuilding the trust and I assured and kept her well and good. But the living conditions in my family wasnt great. Had constant dispuits between Parents and her and me that slowly turned between us. After 1.5 yrs. She left to her hometown and cut contacts with me. Filed a fake complaint saying that I threatened her that I would leak our private pictures if asked for divorce. I never did. I gave my phone for her to clear it all herself and take her belongings with her. We closed the complaint saying we both agree for mutual divorce and that all the belongings and necessary things were settled. Note that the complaint filed also had evidences she had collected about my infidelity before marriage. Whatsapp screenshots. We went to a therapist before she left to her hometown to whom she had confessed that the affair was in the past and it dint bother her anymore. Just some insecurities but that I am keeping her reassured and trustworthy. I really worked hard to make up for the mistake that i did bluntly. But now I get a call from her lawyer again saying that they want to contest the divorce on grounds of cheating and mental creulty. With the evidences she had gathered. The lawyer asked to reach back confirming it. and if wanted mutual divorce that i have to settle for lumpsum/ Im a middle class family. I run my own small business and make very less money. Shes from a big rich family. The lawyer also said they might even summon the girl I had affair with during the trial. I really dont want to ruin this girls life. I dont know how or what to do. How much alimony or on what basis -
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QIt’s a fake case on the grounds that they mended things up within their relationship and moved on, then married but when another more likely family dispute occurred, now she’s weaponizing his cheating part to have a divorce with a good Alimony… Justifiable on her side, Yeah as cheating is wrong but she is still wrong as it was before marriage.
Also, this is a Legal advice sub not any gossip sub so please, refrain from the judgments… But yeah it’s an online platform after all anyone can comment anything on any post.
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AIn such complicated matters, reverse engineering works best. Let’s start by understanding what her demands are, whether it’s a financial settlement, reputational damage control, or something else. That will help you navigate the situation effectively. Don’t let her lawyer dictate the terms. Be prepared for all possible outcomes because I can see where this is heading. Better to get in touch with a lawyer who is proactive and can guide you strategically, both legally and logically.
Bottom line: You need to have clear answers to the why, how, when, and what… both from your wife and your advocate… while strategizing your defense or offense. All the best
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PThe adultery was prior to the marriage, so that shouldn’t be an issue. File a Restitution of Conjugal Rights case and ask her to come back to you. [https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/](https://divorcebylaw.com/restitution-of-conjugal-rights/)
In the mediation ask her what she wants, not what her family and lawyer wants. Make sure her family and lawyer do not participate in the mediation.
If reconciliation doesn’t work, go for Mutual Consent Divorce and close the matter. In mutual divorce the parties decide on the terms and conditions that include alimony also. You talk to her through mediation (again not her lawyer/ family), who should be in a position to understand your financial position and convince her to agree for a nominal amount. [https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/](https://divorcebylaw.com/mutual-divorce-lawyer-in-bengaluru/)
If she still insists on Contested Divorce, the alimony & maintenance is decided by the court after considering the assets & liabilities of both the parties. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
[https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)
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