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UI’m not in a mental state to explain in great detail. My father is a narcissistic, misogynist d*ck tbh. He never considered us family. He and his “family” have literally tortured my mum for fucking 25 years straight and I can’t take it anymore.
As he is growing older and not perfectly healthy, have stopped beating and physically abusing my mum but he verbally says disgusting things to her, I can’t even write or share that to someone. His younger brother and his son (my cousin) also supports him.
I know about DV etc but she (my mum) just don’t agree with the idea of going to police and court. I’m still a college student but I have enough savings to support ourselves until I get a job. Even our house where we currently live is on my name, so I don’t see any problem with filing a case apart from the neighbours gossiping about how I f*cked my old, sick father.
He deserves this. Being old or suffering from some illness doesn’t mean I should forgive him for whatever he has done to me and my family. Ffs this man literally set my mother on fire for dowry. Used to beat her with belts, iron rods and what not when I was a kid. I saw everything, i remember everything… I always waited to become an adult and have enough savings… And now when it was my chance, he is suddenly sick and everyone around me wants me to just bear with it… What kind of logic is that? Everyone eventually dies, but you have to clear the debts before you embark on your journey to hell.
Advice me, what should I do? Am I wrong here? Does seeking justice wrong in this condition? I’m tired with this chaos.
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UNot a lawyer, but I can empathize, somewhat. I can’t tell you what you should or should not do, but you mom needs to make the decision to leave or kick him out, not you. And given that she was abused, I am guessing that she will not be okay with you two leaving. Most abuse victims have a complicated relationship with their abuser. And tbh you need to have this discussion with your mom more than anything and if she is fine with whatever is happening to her, then frankly I would leave her to her means and move out and if you are too attached to her then keep your distance from your father and let your mother know that you will not hessistate to kick his relatives out if they say some shit. The best thing I can tell you is gray rock all of em and maintain a distant, do not invite them over, do not engage with them, be as cordial as you can for your mom’s mental health. And if your mom is okay with kicking out your dad, then put him in an old-age home and call it a day.
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