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        February 14, 2025 at 11:55 am
        Hi everyone, I’m in a tough situation and need any help I can get.

        In October 2023, I borrowed 1.5 lakhs for my hospital expenses from a friend who is a government employee, thinking I could repay her within a couple of months since we were expecting the sale of a property. But due to a boundary issue the sale got delayed. Since then(from nov 2023 onwards), I had been paying her 15K per month as interest, without reducing the principal (because she asked me to do that). I made these payments regularly until November 2023, when my health declined and I was unable to continue as I couldn’t work.

        I work from home as a freelancer and earn around 30k per month. My father passed away last year, he was a failed business owner, and has debts on his own, and my mother doesn’t work. Financially, things have been difficult, but we were relying on the property sale to clear debts. The sale is now expected to go through in May and I fully intend to repay her in full.

        But a couple of days ago when I was at the doctors, she came to my house, harassed my mother, and threatened to bring someone unless we paid the entire amount immediately. I have also been receiving over 100 calls daily from her family members and brothers which has become overwhelming.

        I thought she was a friend but her behavior has proven otherwise. I understand I owe her money but the harassment is making things worse. What options do I have? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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          February 14, 2025 at 12:00 pm
          Legally, you have to pay it. But since you are here and unable to pay, just file a police complaint for harassment. Let her go to court for that money. Suit for recovery of money will cost her around 50K and years to be finalized. With Police complaint against her, she will stop bothering your family and might come to some settlement.

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              February 14, 2025 at 12:05 pm
              Of course I’ll pay it. I asked her for a break and I’ve already paid 15000 in interest for 12 months, which amounts to 1.8 lakh more than what I originally borrowed from her. But she couldn’t even give me a couple of months off. Now she’s demanding the principal and threatening to send local goons.

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                  February 14, 2025 at 12:12 pm
                  Leave it then , don’t pay her more … File an fir

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                    February 14, 2025 at 1:42 pm
                    Did you have any agreement (written I mean) if not you have already paid the money back and 30 k more just tell her to fuck off

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                  February 14, 2025 at 12:00 pm
                  15k per month interest for 1.5lakhs 😂😂😂 bhai no point in giving you any advice ….she is totally right ….borrow from somewhere else and give her money back ….

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                      February 14, 2025 at 12:04 pm
                      Man I was desperate. What would you do if you had no way of getting money for a life saving surgery? We planned to pay it back within a couple of months, but it just didn’t work out. There’s no need for you to be mean.

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                          February 14, 2025 at 2:50 pm
                          Next time when election is around ask the same question to the neta who visits and give him the bill

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                            February 14, 2025 at 2:58 pm
                            Get a personal loan or unsolicited loans to clear this. It’s cheap and easy that way .

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                            February 14, 2025 at 5:16 pm
                            Paying 10000 for 8lakh

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                              February 15, 2025 at 4:14 am
                              He only paid 1 installment .. lol .. borrowed in Oct 2023 and stopped paying after Nov 2023. 10% interest per month is ridiculous

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                                  February 15, 2025 at 6:32 am
                                  According to him in other comments he paid 1.8 lakhs in interest ….it’s typing mistake ….he paid 15k per months for 1 year

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                                    February 21, 2025 at 2:08 pm
                                    I paid till Nov. 2024. Total 1.8L

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                                  February 14, 2025 at 12:09 pm
                                  NAL. But courts have ruled such high interests (10% per month) are illegal. Threaten to go to police, share the full story and be prepared to file a case. Tell them what they did was illegal. No court will help her if you can prove that you have paid 15k*12 to her already. [‘Private lenders can levy interest up to 18% yearly’](https://www.deccanherald.com/india/karnataka/bengaluru/private-lenders-can-levy-interest-up-to-18-yearly-2965830)

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                                      February 14, 2025 at 1:28 pm
                                      Yeah, I paid her via Googlepay and have records of the transactions along with proof of her askind for the interest money.

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                                          February 14, 2025 at 1:31 pm
                                          Don’t pay anything more. Say that you consulted a lawyer and they told it was illegal. Whoever phones inform them that the interest charged is illegal and you will include them in the case. Go to police if they persist.

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                                          February 15, 2025 at 4:11 am
                                          He borrowed in oct 2023 and paid interest till nov 2023. So he only paid back 15k out of 1.5 lakh.

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                                              February 15, 2025 at 4:17 am
                                              I think that’s a typo. In comments, she mentioned she paid for a year. To make it clear, I mentioned if she had paid the money.

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                                            February 14, 2025 at 12:19 pm
                                            Did you pay the 15000 per month via bank? If you did then show her the bank transaction of 180000 and tell her the loan payment is done.

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                                                February 14, 2025 at 1:25 pm
                                                Yeah, google pay.

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                                                    February 15, 2025 at 3:58 am
                                                    Great. So you have repaid your loan. You don’t need to feel you owe her anything at this point.

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                                                    February 14, 2025 at 6:13 pm
                                                    This is the way.

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                                                      February 15, 2025 at 1:14 am
                                                      Lawyer here and this is the best advice OP. Your friend won’t be able to do shit as the law does not allow her to charge abnormal interest rate. She cannot claim it from any court or legal means. If she harasses you further just go to the police and file a complaint and show the police the proof of payment made by you. Tell the police to register FIR against your friend for extortion and criminal intimidation.

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                                                      February 14, 2025 at 12:56 pm
                                                      I helped my friend with 25k but he ghosted me later I did not harassed but I spammed him with WhatsApp call, normally call, text messages, FB call, Duo call.

                                                      After 4 years I have my 25k with me in chunks. I did not requested him to pay me interest 😝

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                                                          February 14, 2025 at 1:10 pm
                                                          I helped with 100 K. Later that guy blocked my numbers. I eventually gave up on the amount

                                                          In a nutshell, never ever lend money

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                                                            February 14, 2025 at 1:29 pm
                                                            Oh sorry that happened to you. I always make sure to pay back what I borrow this was just a bad situation. But I did pay her 1.8L in interest.

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                                                                February 14, 2025 at 3:55 pm
                                                                NAL, there is no legal binding to pay her interest as there is no contract. Just calculate a particular % of the amount annually and pay her the balance after deducting the amount already paid. Tell her that you are going to police if If she or any of her family member harasses you. Enable call recording on your mobile and track all conversation.

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                                                                  February 14, 2025 at 5:20 pm
                                                                  At 18% per anum you have to pay 1.77L for one year. Which you have already done. Just send a legal notice with the help of a lawyer as others suggested stating that you have already paid the principal and maximum interest as per law.

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                                                                      February 14, 2025 at 6:01 pm
                                                                      Okay, Thank you!

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                                                                  February 14, 2025 at 2:14 pm
                                                                  WHAT?? U paid till November 2023 but took loan only in October 2023. So u paid interest for 1 WHOLE month?
                                                                  Have taken the money na, then get together a plan and in agreement with her return it. Request her not to charge interest as u are in a tough spot and do return her money

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                                                                      February 14, 2025 at 6:00 pm
                                                                      Sorry, I paid for one whole year, oct 2023 to nov 2024.

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                                                                      February 14, 2025 at 2:55 pm
                                                                      Calculate a 18% per annum interest, and use a calculator online to check how much you owe per month and loan duration for 15k per month emi and how much you gave. Then send your friend the updated loan amount, and pay back the rest in similar EMI.

                                                                      Take help of lawyer they dont agree.

                                                                      At 10% per month, they are not friends, but pure devil. The max I have seen is 5% (norm is 2-4%) from those kitty parties and committees, so at 60% annual rate (which is TOO HIGH), at ₹15K EMI, you will have to pay back for 14 months, even that will be a couple thousand extra.

                                                                      I would recommend a 3% interest rate. That comes to 15K EMI for 12 months, and total payment of ₹1,80,832. Talk to a lawyer to form a legal notice around it. They may charge ₹1-2k for this service, but you can also ask them more around the situation.

                                                                      Send them the calculation and emi schedule in mail, and tell them that you are fully paid up, and they will have to go to court to take any extra money. Even if you initially agreed, 120% annual loan interest will be deemed predatory, and court will cancel it.

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                                                                        February 14, 2025 at 4:12 pm
                                                                        **Why haven’t you got a personal loan, and repaid her yet.**

                                                                        You can go to a lawyer and start fighting for the right and all but it’s you who agreed to all this. Don’t lose your night’s sleep over this. Law for helpless people make no sense. The lawyer will ask for money, or worse, he can talk to other party and then both will screw you.

                                                                        Getting a PL is the easiest thing you can do.

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                                                                            February 14, 2025 at 5:58 pm
                                                                            Because I had to quit my job due to health issues and was thus not eligible to get a PL

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                                                                            February 14, 2025 at 4:46 pm
                                                                            A debt is a debt u have to pay it back on time and ideally it should be documented when taken especially the repayment terms like by when and what interest. This can be done by email or whatsapp also. Because u failed to pay on time your “friend” got suspicious and she is also feeling the heat of recovering the money now. You do have legal recourse file a case of harassment against her. This will certainly put an end to the friendship but might get you some breathing space and time to repay. If you don’t repay your friend can file a money recovery suit against you also.

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                                                                              February 14, 2025 at 4:46 pm
                                                                              Was there an agreement for paying that much interest ? If no, collect all the proofs of past payments and settle the debt. You probably have paid her most of what you owe her.

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                                                                                February 14, 2025 at 6:33 pm
                                                                                You don’t need to pay her more I think. You have paid 30000 extra. It is illegal to pay more. Tell her that. Also that btch is not your friend.

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                                                                                    February 14, 2025 at 6:59 pm
                                                                                    I think I’ve to file a complaint. I tried talkin to her, and she won’t back off. I guess money really brings out people’s true colors, whether it’s borrowing or lending.

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                                                                                    February 14, 2025 at 7:23 pm
                                                                                    NAL stop paying, legally she can’t do shit afaik . There is no binding government contract. You paid more than your principal amount.plus 10% a month? That’s 120% per annum?, credit card debt would be a lesser evil than paying her debt.

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                                                                                      February 15, 2025 at 2:59 am
                                                                                      a friend who takes 15k per month interest is NOT a friend!!!!

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                                                                                        February 15, 2025 at 3:05 am
                                                                                        my young relative who recently got govt job, called me crying that he lost money in bitcoin

                                                                                        i gave him money & promised that i won’t tell his family

                                                                                        then he comes to visit me expecting me to take loan for him to pay other debts as his CIBIL is bad, to which i denied

                                                                                        since then he just ghosted me

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                                                                                          February 15, 2025 at 7:29 am
                                                                                          That’s 120% of annual interest. 

                                                                                          Tell her to go fuck herself.

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                                                                                            February 15, 2025 at 7:50 am
                                                                                            Go to the bank and do whatever you need to do and get a loan and clear her out with 18%/yr interest not more than that.

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                                                                                                February 16, 2025 at 6:04 am
                                                                                                I couldn’t get a personal loan because I lost my job and that’s how I ended up in this situation.

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                                                                                                    February 16, 2025 at 6:11 am
                                                                                                    Go talk to each of the lender and reduce % interest rate and work out a plan of EMI which you can manage. Do it now.

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                                                                                                        February 16, 2025 at 6:25 am
                                                                                                        I’ve already paid 1.8L. Now she’s demanding the principal back insisting that what I’ve paid so far was just the interest, which I had agreed to pay. But there are no documents to support this. Mostly everyone here is advising me to leave it at that and file a complaint if the harassment continues.

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                                                                                                            February 16, 2025 at 7:38 am
                                                                                                            This is what’s understanding:
                                                                                                            She gave 1.5L in Oct 2023.
                                                                                                            You repaid 1.8L till Feb 2025.
                                                                                                            Seems like you paid little over 18%/year over course of 16 months which equates to 30K.
                                                                                                            It’s fair interest rate. Tell her sorry i cannot pay more than this, if she resists, file an FIR and deal with court.

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                                                                                                      It’s illegal to charge interest unless they are licensed. Consider it paid off. Also a friend that person is not

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