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SSo we were having breakfast and he got a text on teams from his team member(f). He was sending a (like) emoji from his phone but mis clicked and sent another emoji(middle finger) by mistake which was inappropriate but he immediately mentioned in the chat it was a mistake and then he apologized to her in person after having breakfast. But the girl was adamant about reporting it to HR. Now she has emailed everyone including the CEO and the HR team. The guy has a clean history he never misbehaved with anyone or talked rudely. It’s just makes me sad how a girl is using her powers for wrong reasons, that guy is very disturbed and not able to focus on work properly. It also creates a very negative environment in the team, like if I’m trying to help someone and if I make a mistake that can be used against me it’s so f**ked up.
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UThe middle finger emoji is hidden deep inside the long list of emojis. Unlikely it’s accidentally clicked unless it’s his frequently used emoji, in which case it’s on the top of the list.
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UWhy is this even in the legal advice sub??
FYR even if this was 2 women or 2 men, this is the exact procedure to be followed. Because yes, even people of the same gender would take offence to being given the middle finger at work.
Work environments have a requirement for being professional.
Anyone who genuinely makes a mistake would write an apology letter and let it go.The fact that you and your friend are making a big drama about this seems to indicate that you have issues with women in general.
Perhaps you and your friend should learn to watch what you type & say at work, like the rest of us.
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M>Perhaps you and your friend should learn to watch what you type & say at work, like the rest of us.
“I insulted someone and now they’re complaining about it UwU 🥺”
In the title itself OP is blaming the colleague instead of his friend for being careless lmao. Insane.
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HAsk him to do an apology and get away with it. If he’s not willing, he might as well look for a job so he has a new work environment where he doesn’t have to face this person again.
That’s a decision he has to take. While it’s fair for him to think it’s a genuine mistake, he can’t expect everyone to let him go when someone feels offended about it.
PS : I never felt bad in apologizing even to the team if I think I made a mistake. Am sure the HR is asking for a 1:1 email & not to an entire group.
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UFriend is not in major trouble just do what ever hr tell him to right an apology letter ( its just a formality ) the female colleague just want drama in her life or she may want to everyone know that she shouldn’t be messed with ( just power trip ) & stay hell away from her consider this as a life lesson & be vigilant & never ever help her in future ever even her friend circle
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UBro, this woman really woke up and chose **HR complaint** over basic human decency lmao. A middle finger emoji sent by mistake, followed by an immediate apology both in chat and in person—and she still decided to escalate it to HR and the CEO?? That’s not professionalism, that’s pettiness on steroids.
Tell your friend not to panic. Since he already apologized and it was clearly an accident, HR isn’t going to take this seriously. He should document everything (the chat, the apology, any witnesses), and when HR calls him in, just stay calm and professional. Worst case? He gets a warning. Best case? HR sees this woman for the petty little drama queen she is.
And honestly? If this is how she reacts to a mistaken emoji, I’d love to see how she handles actual work pressure. Absolute loser behavior.
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SHR knows the woman, and told the guy she can tell from her 20yrs experience that the guy didn’t mean to offend/harass her and it was just a mistake, since it was escalated to CEO so HR asked the guy to write an apology letter and they’ll close the case. Now nobody knows if the girl still wants to take this ahead or end it here and make peace.
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CHold on.
HR’s purpose in existence is to protect the company. If your friend is a productive worker, they will save him(most likely to leverage it to bring down his appraisal and save the company a few pennies). But if not, they will use this as an excuse against him.
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PBhai aisa to school mei hua tha galti se ek ladki ko calculator de diya tha jispe inhone fuck likha hua tha aur vo rone lag gayi thi
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CEntitlement & selfishness of ppl is astonishing. No care for what life impact can such strong action can have on another person. This girl is just self absorbed. Your friend needs to stand up for himself and hold his ground that it was an honest mistake and he apologized. If the company cannot support in such frivolous matters he should probably leave.
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BA guy in ASSAM was called to court and some action was taken because he just typed – “Hahaha” on some Face Book post!
This is the type of Banana Republic, we live in!
Look at the FIR and Threats and Court Cases – Beer Biceps is going through for making a vulgar joke on India’s got Latent – (
Ranveer Allahbadia)What a joke this country is!
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BResign and leave the organisation immediately, even if he has not really done anything!
This girl will make his life a living hell. That’s how much power and wokeism there is in corporate world.
Imagine if she goes out of the company for such a small thing and goes to the cops, court etc. His life is over .
Start looking for a new job immediately!
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MYour friend is not in trouble because of a female colleague. Your friend is in trouble because of his mistake. Stop putting the responsibility on the wrong person.
If I got a middle finger emoji I would 100% escalate it and document it. People can’t make “mistakes” and expect to not face consequences because they didn’t intend to cause harm. I would be offended and insulted. I’d I made this error I’d keep my head down and take whatever comes my way. I should be careful instead of expecting forgiveness for every transgression.
Stop placing blame on the reaction and place the blame on your friend for not being careful enough. Nobody is duty bound to forgive your friend. And like others have also said, I feel like there is more to the story.
Intent doesn’t matter, impact does.
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SWell if you’re working in a team for over a year and you know your colleague has never done anything of this sort, I don’t think it’s necessary to create a big drama out of something silly even though when the person has apologised, mistakes happen, typos happen, miscliks happen. Now if you want to ignore these aspects and still want to complain then it shows how immature you are or probably you have some mental issues. Coming to your last point intent doesn’t matter impact does. So yes in this case the impact is that the guy will not be able to focus on work for a while and this memory sticks with him forever.
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M< Well if you’re working in a team for over a year
Irrelevant
< to create a big drama
She only noted the incident with HR, which is standard practice. What drama?
< even though when the person has apologised
Apologies don’t automatically negate the issue and the offence that has taken place
< mistakes happen
Mistakes also have consequences, whether you like it or not
< how immature you are or probably you have some mental issues
you and your friend are the ones with victim complexes lmao
< So yes in this case the impact is that the guy will not be able to focus on work for a while and this memory sticks with him forever.
and whose fault is that, you absolute clown? jfc
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SWell, first of all it was not a big deal as many people have responded. Secondly I think you need some counselling or treatment because you clearly seem to have some mental issues or hate against men. I pray for people around you because I think you’re one of those who wouldn’t miss an opportunity to bring down people for small mistakes.
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M< first of all it was not a big deal as many people have responded
and none of our opinions actually matter because we’re not the aggrieved party. What is so difficult to understand for you?
< you need some counselling or treatment
because I disagree with you, something is wrong with me?
< I think you’re one of those who wouldn’t miss an opportunity to bring down people for small mistakes.
I think you’re an insufferable idiot who thinks everything is okay “because I said sorry UwU”.
Be more careful because you can’t control how people react to your errors. That is common sense. But that is clearly escaping you. Keep crying all you want, your friend is in trouble anyway lmao
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MI hope you feel better about yourself after making a statement like that! And all because someone had the audacity to disagree with you.
Calling someone mentally unstable because they think differently, what a wonderful man you are. No wonder your friend is who he is and is in trouble.
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UNot here to give legal advice, but even if this issue is resolved, your friend will have major trust issues. It’s really hard to overcome when you are innocent. It’s easy to say don’t care about what people would think, but we are humans.
My advice to your friend is, you are completely innocent and the accuser is just one person, not representive of a whole gender.Take your time and start trusting people!
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UWhat kind of office are you and your friend working in.
Either that or your friend did it on purpose and is trying to make up a story about it. I know people lie to defend themselves. I did not use to believe it but I have seen it, i believe either the work place is really sitti or your friend is lying. -
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UI’m sorry to hear you and your team go through so much. Nowadays, people have lost their minds so deep in the gutter that they’ve become a part of it.
This is excessive for the teams and people involved. It’s lucky there was no written typo, she’d have a field day.
The thing with attention seekers is that they become embolden after each “incident”. Left unchecked she will soon make up stories; not too long before she decides to do that to managers and higher – if not in this company it will be another – this has happened in many companies already.* But alas, this exact kind of story is becoming common place: overblown queen behavior.
Justice may be slow, but you all can speed it up for your teammate –
An issue like this has a feasible solution: People in the company like multiple teams, should come together, write/sign a thought-through petition to the CEO about the issue and this person, how injustice in the company has/can affected morale and production of work; fire this intolerant privileged female!
*Find and read these examples (there’s Indian ones too) and include the references in your petition.
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