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BMy friend is going to get married next month. His was an arranged marriage decided 6-7 months ago and they have also completed their engagement. Last week, a really influential person called him and his family to meet at his office. He wants my friend to back out of the marriage as someone close to him wants to marry the girl. They are ready to offer money to cover wedding expenses and extra money (approx twice what my friend makes per year) in cash.
Now the guy who wants to marry his fiance is a local businessman he owns an IT company and has a really good reputation in the community (kind, humble, etc.). He asked his fiance she says she knows him as they are from the same community and he is a well known person, but they never really interacted. Even the guy says the same that he saw her at some function and now wants to see if they are compatible. He was regretful for his action overall(that’s ehy hebis offering extra money) but adamant that my friend needs to back down (that’s the reason he offered extra money). The political person never really made any threats, but his tone was intimidating like ‘it is not a love marriage, take the money, it is a good opportunity,’ etc.
The girl and her family are scared but she is asking my friend to fight for her and not to back down to any pressure. My friend’s family is telling him to back out of the marriage and just take the wedding expenses, as even if he marries, who knows what they might do. As there are no threats involved yet, they can’t go to the police. While some are suggesting him to be a man and take action like go to the media or rival etc I doubt it will help as the other guy’s net worth would easily be over 10s of crores and he is well connected with everyone. Looking for legal advice for him and also practical advice. -
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VArranged marriage setting so is it worth getting into all that trouble. I wouldnt. Just sit with the other family and tell frankly that you dont see the point in taking up all this future headache. Just drop the engagement and let them go to police for protection. Remember this is India so if anything goes wrong, the police will side with the more influential party of the 2 which I see is the other guy.
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GNot a legal advice – but the girl and her family should take a stand for herself and straight up deny marrying the guy. You shouldn’t take a powerful person head on for someone who you just met. Who knows if they back down and go with the person, your friend will lose money and make a new enemy.
Ask him to verbally acknowledge to the guy that he has backed off, let the guy reach the girl’s family. Let them deny him. After a couple of months go ahead and get married.
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HLet me tell u something if this person has power and political background/connections court case is nothing for him u know how court system is in India if at end they come for ur friend life it will be horrible to u as well as his parents cause recently a case happened where one powerful person killed an innocent for just a small mismatch of topic .Ask ur friend to immediately back off cause at the end of it comes to life and about that girl they will not harm her let her fight first why she is giving this responsibility to ur friend of something happens she will at end move on and it’s not even love marriage
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BA rough start to a relationship indicates some problems you will face once you solemnise the relationship officially. Better to avoid and have a smooth start with a prospective bride.
Just my perspective,decide wisely as marriage plays the most important aspect of anyone’s life. It makes or breaks a person’s life. -
SThis reminds so much of saravana bhavan founder case. My advice will be to Ask friend to stay away and look for another relation. It is not worth it if it’s not a love marriage
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M‘it is not a love marriage, take the money, it is a good opportunity,’
the absolute truth.
it would have been a different case if it was a love marriage.but fighting for someone you barely know is not worth it
and her saying “fight for me” challenging your masculinity is a red flag.
also her saying “local businessmen and we barely interacted” is a blatant lie. they def have a history and your friend is being the scapegoat.
in any way, it won’t end well for your friend if he goes on with the marriage. take the expenses or compensation as well and move on.
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Yet another Gem from India where no one seems to care what the girl probably wants
Realistically I don’t see a reason why your friend should go ahead with it. It’s unknown territory and you haven’t mentioned what the girls interest is. Girls parents pushing your friend to fight is unrealistic since it is them who should say no the guy. Not worth the trouble IMO
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UNot a legal advisor, but the girl should talk to the concerned party practically. Makes no sense that she’s asking the guy to fight for her but not talking to the villain directly. If he still persists, only then does taking legal action make sense. Also, depends on your friend if he really does love her and wants to go through all this.
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LThis is a deeply troubling situation, no one should be pressured out of a marriage through influence or money. It’s good that the girl is standing her ground. Your friend should document everything and consider speaking to a lawyer discreetly. Even if there are no direct threats, this borders on coercion and needs to be handled carefully and firmly.
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SNot a lawyer. But if I was in a such a situation, where my marriage was arrange, and I was not emotionally attached to the girl (emotionally attached in the sense, loved her from the bottom of my heart and couldn’t see myself marrying a different lady, or would regret not marrying her for the rest of my life), I would have simply cancelled the marriage and taken the money offered to me. Our individual lives as average citizens are already stressful enough, and I don’t want to complicate my life any further. Yes, you might feel like a hero saving a damsel in distress from a villain at the moment, but after couple years when you’ve lost a lot of money dealing with Indian Judiciary and Legal System, inaction of police, and a lot of mental harassment overall, you’ll realize what a fool you had been.
If the girl’s family is so brave, they should communicate directly with the guy and tell him to F**ck Off and make it clear that she wants to marry your friend. But she didn’t, and instead want your friend to fight for her. She wants to be protected at the expense of your friends wellbeing. I would have backed out from the marriage.
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DNAL. This is not legal advice or any kind. Maybe your friend can try to reason with him gently.
Like kya bhaiya, aise kaise shaadi tod du? Engagement ho gaya hai, main to usse apna biwi maan chuka hoon. Aap k paas paisa, aur power hai. Aap log humare saath kuch kare to hum kuch kar nahi paenge. Lekin shaadi tod dunga to khud bahut guilty feel karunga, aur iske baad mujhse koi kaise shaadi karega?
Aap usse ache se jaante bhi nahi hain, thode time baad infatuation chala jaega shayad. Main shaadi nahi todna chahta.
Idk something on those lines maybe. Instead of trying to be a mard, and fight, maybe showing up as a gentleman might work?
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BThis is a crazy situation but the simple fact is that arranged matches get broken off for less. There is simply no incentive for your friend to “fight” for this woman: he barely knows her and has no emotional investment here.
At one level I am appalled that a woman is treated so cavalierly- like she is chattel to be traded between two men. On the other hand well…this is India where brides are routinely sold into marriage or burnt for dowry or worse.
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