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UHi all,
(Preface this by saying that if you look at my post history, my dad has always been short sighted and has never made solid plans about a will or anything because he’s used his property to blackmail me quite a bit (if you go abroad i will sell our house to whomever i want!) etc.)
So my father has been an abusive alcoholic. And by abuse I mean the kind you see in Crime Patrol and such, not just parents ☆ fighting ☆ if you know what I mean. Me and my mom were isolated for decades handling his abuse, and before my grandparents moved out, they abused my mom because of her religion too. My parents have since divorced. I’m in amicable/diplomatic terms with my grandma and dad’s older sister – but they’ve always been shrewd and manipulative, and tortured my mom verbally based on religion quite a bit before they moved cities. They’re also highkey casteist but that’s besides the point. I wish I could’ve cut off my dad, but we call 1-2 times a month and pretend everything’s normal. I guess he is predisposed to care about me as an offspring and I have some filial piety. Said grandpa, grandma and aunt have siphoned tons of money from dad when he’s under alcohols influence (which is like 70% of the day) many times already.
Now my dad is inevitably in the hospital due to end stage liver cirrhosis, chances of his survival are low. Despite this, I’ve been trying my best wherever I can. Running on 4-5 hours of sleep for the past 16 days, since I’m the only one who knows how to Recently my grandma and my aunt have been egging me on to sell his properties to get funds for his longterm treatment, saying they’ll try whatever possible. Important to note that dad has verbally abused them lots as well. I have told them many times that according to all doctors, treatment for the foreseeable future is just to keep him stable, and once he’s strong enough to undergo a transplant we will proceed with it, no need to start jumping on the property-selling train now. The way they refused to make practical present plans in favour of property selling was already very sus to mom and I.
A symptom of liver cirrhosis is encephalopathy, i.e extreme brain fog. He’s in the ICU now, he has looked me straight in the eye and asked where his daughter is. He is barely functioning consciously. Yesterday, my grandma apparently spoke to him where he said he will give her the PoA and she can sell everything and use the money to treat him. We have a car we can sell, a smaller apartment we can sell as well. But instead, they’re eyeing a bigger piece of land with our family’s (where i was born and raised) house built on it in my childhood town. And she said she’ll keep all his property docs in her locker. This is knowing full well every single doctor has surrended his case and our current hospital is barely keeping him alive.
I am not stupid, I have seen the Indian Soap Opera schemes they’ve pulled to frame my mom for BS things in the past. My grandma knows my dad said “why are you acting like I raped you?” when I was committing the s-word due to his abuse, he threw a lock at my mom’s head and chased us around with knives, etc. And she never intervened. She’s always enabled him and made excuses for him, and called him a model son. I don’t believe this woman has anyone’s best interest in heart. They’re also simultaneously incredibly stupid in the real-world sense, having never been exposed to anything practical because she was practically a house ghost. She cannot even use an ATM, let alone know how to finance for dad’s health.
I know she’s a class 1 heir as well, and nothing has been set in stone so far, so I need to know what I can do now to ensure that even we sell something it is for his medical bills ONLY and nothing else. And what can I do to not lose everything my dad meant to leave me to them. Please help.
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UYou need to act fast and get legal help right now. Block anyone who’s trying to make moves on the properties and make sure they don’t have access to your dad at the hospital. You have to secure everything before anything is sold or transferred. Get the Power of Attorney when your dad is in a clear state of mind and capable of making decisions. Time is critical to protect what’s rightfully yours. Don’t wait or let anyone take advantage of this situation.
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