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UUser_89c6173f
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March 14, 2025 at 8:14 amI am muslim(shia) girl he is hindu guy. We both are from gujrat. We want to do marriage but family denied. My family give murder threaths to him. We both do not want to convert. And special marriage act has mandatory 30 days notice period and notice will put outside the office and chances of notice leak is high which will not good for us. Is there any options or suggestions to get marry under special marriage act in gujrat or outside gujrat? You can also dm me suggestions. Plz help us for marriage plz -
SShreyasfox414
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March 14, 2025 at 8:22 amIf you both are from a lower middle class or middle class family then There are high chances that both of your lives are in danger. If you both have courage then run away from home.-
TTanuknight141
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March 14, 2025 at 3:11 pmIf you both really in love ask him if he wish to run away with you.
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QQuickbro1532
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March 14, 2025 at 8:25 amI feel sorry for your situation.In Maharashtra, notices could be served online, not sure about Gujarat. I would suggest to check how can you apply Online for the 30days notice period. Unfortunately, they display the notice on the website. you can check r/Gujarat or r/Ahmedabad subs. I will suggest not to provide any personal details to anyone including district name. (If you have any potential residence address or you can get one, I can share the details to apply for marriage online)
Moreover, best option would be move to different city or country, if possible. Indian families are shit most of the times. In terms of relocation to other city, one of the partner needs to be resident of the place(Aadhar card).
Secondly, I will consider situation post-marriage if families are really stupid and yo sense threat to life, simply move to other country, if possible. That’s best way to avoid constant threats.
Good luck.
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MMeganitin1228
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March 14, 2025 at 10:20 amGet married in a different country that does not need any witness (USA for example).
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UUser_e5cf7654
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March 14, 2025 at 8:25 amhttps://www.instagram.com/indialoveproject?igsh=MWhrMGttb3lmdzBxMg==They can help you
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LLuckysruti2239
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March 14, 2025 at 8:25 amIt is not worth dying. Both of you go your separate ways. -
NNamantiger184
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March 14, 2025 at 8:26 amI am not a lawyer.There’s a high chance one or both of you will get killed in the near future.
It’s not worth it.
All the best.
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UUser_91ccc26e
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March 14, 2025 at 9:59 amππ
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HHappystar6849
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March 14, 2025 at 8:30 amBoth shift to Dubai and get married…-
SSilentninja609
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March 14, 2025 at 10:42 amHalwa he kya? Visa fukat me baat rahe?-
PPrimedude3191
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March 14, 2025 at 4:17 pmAur paise ki toh barish ho rhi h na
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UUser_24232240
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March 14, 2025 at 1:08 pmGood idea
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UUser_810ca25d
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March 14, 2025 at 8:31 amNot a lawyer but your option is in a seperate city and live near police station or a gated society where nobody knows
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Not against Muslim but they are more aggressive idk why, when there is a non muslim male-
UUser_f5f530ea
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March 14, 2025 at 10:10 amThe reason is when a muslim boy marry hindu girl, police arrests the boy under love jehad, boy is beaten in court, even boy’s relatives are harrased and arrested.-
UUser_810ca25d
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March 14, 2025 at 10:38 amThat’s not the main reason
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Main reason is driven more by relegious narrative towards non muslim -
EEpictiger5917
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March 14, 2025 at 11:45 amNope, main reason is the sky book explicitly allowed their men to marry non-Muslims but denied their women to do the same.
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HHappyshark11
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March 14, 2025 at 8:35 amYou will need to file a complaint and seek police protection, if you want to get married in your own home town and are afraid of retaliation from family.Alternatively, you could move to some other city and apply for marriage from there.
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LLavanyabro181
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March 14, 2025 at 8:41 amNot worth it. Proceed only with blessings of elders-
UUser_4df0f754
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March 14, 2025 at 11:01 amVery true
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UUser_9b0ec3de
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March 14, 2025 at 9:01 amNever start smtg, which doesn’t have any future. Even if u marry him, u will have to live ur life in fear of getting threats . So better to part ways.Ik it would be very difficult, but that’s the honest advice
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BBrightsharad5081
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March 14, 2025 at 9:07 amYou will have to move and then get married there. Even then there is no guarantee you will be completely out of danger from your parents side. The only safe option I see is moving outside India and then marrying so that your parents can’t reach you and kill both of you -
IIndiangargi2466
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March 14, 2025 at 9:21 amIt’s better to move to a different state that isn’t influenced by anti- inter religious relationships. Your partner will surely lose his life if you all do anything in gujrat. Regardless of which religious organization brings the threat.You’d need to permanently move to a different state.
Just recently a news came up, where a couple like you (but the religions were reversed) was in the court for marriage under SPA and pro hindu organizations went inside the court premises and beat him up. Inside the court premises! Can you even believe it?
Either that, or one of you needs to change your religion. Such is the state of our country now. And it is deeply embarrassing.
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QQuickking3115
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March 14, 2025 at 1:00 pmHindu organisations created trouble because the girl is Hindu and boy is Muslim. So itβs a case of love jihad for them. But in this case they will mostly provide protection because itβs ghar wapasi. Muslim organisations might create problems though.but they are not as extreme and violent like Hindu organisations.-
IIndiangargi2466
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March 14, 2025 at 1:04 pmTrue. You know, a couple weeks ago I had this hypocrisy of theirs stun me. The first news I saw was of this boy getting beaten up in the court, the one I mentioned above. And the very next news was how in the neighboring state, another hindu organization, themselves converted a muslim girl to hinduism and married her off to her hindu bf.I was like wait, a religious organization, converting a person to their religion for the purpose of marriage. Isn’t that the love jihad you fight against?
The question was rhetorical. Ofcourse, every crime is okay when you are the one to do it.
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RRapidninja717
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March 14, 2025 at 1:23 pmYou canβt convert to Hinduism to begin with.-
UUser_56a5fc01
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March 14, 2025 at 8:03 pmThis is false.
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UUrbanpanda5424
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March 14, 2025 at 3:47 pm>they are not as extreme and violent like Hindu organisations.Nice Jokeπ€£
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UUser_56a5fc01
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March 14, 2025 at 8:03 pmWith Muslims, the community/ family is violent. Similar to Jats.
They don’t need organisations for this.
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IIndianshagun351
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March 14, 2025 at 9:23 amHey this organization Dhanak should help you
[dhanak](https://www.dhanak.org.in/get-support/)
, please focus on safety don’t share location or meet the one who have threatened physical harm or anyone who will give that info to them, safety first, Congratulations in advance. -
UUser_689f67d5
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March 14, 2025 at 9:28 amthe sma mentions that you have to stay in the district for atleast 30 days prior to filing for marriage and notice.so maybe you can live a city where your parents can’t interfere and then file for marriage.
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SSupercharu1957
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March 14, 2025 at 9:29 amNAL. Please leave him. Why put his life in danger if you really love him. Besides as per ur religion, itβs a sin to marry an idolator. -
EEpickabir1624
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March 14, 2025 at 10:00 amDonβt get married -
UUser_93ebed99
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March 14, 2025 at 10:01 amCome to kerala-
UUser_89c6173f
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March 14, 2025 at 10:25 amIs it possible to marry in kerela -
UUser_ca6c8875
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March 14, 2025 at 11:05 amYes, I heard a similiar case like this where a muslim man and hindu girl from UP or Jharkhand ( i forgot) got married in Kerala. Its safe there as there is no communal violence-
MMightyprerana7815
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March 14, 2025 at 12:39 pmDo you not see one major difference here? The genders are reversed in your case. OP don’t follow this advice and absolutely don’t go to Kerala for this purpose. You need to move out of the country or drop the idea. There is no other way when both the families are hostile.
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PParagking331
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March 14, 2025 at 10:02 amNALIrrespective of religion, I do not recommend anyone to get married without both families backing you because when things get tough, itβs the family and their years of connections & community that helps you out.
But you asked for an advice, so here it is:
Long term solution:
Become independent, start earning, move to a different city, keep convincing your parents somehow. Their chances of trusting you increases when they see you be more responsible & independent. If at the end they still donβt agree, just get married, they canβt control adults. Youβll be away
Short term solution: my neighbour did this
run. Your parents will be ashamed & fight with each other. But yall will get to be together. You can come back in a few years when things settle down. At that point parents usually are just tired and accept you. In case they donβt, youβve to live away.
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VVasudhatiger84
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March 14, 2025 at 10:02 amContact BAJRANG DAL they will even sponsor your marriage and a honeymoon trip -
UUser_8258a16c
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March 14, 2025 at 10:20 amCheck his background he may be a bajrangi pretending to be secular and he will show his true colours after Marriage. Lot of incidents like these have already taken place -
UUser_b500edda
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March 14, 2025 at 10:40 amPlease do not sell out your religion like this-
EEpictiger5917
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March 14, 2025 at 11:49 amSo you are ok when itβs the other way around as per your [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bhopal/s/1N7RVT6Dbj) comment ?Why such hypocrisy?
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PPrimedude3191
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March 14, 2025 at 4:21 pmWow such a plot twist
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RRapidwolf6036
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March 14, 2025 at 1:35 pmInsecure , it’s her choice this world was made in choice not on a desert cult
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UUser_4df0f754
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March 14, 2025 at 11:01 amAbe ye shia ladkiya naam ki kharab karti hai…. -
SSilentkavita6249
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March 14, 2025 at 11:15 amHow old are you both? Love is blind, but how blind are you both is the question. -
CCleverfalcon1643
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March 14, 2025 at 11:22 amDonβt get married! Faltu me youβll get him killed! Break up and move on! -
UUser_43104997
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March 14, 2025 at 11:35 amHi Sister, You can go to Kerala, they have recently supported a couple like you. Also contact some Hindu supporter groups,they will help u regarding this. -
UUser_c899fb22
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March 14, 2025 at 11:46 amHow old are you guys? Do you have proper qualifications necessary for doing jobs? If its possible relocate to Kerala for the time being, it isn’t bad as (some biased) media claims to be. -
FFierceseeker9917
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March 14, 2025 at 12:04 pmSame situation with friend of mine who is from amdavad. They both moved to orissa for a month got married there and went for honeymoon for another month. Their family sort of accepted the fate. If you have friends in some other state which isnt radical is the way to go-
UUser_89c6173f
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March 14, 2025 at 12:20 pmWe don’t have that much time
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UUser_3754f252
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March 14, 2025 at 12:20 pmGirl move away from family, to a different city. Just cut off contacts , staying scared won’t help -
CCleverneha6648
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March 14, 2025 at 12:38 pmFirst thing first no matter what you do don’t change your religion just to get married.Second, there are multiple ways you can get married but I suggest not to do it without both of your parents consent, unless you hate your parents or your parents are horrible people or they don’t care about you.
Third, this is advice from a brother of a sister if the guy is decent with good character and good salary and job the chances of them accepting your relationship is high but if you decide to run away and get married without your parents consent just keep in mind you won’t have any place to return back.
Think carefully before taking any drastic steps.
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UUrbandivya952
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March 14, 2025 at 1:35 pmFor SMA you need to register in the domicile district of either of you.In case you want to get married from some other district or state, you need to have an aadhar address of that district or state. You can create a rent deed with someone and show it as residential proof, it needs to be 6 months old then only aadhar authority will approve.
Best of luck.
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BBrightsanjay9083
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March 14, 2025 at 6:55 pmBest advice on this thread
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MMegafox143
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March 14, 2025 at 2:26 pmEither one of your blood lines will be completely erased act accordingly -
KKajalguru526
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March 14, 2025 at 4:20 pmBajrang dal may help -
UUser_0d0fb379
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March 14, 2025 at 4:25 pmTalk to people at Dhanak. Hopefully theyβll have better advise and support to offer. -
PPoonamwolf550
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March 14, 2025 at 6:09 pmIf both of you are 21+ then please get married in Arya Samajh Mandir first in any far away district of Gujarat or nearby state. Then demand a police protection from the SP/SSP/DIG rank officer or District Magistrate till the marriage is registered. -
PPoonamwolf550
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March 14, 2025 at 6:09 pmIf both of you are 21+ then please get married in Arya Samajh Mandir first in any far away district of Gujarat or nearby state. Then demand a police protection from the SP/SSP/DIG rank officer or District Magistrate till the marriage is registered. -
PPoonamwolf550
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March 14, 2025 at 6:09 pmIf both of you are 21+ then please get married in Arya Samajh Mandir first in any far away district of Gujarat or nearby state. Then demand a police protection from the SP/SSP/DIG rank officer or District Magistrate till the marriage is registered. -
BBrightsanjay9083
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March 14, 2025 at 7:01 pmIf safety is a concern, moving out of Gujarat to register your marriage under the Special Marriage Act is a practical option. Some states, like Delhi, tend to handle interfaith marriages with less local interference. You can also seek legal protection if threats persist. If you need guidance on safe relocation, the marriage process, or legal protection, feel free to reach out privately. -
UUser_56a5fc01
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March 14, 2025 at 8:01 pmTry my style. Break contact with family, and relocate in a way that they stop caring about you.Later, you can move in with the guy.
Postpone marriage till it is safe.
Stay far away from any religion after this.
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UUser_4aa82b44
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March 14, 2025 at 8:27 pmi also liked a muslim girl. thank god we didn’t get into a relationship. pehle ladki ki bakchodiya sambhalo FRR baad mein apni jaan sambhalo…Par dikkt hai move on nahi ho paa rha usse.
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SSuperkamal4622
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March 14, 2025 at 10:47 pmShia and muslim since when??????? -
AAlphabro5700
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March 15, 2025 at 12:04 amNAL but some of the comments in here are regressive and disgusting -
UUser_ddc56934
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March 15, 2025 at 4:49 amFirst try and get a job in some other state, preferably southern states like Kerala and Tamil Nadu and then move there and her married. -
UUser_c4650cd5
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March 15, 2025 at 5:03 amMove to Nepal and you both have to act Hindu then everything will be fine
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