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CSo, I lived with my mom and dad until 2015. Dad was abusive to my mom and she was abusive to me. My mom then left my Dad in 2015 and I was sent to a boarding school while my mom went job hunting. I was also abused by my seniors in the hostel but I could never do anything about it cuz I had no proof and no one believed me + our warden was in on it. In 2017 I was brought to my (maternal) grandparents’ place and my uncle (mom’s brother) used to abuse me every single day. I always had anxiety and depression but it got way worse once since I started living here. According to my mom, grandma, grandpa and everyone else in the family, my uncle did nothing wrong. I lived with them until early 2022 and then I moved in with my mom. I attempted to end my life multiple times while I was with my grandparents but could never do it. Even when I moved in with my mom I still continued to suffer from severe depression, my mom took me to a psychiatrist and therapist and when they asked what caused this she said she doesn’t know, everyone in my family has been very nice towards me. When they asked me, I told them everything and blamed my uncle for everything. When they asked my mom about him she just justified everything he did by saying “it’s his nature” or “he’s just very overprotective”. Even while living with my mom I tried to end my life many times, the most recent attempt was the first time actually got almost successful, it was and the end of this January, I overdosed on my meds. But my mom found out and rushed me to the hospital and I was unfortunately “saved”. Since I started living with my mom I’ve been to my grandparents’ place many times and things are still exactly the same, he doesn’t physically abuse me anymore but still tries his best.
Why did he abuse me? His reasons were that I used to be at the top of my class in every subject before I started living with them, so he was just “encouraging” me to study. I used to lock myself in my room and basically cry and sleep all the time but he used to force me to come outside and sit and “talk” with everyone. Said talk was everyone in the house (grandpa, grandma, him and his wife) teaming up on me and lecturing me on how I used to be a “good” kid who was good in studies but now I do everything but study. I didn’t have my own phone back then so I used to use my grandma’s phone but he used to behave like it was his phone I was using. I used to talk to people online a lot. I once stopped a girl from khs, she had already cut her hand. He saw those chats and twisted the story to “He’s talking to a girl and she’s cut her hand for him”. Everyone ganged up on me and I was barred from using grandma’s phone again. Eventually I asked one of my aunts to buy me a phone, so she did. But even then he won’t let me use “my” phone. And FYI: that phone was the reason I survived living there. He used to go around telling everyone that I’m a very bad person and they shouldn’t talk to me. Like this one time, this girl came over for a week, she was apparently a very distant cousin of mine. She was a little older than me so I liked having an elder sister to look up to cuz I was always the eldest in my family (I’m a single child, by eldest I mean I was the eldest among my first cousins). We were talking one evening while he wasn’t there and she said “You’re very nice, I don’t know why he said that”, I asked “who said what?”, she said that he (my uncle) had told her that I was a horrible person and to keep her distance from me. When I used to watch TV (which was like once in 2-3 months) he used to take off the plugs cuz “I had the volume too loud”. I never had the volume over 25. Meanwhile whenever he used to watch TV, he’d have the volume at over 50 and when he used to watch it with his friends he’d max out the volume with bass boost and surround sound turned on.
According to him and my grandpa, they did a favour by allowing me to stay with them. FYI: I never asked them to. I didn’t even ask to be born. I’d rather starve myself to death than live with these animals. But unfortunately, I can’t run away cuz I’m not even allowed to go to the terrace without permission.
My mom had to pay around 2 lakhs in hospital bills after my last attempt. She didn’t have that much so she asked my aunt for half.
What legal action can I take against him?
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SI’m sorry this happened to you. But as of now not much. You can call child helpline tell them what was done to you and see if they follow through the case. Second is go to police station and file FIR for abuse once you turn 18. But it won’t amount to much as police will most likely talk and close the case. If you really wanna pursue this, you need to focus on studies and get a good paying job. Then you can sue through lawyer in court. But all of this will take time. Right now what you need is healing. It must be hard when no one close to you shows you care but focus on good things in the life. Focus on what good can come into life if you work towards it. Try letting go of what was done. Holding too much in is what hurts the most and makes your life sadder. If you let the hurt go you could have whole life of new possibilities where they can’t reach. Focus on that.
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BIf he has done even 12th, he just needs to find a small job Give GOVT clerk exam or for emergency find a job in departmental store n shift to another city and then do his firther exam preparations ti get better job.
Only solution for him is tostart living alone by saving money by earning urself OP!
I am in similar situation where aomost no friend is there to help me out. Total crisis life brother! Tbh i too dont eant to live n im just passing days idk why thinking something will change but no… tbh if i dont get independent nothing woll change. So ik what i hv to do. Alright im also going to find a job ans goimg to hospital first.
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Idk what you can do legally or what you want legally exactly coz apart from your early physical abuse all other are trivial small stuff which doesn’t amount to anything.
This are are obviously affecting you greatly mentally given your age mind is very sensitive in which you only think about stuff in black and white sense..
what you should do to ease your body of anxiety or depression is to get your body checkedup up fo vitamins thiroid and stuff..deficiencies and allergy causes great agony mentally at that age so take vitamin B12 and vit D with magnesium this two thing will surely help you mentally… And consult a doc for other deficiencies if any if get checked.. also do fasting like zero calorie one 24-48 hour per week that’s therapeutic it will dry up your stress hormone..
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C>apart from your early physical abuse all other are trivial small stuff which doesn’t amount to anything.
The amount or frequency of abuse never changed only it’s perpetrators did. Now, if you think hitting your nephew, pushing him around, mentally harassing him on a daily basis is “small stuff” I don’t think you should be giving advice on such cases
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SWhat you are going through is valid im not downplaying your pain I’ve been and seen through things million times worse than this(this dosent matter )
But the contex to what I’m saying is Legally it won’t amout to anything law or who ever you complain to won’t do shit about it and top of that you are male( at 18 are you still getting physically abused? record the audio or video just for proofs )…
But seriously do the later thing which I told you before the thing that you can control which you have power over…
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