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UHow to proceed?
Hi, I 31M living in the US recently got engaged to a girl 29F living in India after six months of long distance and got court marriage done. Planned on getting ritually married in the coming months. All this hurry because I have a health problem that needs surgery to fix it and the date was fast approaching.
During engagement, I got to know from my friends that she informed the photographer not to take any (couple pics)as she was not comfortable doing that. These pics were taken in isolation after a lot of convincing. What I couldn’t understand was when we were together she literally was kissing me in public. Going by her attitude she’s very extroverted and I never could make it that she could be shy just for the pics. When confronted about this she told me that her eyelashes hurt and she was not in a position to stand there and take pictures whereas I on the other hand had to take two injections to be able to get through the day.
Now that I’ve come back here and due to the ongoing health and office problems I was not able to communicate very well with her for a period of 2 weeks or so. This resulted into a fight and she told me that she doesn’t want to proceed. Her parents are harassing me almost daily that I’m ruining a girl’s life when she clearly told me she doesn’t want to proceed. They’ll probably fight even if I opt for divorce. They have good political reach whereas I’m from a typical Indian middle class family.
My only mistake is that I had a relationship 8 years ago and this was disclosed before the engagement,not the nitty gritty details just the relation.
She always told me she had no relationships(took her word for it)because of her father. What are my options here. How do I proceed? Idc if I stay single the rest of my life but I don’t want someone like this. -
Ulooks like her and her family were boiling up a plan that hasn’t been working for them and now they are frustrated, let it unfold.
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SSave the message where she said she doesn’t want to proceed.
Did you register your marriage in India or abroad?
Your past relationship has nothing to do with this, unless you’re cheating on her with your ex.
If you’re back in the US and she is in India DO NOT apply for sponsorship visa or spouse visa if you intend to get divorced.
Stay in USA and engage lawyer in India to file your divorce. Ensure that lawyer pleads that there is no contact between you two and that you’re in USA and she is in India. This is to prevent possible false case for dowry domestic violence etc.
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UIt was on call that I did not record but I have some proof to show that she doesn’t want to continue.
Marriage was registered in India but the law says that divorce can only be applied after 1year, not sure if there are ways to navigate through it.
I’ve not spoken to my ex in the last 7years whereas I have seen this girl looking at other guys while I was standing next to her. Can’t prove it though.
Will make sure of the last part. Thank you for responding.
I was also threatened that she’s break my family if she marries and comes in and that she’d do something to herself if someone from her family scolds her. Don’t have it on record. Only verbal
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