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JIt is not about biasness. The law is strict because of the people. The unfortunate reality is, women are being repressed, even now. ~50% of rape cases goes unreported and because of that the law is strict. DV against women is a reality that is happening currently. The biasness is providing very little convenience to women if you think about it. A girl who has been raped faces shame in society, most of the people victim the girl for her attire or her attitude or just her behaviour. The amount of harassment women face in day to day life is just tremendous. It is not about men vs women. It is actually about saving the women from those harassing men. And if you think that I’m blabbering, you can just ask your mother or your sister or any female friend if any type of harassment happened because of their gender. Things like groping and eve teasing are quite common than you think. The thing is, society is biased towards men and because of that the law has to be biased against men. And as a repercussion, both have to suffer. And as for your question, lawyers are just hungry for cases, even if you kill someone, and go to them, they’ll happily defend you.
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ULet me tell you a few realities. In all those years that she could have had a good further education, career, and/or promotions, she does this in her post-marriage life:
1) taking care of the in-laws, husband, children and the household chores: from laundry to cooking to decorating to taking care of the guests/relatives and their laundry & food when they visit, without, in majority of cases, a day off in the week.
2) she puts her body through pregnancy and childbirth and post-delivery period. Hold your thoughts, I know you will say “but this is what almost every women have gone through”.
• pregnancy is still a life-risking event,• internal injuries and bleeding to improper/infectious stitches are major health and life risks,
• if a placenta (which leaves a dinner-plate sized hole/injury inside her womb and takes weeks/months to heal) stays behind in the womb, *it can be life-threatening. It’s very very deadly*
• takes years for the woman to heal: mentally, emotionally, physically post ONE childbirth. Post-partum depression, hormonal changes which takes years to rebalance, etc
AND SHE DOES THIS FOR MULTIPLE TIMES IN AN INDIAN HOUSE WITH THE KIND OF MEDICAL TREATMENT THAT IS OFFERED IN SEVERAL TOWNS AND VILLAGES.• she’s also at risk of miscarriage and still-birth deliveries. Which is not only risky for her body but also puts a lot of mental and emotional burden on her. She’s grieving for a child that was in her for days, weeks, months. Any length of time. She’s a grieving mother.
• the pressure to give birth, keeping in view the above-mentioned position she is put in medically, physically , emotionally, mentally from pregnancy to post-delivery years.
Also the pressure to give birth to a boy child.
The way a woman is humiliated if she’s not into her motherhood in 2 years of marriage. Even if the medical issue might be on the husband’s side (which a man shouldn’t be shamed for either). The slurs those women are called. It’s shameful• the CHILDCARE! The emotional and physical and mental (& in working mom’s case, it’s also financial contribution) of the child is majorly on the mother. From doing the child’s laundry to school’s meetings and meeting friends to keep a tab on whether the child (esp a girl child) is safe in his/her surroundings outside of home, etc. It is a LOT!
The fathers, often if not all, don’t wash their own children’s clothes and help with the books and syllabus and homeworks and uniforms and food and all.All these and more especially when she’s also at the receiving end of Violence, Dowry, Abuses in several SEVERAL cases.
Did we not see cases of pregnant women? One case was in last year itself with a pregnant woman whose limbs were chopped off and then she was burned alive https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.ndtv.com/india-news/madhya-pradesh-rajgarh-pregnant-womans-limbs-chopped-off-body-burnt-over-dowry-in-laws-flee-6167023/amp/1So, your alimony is for the all the UNPAID LABOUR she did in all those months, years while, in several cases, still facing abuses and violence and dowry threats and also emotional negligence.
You are not “paying alimony”. You’re paying her back for what you stole from her.
(You is a general “you” here btw. Not a specific you towards OP).-
JYou got downvoted too 🥲. Thanks for appreciating my comment, however, I must say that not all men are like that. There is also a reality where the wife is genuinely doing atrocities against her husband. Realities like Atul’s also exists. The law is being exploited. “You’re paying her back for what you stole from her” — I’m not in support of this statement of yours. If you go with this, it’ll be a perpetual tit-for-tat game. No-one deserves to be exploited. It is a reality that society is not fair to women, but at the same time the law is biased towards them. In a reality where we call the sexual offenders “perpetrators”. We should also call out those women, who file false rape cases and because of that men has to suffer years in jail. This should not be a men vs women debate on who should deserve to be exploited, rather, it should be a debate on how we could improve our law and our society such that no-one is exploited. I believe we shouldn’t justify atrocities. I hope I’m sounding reasonable.
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UThat’s your child too. Don’t speak about your child and contributing to financial support as something that is abusive towards men. Smh.
>Not reading all that
Yeah. I know you don’t have the comprehension skills to actually understand what the matter is at hand and how Institutional power structures work. Good job. Continue being ignorant and harming women around you actively and even passively because you refuse to open your eyes and truly understand the plight of the other half of the population. Nice citizen of India, lol.
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SI was feeling sleepy that’s why I said I ain’t reading all that
Now, coming to the child’s maintenance part, I don’t think it is covered in alimony. Alimony is given to either of the spouse on the basis of difference between their monthly/yearly pay. OP’s post is about Alimony which is granted on the basis of earning is mostly given to wife irrespective of whether she has a baby or not and in some cases, they abuse alimony and Maintenance and some lawyers even suggest their female clients to abuse the law just to get in hand with more cash. OP didn’t generalise all women but just asked why lawyers support such laws and do they have anything to gain from it?
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