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IHi everyone, recently divorce case in India has rapidly increased and in few months my big brother is getting married.So what are the ways to get safe yourself, big brother nd parents from falsely case from brother’s wife side and also be what to protect from alimony money if wife is working professional?
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BTransfer every asset to your parents name before marriage.
Don’t take dowry or any sort of gift. Don’t be evil to the girl, she would be leaving her family and there is a long settling period. Understand privacy and need of personal space and time. I have seen lots of marriage fail because husband adhers too much to parents and does not defend her wife decisions. As a husband, be prepared to make changes in your daily lifestyle, you would likely have to leave a lot of hobbies and personal time which would go towards maintaining relationship with wife.-
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DHow is transferring assets to your parents’ name and then expecting to not adhere to parents? You’re literally giving your parents all the leverage they need to force you to adhere to them.
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BI guess one can trust people who they have known for 21+ years aka parents more than someone know hardly for few months/years.
If there is a relation problem with parents then it’s a whole new problem.
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AHow did your dad manage when your mom filed “fake” cases on him and your grandparents. Ask them, they must know some hacks
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HIn the past it was not easy for women to file fake cases and take advantage of men.
Now it’s very easy thanks to retarded Indian laws.
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MGet a destination wedding in Goa!
Oh yeah, and get a prenup signed by your to be sister in law! The chances of divorce really reduces with it.
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UGood cultured women? The women around her will spoil her too much. I know a couple who were happy in their 1bhk, she was very cultured and from orthodox family. Lived very happy life for 10years and then they moved to some larger community. She started talking with other women and since then, her husband earning 5lpm also seemed low for her, few years back she was happy with 30kpm. [Indian currency]. So even if you marry a right person, the chances of her/him being same after marriage is very low.
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KAlthough it’s a bad sign starting a new relationship with such lack of trust but esp in cases of arranged marriages, we need to normalise prenups in India 🤷🏻♀️
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II know this conditions bad but after seeing all the high profile divorce cases recently and in my neighborhood one businessman uncle which were in 60 got divorce few week ago and his wife took 2 cr as alimony so kinda scared and shocked movement for me after getting 49 years of relationship is kinda hard for me and for my big brother to see this and funny part is that this aunty is a private school principle.
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IKab tak brother people need someone in their life even ratan naval rata has desired to marry someone in old age time but he has good companions aka dogs in his life but I feel that he has a strong desire for someone in his life.
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BIt’s better to be alone than to have someone toxic in your life. Yeah, get a dog. They are very lovable. But you need to take care of them.
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UAvoid living in your parents property, prefer rental accomodation for first few years, have a record of her father’s clear confirmation of gifts/cash exchhanged with details (WhatsApp chat can hold up if phone number is visible in the chat screenshot ).
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A1. Don’t take dowry
2. Share half arrangements of wedding and keep the bills
3. Make a written document signed on stamp paper that you guys haven’t taken any dowry.
4. Install cctv camera in home or at least in hall. -
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STell her you are poor or have next to nothing, transfer everything to parents before marriage, see if she sticks with you
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P1- Don’t have any assets to your name
2- treat her like an equal partner
3- don’t reveal your income to anyone
4- After marriage bring her in a rented accommodation for first time…
5- keep copy of all her ID proof, education certificates, job details and photographs if any…
6- gift her an Almira with a locker where she can keep her assets… don’t keep key with yourself… but keep the bill… -
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EBruh. Marriage is a trust based institution. If you’re having such doubts I’d say it’s better not to marry.
Get to know the girl well first, and let her get to know you will enough. Assure her that you’re both in this together and don’t rush into any major decision. Establish common ground along with a willingness to compromise.
If you feel even the slightest doubt, step back and get out of it. Live your lives as they were meant to be, free of doubt and tension.
If you’re still set, the safest course is to marry a non Indian woman. Move to a country that respects men and women equally and treats all as one. Should things go south, they’ll literally tunnel underground if you’re here.
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VMarry someone within the community and as economically weak or strong as you.
Marry if socially, politically and economically compatible.
Live away from parents. In a separate house.
Keep receipts of all big purchase.
Be aware of laws favouring women (presumption of dowry death)
Don’t be a dick. Don’t be taken for granted.
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PAlso note that after you greet matured your spouse well become the sole default nominee for all the assets you own. So, you’ll have to set your parents as nominee, once again after you get married
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PBefore getting married, they must invest significant time in truly understanding each other—exploring their likes, dislikes, expectations, ambitions, and overall compatibility. A strong foundation is built on deep conversations and mutual understanding.
Beyond that, he should discuss real-life, scenario-based situations with her. This will provide invaluable insight into her mindset, reactions, and problem-solving approach, helping him make an informed decision.
Encourage him to be completely transparent about his past. Honesty fosters trust, and if he is open with her, she is more likely to be honest in return. A marriage built on honesty has a much higher chance of success.
Most importantly, he must be 100% certain before taking the plunge. Even the slightest hesitation—just 1% of doubt—should not be ignored. If he isn’t fully convinced, it’s better to step back than regret later.
Unfortunately, in India, there is no foolproof way to protect oneself and one’s family from false cases filed by a spouse. This reality makes it even more critical to make a well-thought-out decision rather than rushing into marriage blindly.
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LAgree to every demand of Wife and in-laws and you might escape unscathed.
Wife wants to do adultery: Agree (Occasional Adultery is no ground to deny maintenance)
Wife got impregnated by her lover: Agree and Raise the child as your own (As per Section 112 of Indian Evidence Act, any child born to Wife while husband and wife were living together is the legitimate child of husband)
Wife wants separate house: Agree
Wife wants you to send your parents to Old Age Home: Agree
Wife doesn’t want to have sex with you: Agree (Marital Rape is a Crime and if you’ve kids your sex life doesn’t matter enough to grant you a divorce.)
Wife doesn’t want you to have sex with others while herself having sex with others and not allowing you to have sex with her: Agree and buy a Chastity Cage to enjoy the process (Adultery by Husband is Illegal under 498A. Adultery by Woman is Legal.)
Wife ties you up and forces you for sex while making cigarette burns on your body: Agree (A Husband committed suicide due to this. Rape of Man is Legal in India)
Wife wants to abort your child: Agree (Under MTP Act, Woman has ultimate choice to delete any and every fetus anytime)
Wife assaults you: Agree and try to enjoy it as a Masochist kink (Domestic Violence on Men is Legal)
Wife doesn’t want to take up your surname: Agree (If you disagree she will file Maintenance cases where she will take your surname)
Wife doesn’t want child to take up your surname: Agree (Better to get to see and hold your child than go to jail for False POCSO)
Wife cooks bad food: Agree (One Husband got his head smashed with stone for protesting against Saltless food)
Wife doesn’t cook food: Agree (A Husband had to rush to High Court to quash his 498A where wife alleged that she was harassed by being forced to cook)
Wife doesn’t want to study: Agree (A Trial Court convicted a Husband of 498A for harassing his wife to study. He had to goto High Court for relief)
Wife watches Porn: Agree (Revently High Court held that it is no ground for divorce)
Wife doesn’t want to live with you: Agree (High Courts have held that wife doesn’t need to establish reasonable reason for staying separately before demanding maintenance)
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ITell your big brother to grow some balls and look after your wife properly instead of listening to mummy all the time
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IThis guy isn’t even married but is already talking about false cases. Why get married if you’re that scared?
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ISo, do you say to girls who ask for self defense advice: “don’t go out at night if you’re that scared of getting abused”?
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IActually, I’d say self defense would not make much of a difference and there are other much better precautions they can take. Just like I would tell this guy to date someone for a long time, find out what they are like and then marry them if they are a good fit. Instead, it seems to me, this guy will probably marry a stranger his mummy picks out for him, and then cry when his marriage goes south.
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ICases like these happen to love marriages too. Love runs dry, and partners turn sour. What would you say then?
No person is ever the same.
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IBuddy there’s a risk in everything. This guys is single, probably doesn’t have a gf, and is already talking about protecting himself from some future marriage where his wife might file a fake case.
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II understand what you are trying to say. That no one should approach marriage or relationships like they’re going into a battlefield.
But do one thing, reverse the roles. A girl asks what would she do if her husband turns out to be a domestic abuser, what if her inlaws torture her for dowry?
What would you say to her? That you should not step into marriage with these thoughts? Or would you say that don’t worry, law is there to protect you?
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II’d tell her the same thing. Spend a few years dating and getting to know someone before you marry them. If after marriage your partner suddenly becomes abusive, then you do whatever you can to protect yourself.
But if you go into a marriage assuming your partner will be abusive,thay means you probably don’t know them well enough. In that case, it’s better not to get married at all
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SNo I don’t . I’m old enough to understand that marriage isn’t a transaction . I also know if people are in love they don’t post such things . I also know that if the business of give and take is involved people post such things . I also know that a lot of money is being spent for the “ wedding “ which is arranged and the families don’t know each other well, especially from the bride side . I also know u have no clue about women because the only woman in your life is your mum . I also know that ur sister in law will be treated poorly in a house which is already preparing for divorce .
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SThe girl your brother would be marrying might have to sacrifice her career to create a family with him. What’s your family offering to her in return ? So you want this marriage to benefit your brother for free ?? Is this the moral your family believes ?? Do one thing, you and your brother stay together for life – there your companionship for life is met . Stay away from marriage, you both don’t deserve any girl.
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IMy brother can give her financial independence which is impossible for her to access this from her current family conditions.
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SLol , get the fuck out. Who is your brother to give her permission to work ? You seem to have troubled values , please don’t marry anyone. Is this what your parents have taught you ? These are the morals they have instilled in you guys ? Please you 4 live together and don’t bring any additional members to your crazy group
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CIts not possible unfortunately however there might be a few precautions which can help you a little
1. live apart from your parents.
2. Marry someone with equal income and equal pay
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USimple. Your brother shouldnt get married at all if it’s arranged marriage. Only marry the woman he dates and have mutual love and understanding for without arranged marriage involved
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RTreat his wife well, don’t make her a maid. Don’t be mama’s boy. No one gets married with a plan to get divorced. Divorce is the last straw, it’s a culmination of several things. 90% of divorces I know happened because of parental interference from either side.
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