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UIn 498A, Can wife use call recordings with husband in court?
When my wife left me I became emotional and depressive and in order to make her come back I never defended myself. Instead I apologized so that she feels good.
I think I made a blunder. Is there anything I can use to safeguard myself here?
I said everything in her favor so that she feels valued and give our relationship another chance. Please help!! -
SShe not only ended the relationship, but became your enemy and attacked you the moment she agreed to file a case against you. You need to maybe go through therapy and accept the facts and deal with your emotions.
After thinking through this you need to decide how to fight the cases against you that are being filed with the purpose of harming you.
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UI mean I said everything in her favor and she used my emotional state. Example: She said that – you were not emotionally available, you made me cry, I felt alone, you shouted
And I was like sorry. Please let’s make it work. You are my baby etc etc everything I said was to save my marriage-
USo you did shout and made her feel alone and weren’t emotionally available?
No man would’ve agreed to the accusations until such incidents have happened in their marriage.Was you defence: “leave the past behind and come back. Jo hua so hua, bhool jao. Galati ho gayi” is a confession, dude.
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UAccording to me I was emotionally available but based on her complains I think she wanted more.
Yes, we both shouted at each other (but never abused). But is this intentional cruelty and accounts for 498A? I believe this is emotional conflict rather than cruelty.-
UWhen it comes to relationships, including parental relationships and friendships, we don’t claim for ourselves that we were emotionally available. It’s, speaking in general terms except cases of Gaslighting, for the other person at the receiving end to have a clear view of whether we truly met their needs or not
Waise toh main bhi bol sakti hoon I’ve always been an excellent daughter or sister or friend. But if the other person doesn’t feel that I met their needs or wishes then it’s not done.
If you are worried about being gaslighted then consult a therapist who might have a clearer view and objective opinion post-discussion.
Both shouting at each other also should be analysed within context.
Who initiated it and
was it initiated because the other person felt unheard and dismissed and hence had grievances
and how it escalated and did it unravel into verbal abuses and curses and slurs being thrown etc.Context hota hai bhai
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PI have sympathy with you man, anyone can have weak moments and it looks like you truly wanted to make your marriage work. Legally though that can be construed as cruelty. But honestly it all comes down to the lawyers and the judge.
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UWeak moments =/= being emotionally unavailable as a husband, or shouting at the wife though.
Weak moments should never be at the cost of someone else. That’s just abuse.
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UOur shouting never involved verbal abuse. We should not deviate from original question. My question is coupled with 498A so let’s talk in terms of 498A please.
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UWe are on the topic though. Because those shouts are a part of the accusations you are facing rn.
Also through your comments, and I hope you take it as a suggestion to improve yourself, you seem to be someone who would quickly move goal posts to defend themselves. Even when the fault might be theirs.
According to *you*, you did nothing wrong: you were emotionally available and never let the shoutings be verbally abusive etc.
The other party doesn’t agree. And you have almost confessed.Did you never feel the need to check in on your wife, when she was in your home staying with you for all those days, whether she felt comfortable, safe, secure and happy: mentally, emotionally, physically?
It can be exhaustive to be married to someone like that.
You’re asking for suggestions if what she recorded and you ultimately confessed to as your acts of emotional unavailability and verbal abuse is enough to be an accusation.
Dude, we *are* staying on topicI can’t begin to imagine how she must have felt when a stranger like me is exhausted with your tactics from one interaction.
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