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Ri am a 16 year old student in 12 th class preparing for neet in kota allen my mother and father relationship is very bad my father is just the typical abuser who just beat me whenever i got less marks and mentally harrases me every time and even beat my mother and mentally harrase her too for over 25 year.
my mom even wanna divorce him but can not because of what will society think stuff and we dont even have support of any relative or anyone my mom is a housewife i have proof that he beats her and even he beats her because he could not get enough dowry
please anybody if they have any solution to this problem for like finance problems after divorce
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S1.Divorce
2.Tell your mom to find a income source to manage your family.
3.If your father’s income is good Alimony can work i think-
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AYou can’t file a case without him knowing and also it has to be your mother. You’re very young and ik you want things to get better but unless she wants that too , you can’t file any case.
Its a bitter truth but your only option is do well and become financially independent. Also please make sure when you’re older you seek therapy. You deserve to heal
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MRecord proof of abuse like photos, videos, voice recordings. It’ll help if your mom decides to take it legal.
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VIn alot of cases, you can’t immediately solve the problem, you have to be patient while you try to navigate out of the problem. You’re in such a situation, I’m sorry, realistic ALL you don’t have an out right away.
But, convince your mom to get a divorce and claim alimony and child support, you should store as much proof as you can, proof of abuse, violence even his salary slips, You need to consult a lawyer and eventually go ahead with it. All the best. I know its easy to give advice, but if you choose to go ahead with it, it is going to be a bumpy road ahead. All the best -
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SYour life and success is last hope for your mom and maybe she bore it all for your comfortable education
Don’t let this go in vain. … just study and look for good college. -
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SMake this problem your motivation to study and work very hard .
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SFrom personal experience. If your mother is reluctant to file a case just keep your father in fear. If you just show the monster that you can be your father won’t have the courage to harm your mom. Next time he comes to beat your mum beat him half dead. You know he can’t file a case if he doesn’t have evidence. Gov job? Better for you. He has more fear of losing job than you. Slap him left and he and right. let him know his place. I did the same. Don’t know if it will work for you. If not.. before you die atleast kill/paralyze him before you die.
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PHey, only a person going through such pain knows how hard it is to go through it. I am sorry you have to go through this.
Please know that suicide is just pain passed on to your loved ones, I hope you can get some strength even if it is little by little to progress each day for your mother. Such things cannot be solved quickly but even if you make 1% progress each day you will be able to help both your mother and yourself. Study hard, try your best to get settled so you can support your mom independently, by which I mean to say fight the battle (your situation with your father) when you are in the right place. just keep fighting to win. Don’t ever think of results, not every IITian is in a big company earning a lot and not every person earning a lot is an IITian. Keep trying to work hard, be prepared that when god gives you a chance you are ready for it. You will look back and be proud of yourself. I will always root for you and I hope you will keep getting good advice each day. Sab eik din me theek hona thoda mushkil hai par mehnat karne waale ki kabhi haar nahi hoti ye rule of the world hai.
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SI have also faced abuse from father even suicide threats till I joined college then i moved to different place and never looked back once I started earning slowly I started finding my own peace and started doing things I like. Now I travel around the world with money I saved also taking care of my mother.
All I can say shift all your frustration towards your goal. Time will heal everything and once you started living on your own things will work out. Never give up you have only yourself nobody else
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PDivorce is her call. You have to support her to get divorce. You cannot get it without her consent. And your success will truly liberate her. So study and instead of pressing for divorce ask her to leave separate from her husband for the meanwhile.
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PIf you are ready to fight till end then child abuse case can just be a start. You cannot file it yourself, you will need a guardian. But that means a complete end to your family. Your mother can file a DV and then divorce and all. In any case your I would say your mother should be on your side. Also all of this take years so make sure that you are financially protected.
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CFocus on your self first. You can’t help anyone before you help yourself. Settle your mind first. Don’t think doing anything extreme will help your mom or yourself. Your mother can take care of herself, despite of a shitty hand dealt, she is a survivor. Don’t become a worry for her.
Realistically you are useless. You can’t decide for her, can’t force her to decide. Only thing you can control is your future. Study hard and make a career out of it in order to help your mom. Be apathetic to your father. You thicken your skin and endure it.
Big changes won’t happen immediately. Take your time and persevere through this, grow a thicker skin. Help yourself first.
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