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UI am a minor and will turn 18 in a couple of months. My college senior, who was a great advicer regarding my career turns out to be a creep and a flirt. I talked with him thinking he was a normal person, but soon came to know his true colors. So I avoided him as much as I can.
One day out of nowhere he proposed me in front of my classmates and I politely declined it telling him I am not interested in these stuff and that I am career oriented right now. Because of various reasons, we had to see each other unfortunately so there is no running away from him. He used to talk random things after that and cleared it to me that we can be friends. I was not interested in that too but I didn’t want to have the consequences of abruptly rejecting and blocking him so we became friends with each other.
One day I had to block him because of constant messages from his side (which I hated), asking my whereabouts when I was travelling back to hometown. I may have overreacted by blocking him out of nowhere, I could have explained him to stop bothering me for sometime but that happened, I blocked him. Now when I am in my hometown I received a call from one of my male friend claiming that the senior is in extreme rage because of me blocking him. Senior said (as told by my friend, translated from tamil to english), “Ohh, so she’s showing her arrogance by blocking me? Now I shall show my arrogance. She is 4 years younger than me but still I kneeled and proposed to her in front of everybody. Now I will rape her in front of the college and will let everybody see. Let’s see where her arrogance goes after I rape her”
I have unblocked after hearing this and I am in extreme panic right now. I am scared to even return to college now 😭😭. I don’t want to reveal my personal details here but any kind of advice would be highly appreciated. Sorry for my poor english and translation
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UIf you’re not yet 18, then file a complaint. POSCO ka case lagega unpe. Don’t worry about attention. It’s about your safety which the university will neither provide nor take any responsibility for. In fact their job is to give you a safe environment and despite that if you’re getting threats then clearly they are failing.
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UWhy you unblocked him??
Keep him blocked.Just sit back and relax. 99 percent nothing will happen. If the guy poses any threat again then do surely seek help. Tell your parents and ask them to notify college authorities. Also tell all your friends both guy friends and gal friends and seek support.
If you have any evidence of him giving giving rape threat, then you can directly approach college authorities. And tell them you are concerned about your safety and want to involve cops. College will surely reprimand this guy.
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SWhile all other comments are true and must be done first (involving parents, reporting to authorities) 8’d like to add something which you should do immediately to counter worst case scenarios.
Please buy some strong pepper spray (its available on amazon) and keep it with you all the time somewhere easily accessible. For self defence, just in case.
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UCan’t wait till amazon delivers I’ll be travelling by then. Is there a way to obtain it through any stores or something? Will it be available in malls?
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SListen lawyer here. First of all don’t panic. Calm down. Secondly, file an FIR against him. Sometimes people ignore these kind of treats as empty threats. You never know what kind of person he is. The police will definitely help you. Don’t worry. Also, file an official complaint against him in college explaining the whole situation. Keep evidences handy. If no solid evidences are there, rely on hearsay evidences.
And don’t be afraid. You’re not wrong. You’re a brave soul. Face it bravely.
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WSince you are under 18, it is important to consider involving your parents for support and guidance. However, if that doesnt feel like an option you can reach out to **Childline at 1098**. This service allows you to remain anonymous, and you can seek legal or counseling advice without sharing your personal information.
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UPlease listen.. these type of people feed on your fear & silence. Discuss this with your people (family & friends) Dont make him think that you are scared and alone in this (even when you are, anyone will be but dont let him know about it)… by blocking him you did not do anything wrong.. him threatening you like that is not justifiable at any level..you blocked him because you didnt like his behaviour towards you.. also you didnt need to unblock him. You are not in the wrong..please stop finding excuses for his actions. Did he think about you while making those threats against you? No right. Dont be silent about it…reach out to the authorities.
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UFirst thing to be done is get a solid evidence regarding the rape threat. As per OP, the claim is a third party claim and not a direct threat. If there is solid proof that the rape claim is true then directly proceed to file a complaint under POCSO.
The reason I am asking to verify the claim is because, I have seen many cases of false third party narratives. POCSO is a powerful tool, but it should not be used for revenge purposes by filing false cases.
The other good thing to do is contact the parents of the accused through your parents. But, anyway, until it is verified, file a written complaint in the college. As per AICTE regulations, there has to be an Anti-Sexual Harrasment Committe in the college.
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FFile FIR before you turn 18
It will have sever consequences for him
Please keep proof handy and collect more evidence
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UFIR can be filed even after OP turns 18, as the offence took place when OP was a minor. Criminal offences which are this severe usually don’t have limitations periods. Case will not be barred by limitation.
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UYou are a minor right now, go file a police complaint. He’ll be arrested immediately under POCSO Act.
If you delay, you’ll be at the losing end.
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UThere is an anti ragging helpline and anti ragging website. First inform your college authorities, and tell them you will be filing and anti ragging. Tell the guy as well, if needed that if he doesn’t stop you will be filing an anti ragging. And if he knows the consequences, he must be out of your way for good.
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UNot a lawyer.
From now on, if you engage in a conversation with him, try to do it on WhatsApp and screenshot the chats. You’ll need at least some concrete evidence, otherwise it’s just your word against his. Basically, document and collect as much evidence as possible.
Contact your friends and any reliable seniors you can. Let them know what’s going on, but ask them not to take any action themselves
Speak with your parents. Parents generally know what to say and how to deal with these issues. Don’t deal with this alone, no matter what. Rely on your parents. It doesn’t matter how strict Indian parents are, when push comes to shove they’ll always side with their child
Go to your college website and see if you can post an anonymous complaint to their anti-ragging committee. I’d suggest doing this once you have concrete evidence against him. Do not handle this alone
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Ugirl please don’t neglect this. you ask your friend to repeat that and make a video for proof. and go straight to police. please don’t take it easy..and if you live in hostel, call your parents there. i am telling you, this issue can lead to many dangerous crimes….so make sure you always protect yourself liks carry some small knives and all (don’t think i am being silly, one of my friend became a victim of acid attack as she rejected a guy she didn’t like)
so yeah don’t neglect this
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UI am assuming you’re in Tamilnadu. Please report to the child helpline or district child protection unit. Only do this if your college POSH/anti-ragging squad doesn’t help. Please also visit a one-stop centre, where a woman police officer will be present, they will guide you in filing a complaint with the mahila police if necessary. This will make the legal process easier for you.
Please ensure that some action is taken, considering this is sexual harrasment and is a serious offence. Please use these resources to institute a complaint.
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Explain to your parents first. Then go file a Complaint in local PS. You can ask Police for help by calling that guy and giving him a warning. Then Complaint to Dean or in anti ragging committee. Better to discuss with your parents and faculties and decide on the best course or action.
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UMost of all be brave, you are on the right side, people will help you. Arrogants like this guy only FAFO in life. He is ego tripped and can’t handle the rejections in life, he will be raged throughout life whether he lose a argument, job, bet, or personal life.
Get help from your parents, teachers and friends, they will analysis and guide you proper, but make complaint police and/or college accordingly. Tell somebody whom you trust, in future if he try to hurt you this is it…
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UFirst off, I’m really sorry you have to go through this. I suggest speak about this at home, get counselling from a therapist. Please take care of yourself through this.
Second, he’s actually pretty fucked. Since you’re a minor, this is a prime facie case of Sexual Harassment under the POCSO (S.11). Collect all evidences, witnesses about his rape threats towards you. Under the POCSO, you, your friends and anybody who knows of this incident are all MANDATED to report it to the special juvenile police unit or local police unit (S.19). You can even face fine and imprisonment for failing to report the offence to the authorities (S.21).
Please contact the SJPU or local police. POCSO cases are taken very seriously, it will be difficult for him to get bail and at trial there will be even greater burden on him to prove his innocence. All the best and stay safe.
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HInform parents first > police > then clg faculty or head
( Tamil to English) – assuming u r in a pvt university in Tamilnadu and this guy utters “rape” violently like it’s nothing tells either he is influential guy or just a moron..
In either case u can’t trust pvt clg as they will only work towards saving the clg image & not help u in a way u actually need..Gather evidence report to parents and police..
This rape convo may be considered as hearsay only – won’t be much of value unless u have a text or voice recording directly from him..
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UCall the number mentioned for women in distress; they will help. You don’t have to visit any police station.
https://www.ncwwomenhelpline.in/
For any issue related to violence against women, please call the helpline: 7827-170-170
For any emergency assistance, please call the women’s helpline number 112.
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UBefore reporting, GATHER EVIDENCE. It can be turned against you if you don’t have evidence of rape threat.
Without that, you only have evidence of eve-teasing like things. If you don’t have evidence, the senior who told you about the threat should be used as a witness. The more witnesses, the better.
Also, when talking to this senior who told you about the threat, record the phone conversations so that if he changes his testimony later, you can use that recording as proof.
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ETake this very seriously, make sure you file a police complaint under POSCO because these romeos can be very revengeful and egoistic. You have to keep your safety as priority and consider all consequences if you don’t file a complaint. If you don’t want to involve police, at least file a complaint with the faculty and threaten him that if he tries to contact you again, you’ll file a POSCO case and make sure he goes behind bars. Also have an adult (preferably a guy) accompany you to college for the next few weeks.
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PInform your parents and give a police complaint. they will initially call him and advice. Only if he doesn’t bother to their calls or advice, they will take action.
Alternatively, use the counsellor service of your college and ask them to advice, if they are efficient. In any case, inform your parents, because you are a minor. Be safe.
**Disclaimer:** In the absence of all the facts of the case, the comments given may not be the best solution for your case. One on one consultation with a legal counsel/ advocate is advised to get better guidance.
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UHe is telling everyone that he will rape you infront of everyone and all, and here you’re worried about college life ???
WTAF ??? File an FIR, and since you’re a minor, it will be filed under POSCO. He wanna rape you. With just 1 FIR under POSCO, you can rape his whole career, his whole life.
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UThis needs to be handled obviously. Don’t do nothing out of fear like many women do. Everyone here is right when they say tell the cops, family, the school, anyone and everyone. Make sure his true colors get out there so it’s less likely to happen to you or anyone else.
As a criminology/forensic psych major, don’t show fear or make yourself prey. Don’t be easy to take down. If you see him maintain eye contact, if he talks to you tell him to f*** off, be angry be difficult and be loud. It shows him you aren’t prey and if ppl are around, it shows them something is wrong.
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