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UI(15M) had intercourse with a grown woman and was Groomed but I’m not sure what should I do In a difficult situation as I don’t want my parents to know but Ig that’s unavoidable
I had intercourse with a Woman(a grown up) but now after the night I’m stressed af and regret getting manipulated by her and Feel extremely Stupid and messed up for Falling for her
(I don’t want to reveal anything personal that’s why I’m using an alt account to post this because I just want help)
What legal steps should I take?
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Eunfortunately you are in India. The grown women will file rape and court will punish you….
Get therapy and get over..
It’s waste of time going to court. in India women can do anything
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UYou can proceed further but that will gain so much attention and will require a ton of process and visits to the PS and so on.
If she doesn’t force you for any further intimacy then just let it leave. But be careful and learn from this.
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UHey , First I am sorry what you had done through might have been traumatic for you .
Second – Discuss it someone whom you trust 100% and your family .
Third- Gather all the evidence you might have .
Fourth – Don’t take any extreme actions towards yourself, you did a mistake everyone makes one , just from now on don’t get fooled by anyone let it be females or males , protect yourself and focus on how to move forward in a positive way in your life .
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QIn your case it seems complicated, and judges will take many things in account.
Since u are guy even if you are Juvenile , law can get biased.
If we look into the things you said
1) you are a minor :- makes are responsible for having intercourse with minor, so she is guilty under the act .
Bt it is not as simple as it seems .
Even in comments some guys are saying they would die to do this at that age
This kind of thing will also be considered by the judges that some teenage guys can with full consent even if they are minor can get into the stuffs
As in some cases like Nirbhaya, minors are considered to have ability to do such things ( heinous and everything is considered).
2) you are saying you are groomed
When a minor is groomed , or manipulated
The time frame is also considered and object will also be considered.For an example a 15 year old guy can consent for this happily and won’t regret it and can also brag about it ( court know this too)
Object:-
So they will consider that the major in this case ,if she manipulated you by saying she will marry you or were u guys in a relationship, or it was just one time thing .Basically what you were lured with will be considered.
In most cases like this , when minor girls are involved they are lured with the marriage that the major loves her and will marry her .It will be considered it such kind of thing is there or not .
Time :-
Since how many days the minor knew that intercourse is going to happen? Did he have a chance to understand that he is minor ?
I’m not saying case will be turned on you if u had a soo much time to think these things , I’m just saying it will be considered.For an example, if minor knew that intercourse is going to happen and he consented for this , for months .
And it didn’t looked forced .And it seemed for months as if minor was enjoying the the topic of having intercourse.
3) minor’s other behaviour or decisions in life
If he does any substance abuse by himself
If he does anything which he is not at legal age .Does his life decisions can prove ,that he is capable to think like an adult
4) video u guys made
Recording an intercourse with child is considered like a child pornography bt
Since u consented it , so here also the time and object will considered.
For an example:- if u knew this that you are going to have intercourse since months and also u guys are going to record it .
Were u always fine with this or not ?Did you ever even onced said no , and she later lured u ?
5) she was aware of your age or not
6) what was her motive ?
Don’t get me wrong , ik you are juvenile, bt even juvenile can indulge into some stuffs and won’t regret it . As in many countries age of consent is 15 or 16 .
So court will consider everything before making her guilty.Before filing the case u should be ready with all these explanations.
And if you just wanna take revenge, I’ll say plz don’t do this .
Minor rape, men’s rape are very serious topics , for your personal gains you cant use such things . that’s just very unethical.Bt if you are seriously manipulated and u think whatever did comes under statutory rape , go for it . File a case , get justice.
Bt so far I know, even grown man sometimes have sex and regret it ( specially if that’s their first time)
So you should be clear about everything within you.Get justice if injustice happened to you .
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UHi, please consult a therapist as soon as possible, there are authorities who can take your case forward. Please speck to your school’s therapist. Or if you have any professional therapist outside of your school, please contact them, they will have to take your case forward, POSCO mostly emphases on girl child but there are many cases where boys have been involved in abuse, they will have to register your case, please sustain any evidence that you have, since the accused is much older than you she will be involved in coercion of a minor. The law will support both male and female child. Please approach your parents with your therapist.
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UHow are people seriously thinking this is not fake? Moreover logically speaking. If he was so easily manipulated to do this…it is also his fault. We can’t blame the lady alone here…
He is stupid enough to give in to his temptation…and then trauma hits? Literally kids these days! How can they make a decision and then ruin someone else life. You are also at fault here! Not only her. You can’t play victim card in such situations. -
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BDon’t sit quietly or hide it or you will be a victim forever. What happened to you shouldn’t have happened and your silence will encourage her more and may even blackmail you for more favours. You have a beautiful life ahead and what happened to you shouldn’t discourage you. Go ahead and take action without fearing consequences. Today it is you, tomorrow might be someone else.
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EYou saying “fell for her” “she manipulated” bro things would’ve been different IF you were forced or blackmailed, but these aren’t the correct reason at all to call it out as “rape” take that shxt serious ffs. One never get into things like intimacy etc or that close and not realise might get “raped” ffs you made a HUGE mistake but that isn’t rape buddy. Could’ve just left or anything like that but staying? You knew how well what’s gonna or might happen? You even did not defend? Yeah right that’s not it. There are so many people in India who suffer from this or near this situation, have their lives fked up and messed up because of trauma and this worst nightmare, so do understand things first before assuming or getting wrong idea.
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UAgainst a woman, 15 year old male is still a man in the eyes of judiciary. Chances of you getting justice is low, but chances of you getting implicated if she files a rape case on you are high. Tread carefully. Only take steps if you have parental backing and money. _Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned_ (even if she’s in the wrong).
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