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HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 7:47 amSo i married a woman in 2022 December and she turned out to be a very toxic woman, and because of her i faced a huge financial loss and lost my jobs and destroyed my career. In few months only we got seperated from eachother but we never left because she showed me her love so i wanted to continue the marriage but as time passed and i was struggling in my career and monetary wise, we were not living under 1 roof we were seperated but we used to meet every now and then and used to plan to get back and i got a new job, i was giving my 100 percent and working hard was already in a backlogs and debts which i wanted to clear off. All of a sudden she disappeared and started ignoring and avoiding me, i got scared i visited her home but she was never there, after a month i got to knoa that she’s cheating on me and sleeping with other man. I was again depressed and disugusted. I solaced myself in alcohol. I left job and everything. Then again we met she came back saying sorry i accepted her again we fought now my mind was full of doubts that she might cheat again. I shifted to gurgaon with her with my new job and business but she didn’t stop she made my life hell and again she cheated there too, there’s no problem in me it’s her traits of cheating. So finally it’s been 7 months since i have left her fully and moved on now it was very hard and tough for me but i managed to do it. Still am financially broke and still trying to stable and settle myself with good job and business. I was mentally harrased by this woman, i tried commiting suicide, i have financial pressure, many things are going on, now i don’t know where she is? I need legal advice on this. Please help. -
UUser_e88eb0fd
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January 30, 2025 at 7:50 amConsult a lawyer man. Have some self respect and stand up for yourself. Other guys doing your wife while other guys also get your promotions. Wake up!-
YYashpaldude184
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January 30, 2025 at 11:48 amSimple case of emotional manipulation, but I would blame the market for not getting better jobs or promotion. Also falling to addictions like alcohol or weed is not going to give you a better life in any scenario, they are mere temporary comforts, better is to join a gym and think what goals are needed to improve life.-
UUser_a7641d6a
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January 31, 2025 at 5:08 amYou can join a gym and still smoke weed. Been doing that for years. Everything is temporary in life. May it be the high of weed or the muscles you build in the gym. Nothing stays forever. But as humans, we have trouble adapting to change. Thats natural. Even when a breakup happens, you are really worried about the change. It takes time to accept the change. And the process can be hard for many. But it’s what it is. Everything you do to take the attention of it are just distractions. They won’t make things disappear. Once you are at your own, it hits back. But like everything else, this phase is also temporary. It will change on its own. Takes time but it always does.-
YYashpaldude184
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January 31, 2025 at 5:26 amYou can… But that’s not going to give you better life.
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PPrimeowl5754
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January 30, 2025 at 7:54 amIf she has vanished, did you check with her parents/her house. If she is not there and her phone is not reachable, then I suggest you file a missing person’s complaint in local police station in Gurgaon as a first step. Let Police do its job and look for her and try contacting her through technical surveillance of her phone etc. if she is found and she is happy elsewhere/ some body else, ask her to go for mutual consent divorce.-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:22 amShe’s not missing, she vanished as in not in my life might be with someone else, her parents(father) never answer my calls. They are a mentally sick family.-
PPrimeowl5754
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January 30, 2025 at 8:23 amThen missing person’s complaint should do the trick
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SSmartlion9750
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January 30, 2025 at 7:56 amI will not advise anyone to try prostitute, but you should try some hoes, keep your balls dry, and talk to your family twice or once a day to remind them of how much they have done for you. You will succeed in life.-
UUser_edde081b
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January 30, 2025 at 8:36 amThis is a legal advice sub ,keep the filth out of here-
SSmartlion9750
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January 30, 2025 at 8:39 amI read it twice, but I did not see anything that would require legal counsel. All I can make out is that he is a man who is incredibly infatuated with an unfaithful woman and contemplating suicide. Please let me know if I am missing something. -
MMegawolf5051
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January 30, 2025 at 9:01 amIf you say something then stfu, always lurking around in subs and choose this post with a man asking for divorce and you must have tried to find faults in him but you couldn’t, right?Its pretty clear from your profile what type of women you are- active in 4bmovement, twox india , askindianwomen – all misandrist subs
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UUser_6ce7ad9f
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January 30, 2025 at 7:57 amGet yourself a divorce lawyer firstly, and then maybe a therapist or finance counsellor to help you today back on your feet. -
UUser_814d321d
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January 30, 2025 at 7:57 am1) Lodge a complaint – get a Missing Person Report.
2) File for divorce – can quote your financial distress – mental distress
3) if shes missing for 7 yeara it becomes a ground for divorce-
LLuckysamrat4225
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January 30, 2025 at 8:10 am7 years? -
LLuckysachin9844
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January 30, 2025 at 9:02 am7 years doesn’t become ground for divorce ..it’s 2 years for desertion.7 yrs is when under Indian evidence act the person is presumed to be dead if no one has heard from them . So shed be dead in eyes of law. No need for divorce
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UUser_9e123a5d
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January 30, 2025 at 10:57 amWtf you talking bout lil bro? 7 years? He married her in ’22 -
UUser_814d321d
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January 31, 2025 at 4:45 amIt does. Recently had a case.-
LLuckysachin9844
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January 31, 2025 at 5:03 amStrange… Can u pls share the provision under which divorce was granted with the spouse missing for 7yrs . Hiw was the missing spouse made party ? How were summons served? Everything happened ex parte ? I have so many questions !
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UUser_9e123a5d
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January 30, 2025 at 10:58 amWtf you talking bout lil bro? 7 years? He married her in ’22 -
UUser_5dfc2c99
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January 31, 2025 at 6:27 pmDo you mean 7 months or years? He clearly said he left her completely for 7 months.-
UUser_814d321d
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February 1, 2025 at 2:55 amYears
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UUser_c859d425
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January 30, 2025 at 8:02 amThe relationship is gone. Your Ego wants a Revenge. Don’t walk that path.Seek Therapy. Try meditation. Preferably Vipassana.
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HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:23 amDon’t want a revenge i only want divorce from her so that i can continue my life.-
EExpertfalcon1792
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January 30, 2025 at 9:07 amPlease consult a lawyer as to what is the best course for divorce. Also, if you can keep proof of all the wrongdoings your stbx has done, including things by her parents.All the best.
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UUser_ff1d5f1b
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January 30, 2025 at 12:41 pmNo take revenge from her don’t let her go like this..
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FFiercehero3009
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January 30, 2025 at 8:06 amLawyer here.If you have proof of her cheating, then you have grounds for divorce. You can also go the mental cruelty route but that is harder to prove.
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VVasudhaeagle234
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January 30, 2025 at 9:08 amIf he has proof of her cheating, can this guy skip alimony or is it mandatory?-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 30, 2025 at 9:44 amThe amount depends on the judge but kinda hard to skip.-
UUser_5464ac72
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January 30, 2025 at 11:20 amIf she has a higher paid job, he can lay claim to alimony-
UUser_90aa8ea7
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January 30, 2025 at 11:50 amTechnically he can but i don’t think i have ever heard of a case where the courts grant it when the husband files it.-
UUser_5464ac72
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January 30, 2025 at 1:09 pmI know a case where the govt job holding woman had to pay some amount of alimony to her ex-husband
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AAlokpanda920
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January 30, 2025 at 8:11 amNAL. Lawyer up and gather the evidences. File for divorce. There is no other choice to deal with such humans. In my situation I made myself mentally strong. Good luck 🤞क्लैब्यं मा स्म गमः पार्थ नैतत्त्वय्युपपद्यते। क्षुद्रं हृदयदौर्बल्यं त्यक्त्वोत्तिष्ठ परन्तप।।
“O Arjuna! Do not yield to impotence (weakness, cowardice); it does not befit you.
O scorcher of enemies (Parantapa), cast off this petty faint-heartedness and arise!” -
UUser_4af13bfe
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January 30, 2025 at 8:20 amBrother, I hope you have learned a lot about yourself during these difficult times. It is essential to treat yourself with dignity and the utmost care. Think with your mind and make thoughtful decisions.Please consult a lawyer and take action as soon as possible. Peace of mind is essential.
Wishing you all the best. Trust me, you deserve better things in life.
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VVimalowl309
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January 30, 2025 at 8:23 amHi lawyer from delhi here!You can file for divorce on the grounds of mental harassment and adultery.
It will be a lengthy process but if you have evidence to prove your contentions, you have a strong case.
Feel free to reach out to discuss it at length.
I appear regularly in gurgaon courts so I could help you with the filing process.
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HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:26 amSo i am from mumbai originally and shifted to gurgaon since 1 year now, my marriage happened in Mumbai, it was not regiatered in court it was as per hindu rituals in a mandir, it was a love marriage.-
VVimalowl309
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January 30, 2025 at 10:40 amAs you are residing in gurgaon. You can file for divorce in gurgaon court as well.
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UUser_a6f70255
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January 30, 2025 at 8:34 amshe showed you her love. oh man. what a player she is!-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:34 amShe is.-
UUser_a6f70255
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January 30, 2025 at 8:35 amYou don’t where is she? Wdym she left your home-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:39 amThe last time when i caught her being on bumble, i checked her phone and logged in on bumble, saw 100s of chats with the guys, took all the photos of it, she shamelessly asked me how do i know if she’s on bumble i told her even my office colleagues are and someone sent me your profiles screenshot, then that day i left, i got a call from police because i took her phone away with so came to police station she put false charges on me but nothing happeend as i was clear on my part with proofs and moreover i have given her that phone with my hard earned money, so police suggested me that we will scold you in front of her so she thinks she has won you leave her as soon as possible. So i said okay, and gave her the phone and got scolded by the SHO and gave a written statement, then i left and never saw her again.-
UUser_34eb4849
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January 30, 2025 at 2:35 pmSorry man but where’s your ego 😔
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UUser_aaba71b5
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January 30, 2025 at 8:35 amYou let her disrespect you not once but twice, I guess you are at fault also for leaving your job and getting yourself into alcohol. Divorce and move on with your life. Once cheater always a cheater! -
UUser_513f1656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:35 amnot legal advice but research about ‘Narcisstic personality disorder’-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 8:41 amSame, i did, and she is a verg big narcisstic, also she has past mental disorders. She’s a great communicator so she can convince anyone. And Indian law always blames the man but don’t focus on the mental health of the man which is disturbed by the woman.
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UUser_73de8187
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January 30, 2025 at 8:49 amBhai best time h divorce lene ka🤩.Tu financially broke h .
Toh saste mein fixed alimony nipat jayegi-
UUser_6e877a46
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January 31, 2025 at 1:44 amIf she is earning more than him, he can demand alimony from her.
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CCalmamaya5002
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January 30, 2025 at 10:36 amYou accepted trash. That was your problem. After cheating there shouldn’t even be a discussion -
UUser_e7740583
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January 30, 2025 at 10:58 amBro I don’t know you but what happened with you is the story of lacs of men in india.Think of the time before you were married. You had your own identity , your set of friends , your job security , your family , your career , your bank balance. You were never worried about anyone else except your family.
This woman enters your life and your life turns 360% where today you lost your job , have debt , tried suicide , left family & friends. You left living for yourself just for this lady all cos you loved her.
Am sorry to say but you are wasting your time on this woman. She is a habitual cheater and her mysterious disappearance gives her ego trip. The first time she cheated that was the borderline and you should had left her.
This is where MEN go wrong. We accept cheating as we are too attached to the woman we love. On the other hand women find this behaviour as WEAK & SIMP.
Stop wrecking your life for her. Get your life sorted. Join a gym , get disciplined, watch motivational videos , surround yourself with like-minded people, call your family & close friends. Go and meet them. Focus on your job & career.
Remember life is a journey of ups & downs. Women are just companions on this journey. When the journey is rough the women will leave you.
Be a better man than you were before.
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UUser_4db57bbb
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January 30, 2025 at 12:14 pmLet me guess, u married a hot chick by lying to her with no money in pocket.If i am wrong i will delete my comment.
Don’t think anything stupid like suicide or anything. Take proper legal help. Karma hain nikal jayenge. Patience and persistence will help.
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HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 12:23 pmI had money, it’s not about she was hot or not, i had financial stability with good job. I lost because of her is what i said-
TTanishqguru138
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January 30, 2025 at 10:50 pmTalk to lawyer man, if you want to avoid domestic violence and dowry case. -
UUser_4db57bbb
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January 31, 2025 at 8:22 amDeleted as promised
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UUser_ff1d5f1b
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January 30, 2025 at 12:43 pmNow delete
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UUser_09beae0b
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January 30, 2025 at 1:23 pmNo point relying on the justice system. I feel bad for you man -
UUser_8148820b
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January 30, 2025 at 1:48 pmFirstly make her accept all things or prepare proofs ,
She could change story to show herself as victim , things you can’t even imagine -
UUser_87400232
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January 30, 2025 at 1:57 pmYeah I looked through this person’s profile and I noticed that it is all over the place. I’m not saying that this is a rage bait karma farming post but the chances are high. Also, what do you mean by “because of her I faced a huge financial loss and lost my jobs”? How did she cause that???-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 2:15 pmHave you ever handled a toxic person? Do you know the pain when your partner is accusing you for the things you have not and not intended to do in future? Have you experienced brutal abusement from your partner unnecessarily that would have fucked your mind that you can’t focus or work? Have you experienced your partner is happy at the moment and within 1 minute your partner’s personality is changing where he/she starts yelling on you and you can’t understand what happened then you try to handle and make them calm but you also get irritated and try to leave but then their personality changes again and now they start crying nland begging you not to go then you stop then after sometime they again hound on you by realising you made them beg for you not to leave? There are many more reasons of mental harassment and which caused my multiple job loss and losing savings due to no job, then darastically facing infidelity from her side which made me solace in alcohol where i drank everyday and made my friends drink so i should not feel alone and spent lots and lots of money and went jobless lost career. Also spent lot of money behind her clothes, jewellery, then running behind her while she was cheating. Many things.-
UUser_cfb121a8
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January 30, 2025 at 2:50 pmIsko jawab dene ki koi zarurat nahi hai, ye bhen ki lodi yahan male female khelne aayi hai, aisi ladkiyon ko jawab na de bhai, yahan jo legal advice de rahe hain, unki baat sun, ye haramzaadi teri biwi jaisi hi hai, manipulate karne mein inki ego ko mithai milti hai.Stay focussed bro, plan for a divorce properly, so that you do not go deeper in this hole.
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TTanishqguru138
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January 30, 2025 at 10:48 pmIt would be better for him if he starts it first, else he will be dragged in home violence, dowry, blah blah cases.
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UUser_02ec7943
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January 31, 2025 at 3:06 amOp Please go through my profile. I’m going through something similar as well, but I actually decided to ditch her completely. I am finally back home in Australia, and of course, I’m not talking to her at the moment because I’m also suffering. il never come back to India.-
HHardikking656
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January 31, 2025 at 3:45 amYou left India because of her? I Left Mumbai because of her and living in Gurgaon.-
UUser_02ec7943
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January 31, 2025 at 6:41 amGo chk my post and you will know I am an Australian citizen. I was living in India for her only.-
HHardikking656
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January 31, 2025 at 7:43 amOhhh great!
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UUser_5272b677
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January 30, 2025 at 2:45 pmBest time to divorce, since you have limited income alimony will be very less -
UUser_05c233ac
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January 30, 2025 at 3:57 pmDon’t be a simp, grow a spine instead of whining away, get a lawyer to prepare for battle. Gather all the evidence of her cheating that you can.-
HHardikking656
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January 30, 2025 at 3:58 pmNoted, already have proofs
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UUser_f3808e90
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January 30, 2025 at 7:57 pmFinancially broke is the best time to divorce in india -
UUser_d5e862b9
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January 30, 2025 at 8:19 pmThe woman is really for the streets -
UUser_ce1522e4
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January 30, 2025 at 10:28 pmI’m sorry to say this op but you deserve what happened to your stupid ass. Taking her back after she cheated on you and hoping she won’t do it again is just absurd.-
HHardikking656
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January 31, 2025 at 3:47 amTrue
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PProrider4116
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January 31, 2025 at 5:21 am1. You can file for divorce on the grounds of cruelty and adultery. Mention all the financial distress that you are going through. If you have her address it is easier to serve notice and saves time. The procedure is as follows [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)2. Even if she asks for alimony or maintenance, it is compulsory to show the assets and liabilities of both the parties. If you are broke, you don’t have to worry about paying her anything.
3. Gather some evidence for her cheating incidents – prior and now.
4. There is more to life than this. Don’t get wrong things in your head. Life is beautiful and you get to live only once, so make best use of it. End this chapter and move on in life. Get yourself some counselling.
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UUser_96fadbbc
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January 31, 2025 at 11:12 amIf you choose to go back together with this woman, you cannot blame her for your problems. If you can recognize the problem, cut it out of your life and start focusing on yourself. People will not like this but this is the most useful advice. -
UUser_cde1921f
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January 31, 2025 at 6:27 pmBro first consult gd astrologer, your moon not looking gd. -
UUser_29f19058
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January 31, 2025 at 7:27 pmYou will never learn -
UUser_dab34125
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January 31, 2025 at 9:49 pmAdultery cheating all these are grounds for divorce please get a advocate and file a divorce if u have proof etc please provide that as well
U won’t have to pay alimony or maintenance. Go aheadShe is just using you once a cheater is always a cheater.
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UUser_943cecb2
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February 1, 2025 at 12:45 pmAvoid all the drug’s smoking 🚬 drinking alcohol etc —- Pull your self together before you plan anything as mentioned by all the well wisher — getting divorced is not easy for MEN under all circumstances ~~~ My little bro is going through the same and I only have to watch silently as I have a family too 🥺 That’s y keep your self strong it will NOT BE easy/— Aligation are easy to apply but hard to proof in court—— She will hit u back hardest _ Involvement of a social worker for Male issues try to get in contact with them
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