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MMy parents have been emotionally abusing and neglecting me my whole life
For some context:1. My parents have always neglected me bachpan se
Not like they starved me or something but they always forgot me, took me lightly etc2. They weren’t involved in my life btwn my ages 1-4
I used to live with my nani n mom was completing her masters3. Always neglected my life
Zero involvement ki bache ke life me kya hora hai
I used to like go to my open days in school and stuff
I used to get my own stuff in school
Fun fact is ki 2nd std tak mai CBSE ke school me thi
They were busy so jeep ya bus se jati thi and there were some incidents where like the bus wala used to forget me and i used to be in school till 4 pm (school ended at 1)
So in 3rd I switched schools4. Never bothered about my stuff
Any achievements, events etc they didnt care
Only cared abt my failures never saw my good aspects5. My dad mostly and my mom sometimes always humiliates me and bullys me
Always
Rojke taane hote hai6. Back in 2022 i was going through a depressive episode
I was devastated and was also going thru a academic crisis
I suggested dropping out and my parents beat me up, took my laptop my phone for a month
I was not allowed to go out except clg7. Health me bhi i used to get neglected
I have been admitted to the hospital 2 times in my life
All bcz of my dad
The first time I nearly died
Was in hospital for 2 months
Second time for 15 days8. My mom always gets mad at me for being sad
Like since i was a kid na
She used to roll her eyes when i used to cry and go to her for comfort
She used to say drame band kar
If i cried in public I would get scolded once in the car or at homeThis last monday due to something i was really sad for few days
I told my parents i need space.. Some how my nani got to know, My nani called my mom and talked to her abt me ki thoda dhyan de uspe ye vo
And since THAT day, today is sixth day
I m being harassed by my parents yk ki tere vajase humko bolre hai log
They r not letting me be alone
They are not letting me talk to people constantly monitoring me
They r not letting me cry -
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LTbh I faced the same thing . The only way to get out of this , is being independent . I know it’s difficult when your parents are kinda controlling you. But get a good degree . Work hard . Move out of home . Get a good job . Be independent. It will take time … But I really don’t know any other way out . It’s better to learn how to be emotionally strong. Learn to control your emotions . Do something that makes you feel truly happy. Get yourself indulge in a hobby or skill learning …… I hope God may give you all the strength .. Be strong.
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AIt seems like you are over 18 years old. Just move out of your parents’ house and start living independently. They can’t force you to stay in their house if you don’t want to.
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BWhat you’re dealing with isn’t just tough, it’s abusive. Emotional abuse, neglect, and a whole lot of toxic behavior from people who should’ve been there to protect you. You’ve been given the short end of the stick your whole life, and now you’re fed up, and rightfully so.
Your parents have been ignoring you, belittling you, and making you feel like crap for as long as you can remember. This is not “normal” family behavior, and it’s not something you should tolerate just because they’re your parents. You have every right to seek some form of protection from them, especially if it’s causing you emotional harm, and let me tell you straight up — **getting a protection order might be your best shot**.
Here’s what you need to know:
1. **Protection Orders**: In India, a protection order is generally given under the *Domestic Violence Act*, but that’s not just for physical abuse. It can also be for emotional and mental abuse, which is exactly what you’ve been going through. Emotional abuse counts. If you’ve been bullied, humiliated, or mistreated, you’re entitled to seek protection. The law provides relief to people who are being subjected to abuse, and that includes being emotionally manipulated and harassed by your parents.
2. **What You Need to Do**: You’ll have to approach the **court** to file a complaint under the Domestic Violence Act. You don’t need to deal with this alone. Get a lawyer who specializes in family law or domestic violence cases. They can guide you on how to file the application and what kind of evidence you need (like statements, proof of the harassment, and any medical records if available).
3. **Your Safety is Priority**: Don’t hesitate to reach out to authorities if you feel unsafe or like you’re in danger of being hurt. A protection order can keep them away from you, and if they break the rules, they can face legal consequences. The court can also order them to pay compensation if they’re found guilty of harassment.
4. **Mental Health Support**: It’s clear that you’re going through a lot — emotional abuse, neglect, and the pressure from your parents. You’re also dealing with the fallout of a depressive episode. You need someone to help you sort through this, so get professional mental health support. A therapist or counselor can help you cope with the emotional scars and guide you through your feelings. This isn’t just about the protection order; this is about *you* and your mental well-being.
5. **Get a Support System**: You’ve already mentioned your nani, and that’s good. Keep reaching out to those who care about you and can help you through this. They’re your safe space. Talk to people who have your back, and don’t let these toxic people drive you further into isolation.
Bottom line? You’ve been emotionally tortured by your own parents, and it’s time to draw a line. You’re not wrong for wanting space, respect, and peace. Fight for yourself. Go after the legal route for protection, and get the mental health support you need.
As for them? They’re bullies, plain and simple. You don’t have to keep tolerating it. Time to take control and live your life on your terms. **You deserve better**, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
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