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UMy cousin brother is a very hardworking man. He is 28 year old man who got married to a so-called-challu girl who had many affairs and relationships before marriage while my brother is very innocent and naive.
They got married and then she would leave house and don’t contact back or come back for months. She is very abusive and aggressive person. Did not support at home or stayed ignorant to in-laws expectations and needs. She earns well and her parents and little brother also has passive/active income.
After careful consideration his parents and him, they came to conclusion that they want to end this marriage. She is also mentally prepared to divorce. But she is very vengeful and abusive so they have a doubt she will make a scene and victim card.
My bother owns a 3bhk flat where he is 100% owner (loan going on) (purchased 2 years before marriage) (she made zero contributions into EMI)
My brother owns a car where he is 100% owner (loan going on) (purchased 1 year before marriage) (she made zero contributions into EMi)
My brother earns handsomely and she and her family knows about his hardworking and anbitious nature. So they are very cunning and greedy in terms of easy money and shrewdly controlling the false narrative to prove how they are victim and others are harami.
My brother is very shy and prefers to hide his feelings with others. But he told me all this in confidence. He stays with parents. He and his wife stayed with his parents in his house. She tends to leave the house with zero contact for months. And she think she is very much modern-independent-powerful-woman who is a star of the generation. Never accepts her mistake. She proudly left house for 3 months with zero contact.
My brother is very much worried about the house and the car he purchased before marriage with wife making zero contribution. She and her family is greedy enough to go to any extreme to beg for assets and make a scene. With them having passive and active incomes, are they legally entitled to beg for assets ?
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BSolid ground for divorce is her affairs. Collect all possible evidence of that first without she noticing anybit. Then only move for divorce to avoid any maintenance or alimony, til then work in silence to collect proofs. Best wishes for your brother, stay strong…
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ABesides other things, understand your brother’s trauma and try to talk to him everyday. The silent people repress their emotions. It’s a pressure cooker situation though for them. Don’t let this happen.
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UHe tells me that he already has enough proof of her past relationships, her blackmail, threatening, abusing and he also has neibours involved to sort fights due to her anger and attitude issues
She also had past mess ups at workplace.
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BNAL but, Transfer house and car to sibling being adult brother/ sister (blood relative). Should be above 18 years. Should be gift deed. Should be relative under income tax Act.
After that proceed for divorce. Prepare to pay Alimony.
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UHe told me that he was guided by some good advocates that since property is purchased years before marriage and she made zero contributions to pay Emis. She is not entitled to own the assets. While she is entitled to reside in the house (which her ego and attitude does not allow)
Advocate is guiding them to think that spending in lakhs over gift deed is not worth it. As technically their case is strong enough.
She earns really well. And her father pention and rental income from house in hometown and also her unmarried small brother also earns decently. She is staying with her mother and little brother.
They are under impressions that my brother will plead and beg to get her back (which he seems to do in past many times) then she puts blackmails, terms and conditions on him and pressure him more to make sure she is treated like maharani again.
So he and his family wants to put all this to an end once and for all.
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UBut he has many liabilities at home. Loans and emis and managing home and entire family on his own. Still she is entitled to Allimody??
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UMy angelic hard working righteous brother married this cunning devilish woman with a vengeful family helpppppp. You people are so funny man
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UMen these days really need to get out of their mother’s lap and become an actual man. They way they are coddled by their mother’s up until their marriage and even after that is so off putting. Shy and naive are utterly negative traits especially for men! For the love of God take a stand for yourself. Har samay darre rehne se wife, neighbour, raah chalte log sab daraate hi rahenge.
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UWomen these days really need to think about long term marriage concept, and think less about the money, alimony isn’t passive income yk
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UI agree! But like I said a man needs to behave like a man. Warna darr darr k hi jeete rahenge.. and most women don’t like doormat type men.
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UIf she is ready for divorce, meet up within yours and her family and draw up terms and file mutual consent divorce. If you directly file divorce she can file a bunch of cases and it will go on for long. In the end you will lose a lot of money and peace. Women have a lot of power in court, try to navigate a favorable deal
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ULast three years of bank statement and ITR are considered for alimony. So flat purchased two years without any contribution of her belongs to your brother. However, under 498A, she is likely to demand everything. Her lawyer will file case against everyone, may include you as well.
As lawyer is better suited to reply. The first thing that I as a non lawyer would suggest is to move out and live separately from his parents preferably on rent. I understand your brother is an introvert, but whatever laws i understand, a women can just accuse of domestic violence and throw out the men from the house. Police would also side with her.
Your brother needs to be strong and needs constant support.n
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NHey OP
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But if she is ready for divorce go the Mutual divorce way. Anything else is a huge waste of time. I think we will agree that your brother also wants the divorce, so in that case better to go for Mutual Divorce.
Let your brother tell her that he will arrange for a lawyer for the Mutual divorce and will bear the expenses of the lawyer. As she is independent & matured(stroke her ego and inflate it a bit), she doesn’t need your brother’s sorry money.
If she agrees, get the lawyer, prep the petition asap and file it. Then let the lawyer meet her and ask the lawyer to build rapport with her as well so that she doesn’t get spooked at any point.
Let the lawyer be the messenger for the hearing dates and Anything else except the money part.
Don’t fight with her till the signature are done in the mediation on the mediation report. In case she has some demand, just say okay, let her know that you will also have some demands and those will be discussed during the mediation.
If she is hung on alimony, try to mediate it with help of the mediator 1:1 I.e. don’t negotiate with her, rather negotiate with the mediator. Don’t let the mediation fail if your offer is just short of couple of lakhs compared to her final demand. I know it’s a lot of money. But trust me the peace is worth it.All the best OP.
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UIf you and the family members know about her character and her past , why the fuck did you get in relationship with her and her family ?
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UShe is a professional manipulator and liar man. She lied every fucking thing.
Why the hell will my brother marry her if he knew all this????
She is a typical bitch who can lie and act however she wants to get her things.
Even when my brother would openly ask about things she will do either of the following :
– laugh it out loud
– blame my brother for random things
– give plain white lies (knowing my brother will never find out)
– she is also threatening that if my brother did not spend on her (she might cheat in future)
– she started abusing and getting voilent after 2 months of marriage
– typical professional liar and basic bitch.My brother and his family is fucking tricked and fooled by her and her mother. They are very proud of it. And saying words like (we are very strong independent women and we will fucking show you what we can do to pull all of you down )
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