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CCalmprashant9956
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March 28, 2025 at 7:35 pmI was married in 2019 during Covid times , marriage lasted almost 3 weeks only and she parked all the gift & ornaments already in Her axis bank locker just after a week of marriage and then suddenly she started acting extremely abusive for which I have all the call recording and videos.
She left after 3 week of marriage by herself as no one forced her to stay or sort of any difference because it was soo hard to live in that condition of mental trauma and abusiveness that it was a relief that she left by herself.
She took all her stuff like refrigerator, bed , kitchen equipment and air conditioner etc via a loading tempo , of which we recorded her , made a video highlighting the date on which she took her stuff and moved.
then after like 1 year she started asking of mutual divorce and one time alimony of 25 lakhs which I wasn’t able to provide because firstly I haven’t seen such a huge pile of money in my life being middle class guy.
Later two cases she filled against me which are 498A & Domestic violance and 125 crpc.
In most of dates she is missing and not visiting the the courts. Specially in 498A.
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AAshishmaster940
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March 28, 2025 at 8:07 pmLawyer here.Argue for last opportunity to party, once allowed. Use this in next hearing, if not followed then challenge in higher court.ย
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SSwiftgirish7560
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March 29, 2025 at 1:42 amIs she independent, making some money or educated?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 1:53 amShe is fully independent, visits all major night clubs on all occasions, loves to drink & do drugs and wear extremely obscene clothes-
SSwiftgirish7560
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March 29, 2025 at 1:56 amEarning?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 2:00 amYes she is earning pretty damm good but I am not sure by which source.-
SSwiftgirish7560
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March 29, 2025 at 2:05 amYou will need a good lawyer and handle everything peacefully and calmly never question her character show her as strong, better situated, independent and wealthy than you.
Demand alimony and maintenance from her, continue with case, family court may go against you but HC will definitely help.-
CCalmprashant9956
OP
March 29, 2025 at 3:31 amContacted multiple lawyers , one advised to file for section 13 divorce on the ground of cruelty.
But its all very frustrating getting ripped off by the police , then paying lawyers fees , the on all dates moving different cities to abide.In past 3 years I have been to court almost 60 times but never ever have I seen a man gets justice or relief through the judiciary system.
In the end nothing works in favor of man – BEST LESSON IS TO COMPLETELY AVOID MARRIAGE UNTIL THE INDIAN JUDICIAL SYSTEM GOES THROUGH COMPLETE OVERHAUL.
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SSwiftgirish7560
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March 29, 2025 at 5:30 amThat’s the true and story of many, you fought till now, fight a little more and set an example so others can follow your footsteps.
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UUrbanrider9167
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March 29, 2025 at 4:26 amOP, just relax.. read the first paragraph again ..
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CCoolking3706
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March 29, 2025 at 4:01 pmWhy did you marry if you know abt what you mentioned.. Or you came to know after marriage?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 4:15 pmBefore marriage nothing was shown No aadhar card , no pan card , no educational degree, no Instagram profiles , no Facebook or any other social profiles nothing.It was a family arranged marriage , the girl behaved like she is extremely spiritual and wears traditional suits only worship lord shiva everyday.
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CCoolking3706
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March 29, 2025 at 4:20 pmOh my god.. looks like the whole family planned this for easy money..cant even imagine what you are going through.. My best wishes to you for you to get out of this soon with minimal damage as possible -
SSuperdeepa4472
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March 30, 2025 at 1:58 pmThree people should never be fully trusted in India,1. A government worker
2. Friends
3. Religious and especially the set of so called *spiritual but not religious*The last one are most dangerous as they’ve learnt to hold on to a mask very well.
Quiz them until they break. Make them cry if needed with the toughest and most crude questions on life.
Voltaire says it really well – “Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities”.
If someone ties their critical thinking or any actions or morals and ethics to some ‘God’, I don’t know what bigger red flag there could be. Consult a psychiatrist because you need some sort of a mental coach to not just say yes to everything.
As for law, if she’s earning more than you, probe this angle with another lawyer just to get information, somehow if her job details get on record, you can avoid or lessen alimony or in best case scenario get something from her back as you’ve fought till now. NAL, explore the scenario.
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PPrimeroshni212
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March 29, 2025 at 7:19 pmThese are the biggest red flags in girls. Why don’t you see this before marriage? Girls with these characteristics are brand but b is silent.
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RRituking679
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AAravhero991
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March 29, 2025 at 7:07 amThese guys are doing gods work
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UUrbanrider9167
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March 29, 2025 at 4:31 am1. Get a lawyer who is your contact or your trusted circle’s contact (so that he can listen to you)..2. Take help from SIF
3. Make the lawyer follow what you learned from SIFF..
(Your work is being in the middle between these both ppl, to follow the case).
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AAvaniwolf253
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March 29, 2025 at 10:18 am19th April 2025 Jantar mantar Satyagrah for menโs rights and misuse of gender biased laws.
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SSourabhninja381
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March 29, 2025 at 6:01 amLesson learned I will never get married live in is the best option-
SSuperravindra2858
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March 29, 2025 at 6:39 amMake sure it is less than 3 years, some milords passed some law of marriage rights if more than 3 years of live in or something. Do check the law of live in-
SSourabhninja381
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March 29, 2025 at 6:40 amThanks for telling me
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FFiercerajat8996
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March 29, 2025 at 6:41 amCall a special guy.Your problems will vanish
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EExpertdude7852
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March 29, 2025 at 9:04 amHonestly, I don’t understand why some people do this. If they don’t want to get married that’s fine but at least don’t make someone else’s life hell.So sorry for you, OP. Hope you come clear soon.
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CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 9:18 amIt’s a legitimate business here in metro cities like delhi , mumbai and jaipur.
Believe me it cannot be pulled without the support of police , lawyers & Judges.its a life long process once you’re enrolled in this trap.I’ll give you an example which has happened at my own restaurant , it’s published in the newspaper as well – One of my staff who works at Tandoor killed his own brother’s bare hands along with one of his friends.They both get caught the next day,police officials beat the shit out of them as they got complete CCTV footage of entire killing and then sent to prison for 3 years.
After three years they were released and found non Guilty ( เคจเคฟเคฐเฅเคฆเฅเคท).the purpose of telling you this story is if you murder someone and come out clean in just 3 years but marrying the wrong person can set you for your life.
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RRamyaseeker60
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March 29, 2025 at 12:52 pmOffer her a lead ๐ -
KKushpanda748
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March 29, 2025 at 1:40 pmWhat lead to her acting like this in a week? So it was good for a week? What’s her parents saying?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 3:27 pmHave you heard the case of Looteri Dhulhan .Behave for a week , Accumulate all cash & Gold (เคธเฅเคคเฅเคฐเฅ เคงเคจ) throw some tantrums and leave.
Later starts threatening calls for alimony and file your false cases against the entire man’s family.-
KKushpanda748
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March 29, 2025 at 4:00 pmDid she have prior?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 4:01 pmWhat ??-
KKushpanda748
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March 29, 2025 at 4:06 pmPreviously married and cheated others? -
SSwiftishani4105
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March 29, 2025 at 4:14 pmWas this an arrange marriage? Or love?-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 4:16 pmBefore marriage nothing was shown No aadhar card , no pan card , no educational degree, no Instagram profiles , no Facebook or any other social profiles nothing.It was a family arranged marriage , the girl behaved like she is extremely spiritual and wears traditional suits only worship lord shiva everyday.
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SSwiftishani4105
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March 29, 2025 at 4:17 pmBut it’s not about that, did your family know about her? Her parents? Her background? Forget about aadhar. -
SSwiftishani4105
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March 29, 2025 at 4:20 pmI feel highly likely that this marriage was done though a matchmaker and not through family relatives.
This sort of scams are very common , not just in India but in china too. Never trust random matchmakers as they are all always involved.-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 29, 2025 at 4:31 pmIt’s a well executed plan.Moreover I am completely financially, mentally and physically dried up.
Planning to apply for a loan and pay her to get rid of this trap.
From 29 years age to now I am 36 , lost senses about how a woman smells and feels Like ?
I feel the Golden era of marriage and made for each other is not possible given every law is inclined towards woman & MOREOVER THE WOMAN ARE ENCOURAGED BY THOSE POLICE OFFICIALS & LAWYERS TO FILE FALSE CASES AS ITS FINANCIALLY BENEFICIAL TO BOTH PARTIES.-
SSwiftishani4105
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March 29, 2025 at 4:49 pmUnless you are a part of the system, it’s very hard to escape from the laws.
Feeling bad for you but can’t really say anything else.
Also feeling angry on your part that you failed to do any background checks. It was marriage, not buying vegetables from market. Some effort you should have done. People hire private investigators these days cause they know once a fckup happens, they will be fcked for life.
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IIndianhero7294
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March 30, 2025 at 7:01 amLawyer this side -See one way is going to court and contesting the cases but yes the other way out is going for an out of court settlement .Rest detailed advise can only be given after knowing all facts ..-
CCalmprashant9956
OP
March 30, 2025 at 7:04 amSir in the end , whatever the conclusion is , we need to pay the girl one time alimony.More or less the whole case is struck on the Amount she wants – & The amount we are willing to provide her.
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IIndianhero7294
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March 30, 2025 at 7:06 amThat can be settled to nothing or the minimum depending wat u have at hand .. -
IIndianhero7294
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March 30, 2025 at 7:07 amLike the material evidence u have against her-
CCalmprashant9956
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March 30, 2025 at 7:10 amI have all the photographs of her clubbing, drinking, dancing with drinks & Alcohol bottles in hand , photos with her boyfriend, all the audio as well as video recording of her abusing me during 3 weeks of marriage.
Videos of her taking the stuff and leaving home peacefully. -
CCalmprashant9956
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March 30, 2025 at 7:11 amThese evidence can support the file if the judiciary or judge is willing to have a look.But nobody cares as there are plenty of cases in the court.
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FFiercerushabh742
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April 1, 2025 at 5:04 amMy friend was asked to pay 40 Lakhs, he negotiated it down to 18 Lakhs.The girl agreed since she wanted to move on.
Doesn’t your ex-wife want to move on ?
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LLuckymayank4883
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April 1, 2025 at 4:13 amJoin Save Indian Family Foundation. You need psychological counseling and legal counseling.Remember that in Matrimonial Cases your Attitude and Psychological tactics have 90% importance. Legal is inly 10%.
Once you get hold of it, you’ll start being less stressed and will enjoy your life more.
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FFiercerushabh742
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April 1, 2025 at 5:05 amDo they have a proper email id (Non Gmail one) ?I have some questions about donation etc.
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LLuckymayank4883
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April 1, 2025 at 1:19 pmYou may reach out to their spokesperson or directly call the helpline or call any FC. Refer to the website for list of phone numbers.
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VVanshdude739
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April 1, 2025 at 7:11 amContact EkamNyaay NGO and Adv Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj Ma’am. -
JJatinbear690
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April 2, 2025 at 4:24 amDid you consummate the marriage? -
NNeelpanther332
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April 14, 2025 at 5:16 pmHave you taken a stay on arrest in the FIR against you for 498A?
Iโm lawyer from Jaipur, let me know if you require help.
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