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UThe Banana republic kind of laws of India assume that men are obligated to marry a woman if they had sex in or out of a relationship. The man has no right to refuse marriage just because he has had sex with his girlfriend. No matter if she is a cheat, narcissistic or downright abusive.
I am talking about section 69 (aptly named) of BNS i.e. sex/rape (pathetic) which is basically the most abused law of the land.
To make things worse, this law is not gender neutral. If my girlfriend of 10-15 years decide to breakup for whatever reason, I can’t put her behind the bars.
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MIndia is a country that greatly values the “Purity” of women. As nonsense as it may sound, it’s true. So promising marriage to your girlfriend means she has a secure future husband who will accept her after she becomes “used/impure”. Most Men and Women as well take great pride/precautions because they want to marry a Virgin i.e. unused bride. This law is to protect women from shame from society wherein, the man who promised marriage for having s£x with a woman has to marry her because most Indian men won’t. Although society and younger generations are slowly changing the mindset regarding this preference, it will take much more time for normalising this. Hence, laws will remain unchanged till society as a whole accepts that s£x doesn’t degrade anyone’s character and shaming/honor killing/ostracizing women who do that should stop.
P.S.: it’s okay to have a preference if you are saving yourself for your wife too. However most men are not doing that
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UJust send her an email explicitly about you not promising her marriage and take her consent before getting into it. She most likely won’t be able to abuse you.
I’ve had guys that love bombed the hell out of me acting like they wanna marry me just to get into bed with me and I’m not really someone who’d wanna sleep casually… even if i choose to do so, it would be my wish. Nobody likes to feel scammed /used lol. So what I’ve always done is to send them a whatsapp text telling them that I’ll only do it if you’re sure that you wanna end up with me and I’m literally telling this to you in writing.
That’s when they know what can be done to them if they mess around.
So i believe that the opposite of this should also work.. just tell the girl that you’re unsure and you do not promise anything. Sure, it can break ur relationship apart if the woman doesn’t wanna spend time /energy on you without a set future, but atleast she wouldn’t be able to sue you for this.
Goodluck!
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