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UMy sister is living with my parents since 2-3 years and have been abusing them on and off. My dad took a huge education loan to join my sister in dental college C-category. She got into meditation during that period and after graduation she used to practice those chants 7-8 hours per day. Initially she used to do that in our living room and wouldn’t move even if any guests visited. She started abusing my mother at the same time. My dad cut her off financially and she got into debt visiting that cult. I don’t want to name it. In order to pay the debt off, she started working. I moved back home a few months ago to prepare for some exams. A month ago, she got into a huge fight at workplace and quit the job. She then fought with all her childhood friends on one of their wedding day and didn’t attend it. She then turned onto my mom’s friend who lives nearby- she screamed at her to not visit us. Poor aunty was terrified. She has been forcing my dad to pay off her loan immediately by selling our property, even though we are working hard topay installments. She starts verbally abusing my mom until my mom says something back, and hits her if my mom talks back. I try to protect my mom and she hates me for that. She always discouraged me from pursuing my current dream and today she broke my new macbook that my parents bought for me just a week ago. My macbook is shattered. She also tried to hit me with a copper bottle. My education was free and my parents never needed to support me financially in the past. According to her words, she shattered My macbook because My parents are spending money on stupid things instead of giving her that money for her ‘ hathayoga training. My parents can’t kick her out because she’s a girl. My mom seems suicidal but today I asked her to swear me that she wouldn’t let me down. We even thought of calling cops but you know log kya kahenge. I feel that she isolated herself from society and is trying to systematically isolate us. At this point, the only thing she hasn’t done is burn down the house, kill us or kill herself. She refuses to seek psychiatric help. I can leave but I am worried that she might do something to my parents. How do I protect my parents? What are the things I need to know if things go wrong?
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UShe can’t find guru,If she is required to do meditation Guru will find her,And Only thing she needs now is a rehabilitation camp
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UC’mon name drop the cult name why maintain secrecy on reddit.
No advice your situation is kind of unique.-
UI have a feeling it’s ISKCON..my father and whole family life during childhood was/is ruined because of them
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UAfter people are sufficiently brainwashed by them they will have the irresistable urge to donate or give lot of their wealth or earnings to those people in name of donation to God….some of them do not think of their own family or kids as priority anymore and become fanatics to this great global money minting cult which originated from America
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UExactly…they don’t teach any sort of yoga..if they were teaching yoga atleast that would have been of some good service to mankind …..just because you are a hardcore fanatic member of their cult doesn’t mean u can invalidate the horrible after effects many people are suffering through…my parents are still under their brainwashed effect , along with so many other parents ..all the kids are the ones suffering from years now…. such kind of organizations will lead people with half a brain to become atheists after seeing all the nonsence that happens within
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UDear sir, from age of 7 till age of 20 I have been forcefully made to attend the iskcon meetings at random houses and places for their gatherings and meetings with my parents and siblings …please don’t advise me on what they do or don’t ..when I was small and impressionable ..until age of 12 or so we don’t have capacity or knowledge to question anything that our parents make us do ..it’s later after wr grow up we realise what was happening and how our life had changed because of joining ISKON…
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PGo see a good Homeopath doctor (by good I mean the best in town) and take your mom along (without your sis of course). Explain to him the situation and answer all questions he asks with complete honesty. a good homeopath starts understanding the patient from the time of conceiving, hence your mom should be there.
Tell the homeopath that she won’t take any medicine if she knows it’s for her condition so you need to give it secretly. He’ll guide you how to by giving drops.
Just to begin with, I’d suggest you immediately try bach flower Rescue Remedy (a homeopathy medicine for anxiety and hyper sensitive situations). Ask the homeopathy pharmacy how to give it to your sis (I give it to my mom when she feels restless and anxious, around 7 drops in half a cup of water). But it’s a temporary remedy for a few days. You should go for a complete diagnosis and a long course of treatment.
All the best. (Am not a doctor but have experienced benefits of homeopathy hence suggesting)
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UUnless you always wanted to be a dentist, it’s essentially a failed attempt at becoming a doctor. I don’t understand parents who force their kids to do masters in dentistry if they weren’t specifically doing this field. A mouth is one of the most disgusting things to look at all day. You really really have to want to be in the field to work in dentistry.
My ex’s sister also similarly looted her parents for dentistry. They’re currently losing all their properties due to the snowballing debt. The daughter used the degree not to work but to land a rich husband and immediately got pregnant so she’s latched onto their properties as well. With people like this roaming around I can only feel sorry for OP.
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AThrow her outta the house. No one absolutely no one lays hands on mothers. Wtffff is wrong w her? How dare she? Ek thapad mar k bhar nikalo ghr se. Tode fr bhar jitna todna h. Akal ayegi how to live life and how to be grateful. Kids have become brats because parents dont say a thing. Take her to a counsellor if she agrees or kick her out.
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UTrue, when things don’t improve with talks then the only resort is beating, that’s what schools do, police do, govt do.
Punishment is the only way. It’s the only thing we are afraid of and which keeps people under check. Works on all ages.We all have that one psychologically smart person in our home who can justify anything and make you believe they are right. These people cannot be handled by talks and councelling, they won’t listen, just beat the shit out of them.
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UUnfortunately you will have to sit with mum and dad and decide on what to do. Before she does something illegal and leave your father to pay the price- you’ll have to find a solution. If she is happy with cult, let her go there, be open to accept her if she wants to come back.
Please weigh the risk of losing 3 of you against losing 1.
I’m sorry but sometimes life does not leave a choice but to be practical! All the best! -
UShe needs therapy. She might have borderline personality disorder and is also showing signs of Narcissm. I know someone from my extended family who got diagnosed with both these things and then refused the treatment/ therapy. The bad news is that people who are narcissistic and have BPD will never accept their mistakes. And as result will never seek the help/therapy needed. Might be better to have a frank conversation with your parents and cut her off completely. Remove her from the house and let her fend for herself. Your parents don’t owe her anything at this point, especially if she’s abusing them physically! I know as their only daughter they may be feeling emotionally obliged. But she’s only going to ramp up the physical and mental abuse on your parents, as in her mind she’s never done anything wrong and she’s just looking for means to an end. Once your parents detach from her completely, they can at least live their lives peacefully without the daily emotional abuse and financial burden.
Hope things get better for you and your family. Good luck!
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UYour mom could file a DV matter against her . Tell your parents to publicly furnish that they have disowned her taking of the liability to pay her loan or even assist . The best time she tries to assault you parents call the cops for assault or grievous injury . And don’t feel bad about calling the cops . Don’t make the same mistakes as a lot of people like myself who get beaten up and inch of their lives and then wake up . You can always take back an FIR not a dead person
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