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SSo it’s been 6 years since my(M22) sister’s marriage (F34), it was a love marriage between her and my brother-in-law(M36). It’s been like 2-3 years since he started to beat her and abuse her, he gives maa behen ki gaali to tease her. When she comes home, he comes to outside our home start to give gaalis. It has happened 3 to 4 times since my parents and his mother(he doesn’t have a father) discussed after their disputes and tried to get things normal. they have two children(5yrs and 3yrs). There were times when he beat her till she became unconscious, and all these things my sister only told my mother, and my mother didn’t tell me or my elder brothers about it ever. she didn’t go for police case all this while just because she doesn’t want her childrens to separate with their father which I believe is so stupid to think and my parents also support her in this in the end even after being mad at her husband initially on every dispute. yesterday he came to my home again because my sister again left his home and came to her house and he started shouting and even gave gaalis to my mother and when I came he fucking ran away. seriously we are 3 brothers and any one of us can beat the shit out of him but just we don’t want any police case against us despite all the fault is with him. What shall I suggest now to my sister? I have told her not to bear any abuse from him now on. I have 2 elder brothers, and they are also very mad at him; he has run away for now. should we file an FIR or should I consult a lawyer first?
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ENot a lawyer
Consult a lawyer first
If you go to police, they will file the case based on the evidence you currently have in place.
If you go to a lawyer, they will be able to guide you properly in this case and also help with what evidence is required and precautions you need to take to safeguard your sister and kids.
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AFile a DV case, you said that your sister is afraid that the kids need a father in their life. With all due respect one of the three brothers could help with the kids for a brief time to fill in that role. First thing after the FIR would be to help your sister with therapy- people will ignore the mental agony your sister has suffered with that abuser. I don’t understand your sister’s view of kids without a father, god forbid what if that cruel monster goes over the top for a moment and something horrible happens to your sister.
You just need to convince your sister to come out of that toxic marriage. She is also worried that her *love marriage* is not working well. She could also be worried about the societal norms and pressure. She just needs to understand that she has to prioritise herself and her kids and never worry about anything more. You along with your parents have to stand with your sister till the end. -
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AFile a DV case, you said that your sister is afraid that the kids need a father in their life. With all due respect one of the three brothers could help with the kids for a brief time to fill in that role. First thing after the FIR would be to help your sister with therapy- people will ignore the mental agony your sister has suffered with that abuser. I don’t understand your sister’s view of kids without a father, god forbid what if that cruel monster goes over the top for a moment and something horrible happens to your sister.
You just need to convince your sister to come out of that toxic marriage. She is also worried that her *love marriage* is not working well. She could also be worried about the societal norms and pressure. She just needs to understand that she has to prioritise herself and her kids and never worry about anything more. You along with your parents have to stand with your sister till the end. -
SI am sorry to say but your parents should have outright refused to let her be with her husband when he started to become violent instead of making things normal between them. Please end this marriage for her sake. She is in trauma and her children who might have witnessed their mom getting beaten are in trauma.
Get a lawyer and see how you can get her out of this marriage and put her jerk husband behind bars for DV. Encourage her to seek therapy because she needs it. Give her the confidence that her family has her back and to not think too much about what society says.
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P1. Go to the police station and ask your sister to file Domestic Violence case against him. Let her make a note of the dates & Time (approximately) when he had physically hurt her. There she has to give her statement (she can prepare it at home also, so that she has enough time to think and mention most of the incidents, at the end she can state there were many such incidents). She can seek for protection for herself and for her children while filing the case in the police station. [https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/](https://divorcebylaw.com/domestic-violence-lawyer-in-bangalore-india/)
2. If in case, the police dilly dallies to take the complaint and file FIR against your BIL, you can call the Office of the Superintendent of Police or Commissioner of police stating that the police are not registering FIR. They will do the needful.
3. In the court, your sister can file a maintenance case asking for maintenance for herself and for the children. [https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/](https://divorcebylaw.com/maintenance/)
4. In case police has not charge sheeted your BIL or filed a B Report and closed the case, your sister can file a domestic violence case in the court, seeking protection and other such remedies.
5. If your sister still has any physical injuries from the abuse, you take her to any hospital nearby and ask them to register Medico Legal Case (MLC). In future, if your BIL physically hurts her or anyone else in t he house, go to the hospital and ask them to register MLC. With one MLC there need not be any action taken. But it can be used as evidence later in the criminal cases.
6. Your sister can also file for Divorce on the grounds of cruelty, if she wishes to. [https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/](https://divorcebylaw.com/best-contested-divorce-lawyers-in-bangalore/)
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MBeat her till she became unconscious? What are you waiting for ? For him to k&ll her, so the kids end up losing the mother also ? 3 brothers & this is her situation ?
File a DV case. Claim alimony & child support. Legally separate her from him and get her financially independent to support herself & her two kids. Then get her help to heal from this DV trauma and then if & whenever she’s ready, encourage her in finding the right partner.
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BApni bahan ka future bacha lo.
Pahle police me complain daalo, vakeel se baat kar lo,vAgli baar jab gaali de, tabiyat se peeto( (1-2 Nahi, Dhang se – jisse usko physical pain ki yaad rahe- yaad rahe- Sir, Chest pe laath- danda nahi maarna, Use his body parts generally used by police during remand. -
BOne more important point: Till now it seems good that you are ready to help your sister but be assured that your sister doesn’t face another hell that may be created by your wife and bhabhi.
At this moment of life you love and have sympathy for your sister, Later your wife may plant several fake evidences against your sister that you yourself may hate your sister.
PLEASE BE PREPARED: SHE IS YOUR SISTER BUT A THIRD PERSON FOR YOUR WIFE- AURAT JI AIRAT KI SABSE BADI DUSHMAN HOTI HAI. -
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