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Things were really tensed back at home…my mom left the wannabe pious, traditional, housewife cover and got her gym with her friends..
So basically, my granny wanted a maid, not a daughter in law… whenever any argument appears, she never forgets this one line to use to her son, my dad , ‘ i told you not to marry a delhi woman, now suffer and make us suffer”
My mom practically gave her corporate job, her friends, her family for my dad just to be his housewife…waking up early, getting my granny, her ginger tea,..prepare breakfast for everyone… although a maid is there for cleaning but utensils are always on my mom’s work list…
So past few months, my mum left this cover and got her own gym..her friend is a trainer in her gym so it’s good…my uncle and mum’s friends , helped my mom to get funds for the gym but it’s booming…due to god’s grace .
Coming to the point, my granny never left any chance to throw tantrums…name it, if the tea is not boiling hot, she starts shouting…if the chapati is overbaked, (just a little) she taunts her….because of her stupidity, my dad just watches the show..
I remember that when my grandfather passed, my mom’s parents decided to arrange for the funeral, and they did everything buy forgot to buy the flower garland for the photo…now get this very closely..
My maternal grandparents paid for everything…from funeral to tickets to up for ashes pouring in the river..
But for a mere garland, my granny made my mom apologise to everyone in her stupid family with her joined hands…Anyways, that’s the past but it’s very painful for her…
So weeks ago, my dad threatened my mom for a divorce since she was living with her friend… actually, her partner…(It’s time I don’t use the safe words)
and she threatened to file an fir against my granny for mental torture and against my dad for supporting her…
And my maternal grandparents are complaining that fights are common in marriages but i really hope they get the big pictureThe divorce is finalized but my granny has spread the word that my mom is R in the whole colony…and the words are even worse..
But I am happy…. atleast she is getting out of the hellhole where she spent more than a decade of her life…
Hmm, just one request..if you guys can help me to pin point more points regarding the fir, it’d be good…just to be cautious
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BNAL, Saw this post on r/twoXindia.
I posted a query but because I am a male, my comments dont show. So my question is,
This ‘staying with a friend’, was this before marriage or just recently?
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ABased on this, I’ll assume OP is a girl. But still she’ll have to “man up” of sorts and pick a side, and fight the other one (I assume she’ll pick her mom’s side).
And yeah, you’ve raised a great question. Is there an extramarital affair involved?
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HObviously I’ll pick my mom… I’ve seen how my dad stays mum when dadi slurs her out…
And about the affair..I can’t say..but she did moved with him at his house recently..
He is a trainer in her gym !!
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MThat’s typical of the rich women to crave young flesh. Not that there’s anything wrong. People want it but the social norms of the day frown upon it. Also, it is irresponsible of her to do that to the family name. Get a divorce and shack up with whoever you want. Glad that you have chosen a side because looks like you have absolute shit parents on both sides
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PWtf.. i thought she was living with a female friend and you said “partner” bcz she supported her with the gym.
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BHey Someone deleted the comment you referred to. If you remember what they said, could you please share?
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Eu/[negiajay](https://www.reddit.com/user/negiajay/) this is 4 years, brother, not recent as she mentioned to you. Read her previous post.
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BHey, OP or someone else deleted something from top.
Also, 4 years? Where is it mentioned so?
Gym business started Few months ago. Divorce threat from husband was few weeks ago, **that too because staying with ‘friend’.**
I’m afraid we are all just __seeing one side of the story.__ We also NEED TO KNOW what was deleted in above comment. It’s important I’m guessing, from someone’s reply.
Those who saw, please drop a comment. Think its **related to infidelity with younger person**, probably someone from gym. Again, cannot confirm without someone telling what was in that deleted comment.
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ERead her this post as well:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianWomen/comments/1k8wpfy/just_wanna_vent_my_anger_herei_hope_i_get_some/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianWomen/comments/1k8wpfy/just_wanna_vent_my_anger_herei_hope_i_get_some/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
I made an analysis which might be wrong but picked out the lines.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianMen/comments/1kfxti7/comment/mquug1o/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianMen/comments/1kfxti7/comment/mquug1o/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
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SCame here from r/AskIndianMen , I do not doubt for a moment that your paternal family is very toxic and has a lot of issues but if there’s a chance that your mom was cheating on your dad whilst not divorced, that’d turn messy in court. Plus that’s not very ethical. Neither is what your dad/dadi did.
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HNo, no…you got it wrong…
She didn’t cheated !! She was just living with her friend temporarily…And I will be very honest ..I do not know if she was cheating or not…I cannot say for sure
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MYour mom jumped the gun on living with her partner while actually being married. No judgements there. She should do what’s good for her but the society is built with the fabric of control. People will not let go of the idea that someone is having fun sex outside their marriage. The R word will not die out easily. Just give it time and stop giving a fuck about these people.
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MIt is. But who are you to judge? You are neither of the invested parties. So how can you judge when you don’t even know if it was warranted.
Maybe this narrative isn’t true or maybe it is. Eitherways, you are Noone to judge. Trying to be happy has to be a lesser sin than wasting life in a sad unfulfilling present or a torturous past.
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EWho are we to judge? We exist, hence we judge. Who are you to question our judging, or why we judge? If you can say we shouldn’t judge, we very well can.
Your position that we are not in a position to judge is in itself a form of moral policing and judgement.
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MIt is the strangest comment. You are saying that the everyone and everybody should be subject to the scrutiny and judgment of the society and anyone who questions THAT is moral policing? 😂😂😂😂
It’s always a 100% opposite of that. The desire to be able to poke your nose in everyone business is the very definition of the scum of society.
Me asking for people to not judge is actually a biblical – “Judge not, that ye be not judged.”. We’ll let you prevail over Jesus.
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HI was around 9 or 10…I remember the yelling…not exact words but i remember the yelling..
Not everyday but often 2 to 3 days..
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EBasically your mom left your father, having extra martial affair with other person, living with them while still legally married to your father, alienating you from your father and making you glorify her mistakes, the “R” Word pretty much sums up what your mother is
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BHaha ik right. You should go see what the FemiNazis said in r/TwoXIndia, where this post originally came from.
I was only one who questioned this ‘living with friend’ aspect, but alas I’m a male and hence my comments are always hidden. I only got to know recently.
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HNope…why would your comment be hidden ?
Living with a friend was indeed the line I used coz she did that ! It was a male friend..But I am not trying to get sympathy nor am I shedding a good light on my mom…I never knew if they had an affair or not ..
This is because I cannot say that for sure…but sure .
I will be truthful sir ..like i said before ..
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HI cannot say for sure if she was cheating or not..coz I never thought of that specific word !!
Nor were the vibes of that scene !! But like i said, I cannot say with confidence-
EHope after your father escapes from the relationship with your toxic cheater mother her “male best friend, partner in bed, partner in gym” Also leaves her.
Your mother will be a great inspiration for you, judging by your current way of glorifying her deeds.
when you get married invite me, I will gift you a blue drum and 3 sacks of cement for your husband myself.
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B>colony mein Sara sach bata dena ek ek karke.
Sara sach – that her mom is a wh0re/cougar for having s*x and living with a younger man WHILE still being married to someone else?
Nah, I don’t think OP nor her mother has enough balls to do that. Even here its all sugar coated.
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BHow conveniently men ignore the torture and sacrifice housewives go through to be broken to such an extent.
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BBoo hoo, not every man is chivalrous and not every woman is innocent.
Our choices make us who we are. WATCH!!
Watch how the evidence is laid bare infront of you.
Watch how this woman is sugarcoating her mothers transgressions.Oh dear one, please open your eyes, lest you wear the blindfold long enough, and you’ll forget you ever had eyes.
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HI cannot say for sure if she was cheating or not..coz I never thought of that specific word !!
And i ain’t sugar coating coz I cannot say for sure if she was cheating or not..
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SCheating on your partner while married—especially when you have a kid—is just wrong. It shows a lack of integrity and respect for the family.
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HI cannot say for sure if she was cheating or not..coz I never thought of that specific word !!
She was living with her male friend…cheating, is the word i cannot use coz idk if it’s true
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UTwo wrongs don’t make a right and from where I stand I feel there were mistakes made from your Father’s side for not standing besides her and supporting her for all the sacrifices she did. But your mother directly moving in with some guy doesn’t give a chance for your father to reconcile or redeem his mistakes.
From your mother’s perspective, she has sacrificed enough and your father not acknowledging that at any point of time has made it clearly that he may not do it in future as well.
I think you might have been brainwashed by your mother to see her a victim , while she plays a major part of what she’s being called.
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IOp i am not a lawyer but just wanted to tell you, my best wishes are with you and your mom!!! No woman deserves a spineless husband like your father, who cannot stand up for his wife when he still had time. Your mom is under no obligation to serve your insufferable granny. Your granny sounds like a terrible person, i hope one day she gets a tastes of her medicine. I am glad your mom found someone who loves and respects her.
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