- This topic has 12 replies, 5 voices, and was last updated 1 year, 5 months ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
SI 17M my mom 39F married to my father 42M for 18 years.
Things were never right since the starting of marriage. It was a arranged marriage and kind of forced because my dad family had generational wealth . But my dad my alcoholic and good for nothing.In starting it was only mental abuse from the family but after that it soon turned into a violent and toxic abuse. My mom has to travel back and forth from my dad’s house to her house beacause of domestic abuse.
My dad never looked after us my maternal grandfather used to pay for my school fee.
Things were like this for 17 years. but suddenly my father realised that he has a kid to take care of I was in 10th at that time he said he will pay for my studies from now on.
He took me away from my mom and sent me somewhere else to study for competitive exam . He used to mentally torture me on calls almost in every two days things went like this for a year.
But suddenly he said I will not study there and made me quit my coaching classes because I used to score around average (50-70)%.
I was made to sit at his home where he used to mentally abuse me daily after some days I was kicked out from my own house beacause of my dad’s sister because I was a burden to her.
After a few days they called my mom and said come back to house if you don’t we will not pay for dummy school fee.
My mom was again forced to go there and the same thing happened. But this time I interfered and didn’t let anyone to touch my mom . I had enough so I ordered mom to call police because they could’ve killed her if I didn’t interfered.
After sometime my grandfather tired to beat my mom I again interfered but in that process his shirt was tore .
Again police case happened but this time from their side because acc to them my mom tried to harm them.
Police was bribed and we were forced to go back to my maternal uncle house.
So today we got a notice to present at court as I see that they are trying to get a divorce.
As my dad does nothing and his father is alive so the wealth ( all the assets are ancestral)is in my grandfather hands my dad is saying that he will made his dad to throw him out from inheritance so that he get nothing of he gets nothing we will get nothing.
I’m seeing that my mom will get nothing. She was forced to leave her studies and live in a toxic environment like thta for 18 years but in return she will get 1k for maintenance.
I don’t want this to happen because my maternal uncle isn’t that supportive my mom would live in pathetic situation after divorce.
And I would have leave my studies to support her but I want to study further.Please tell what should we do my mom doesn’t even have money to hire a lawyer.
-
-
SI’m the eye witness.
And there is a written report from police station that he beat my mom.
And I’ll soon turn 18 in 4 months.
I just want my mom to get property that my grandfather holds ( ancestral ones)-
-
SBut my grandfather holds it .
And my dad is saying he will remove himself from inheritance so that he doesn’t get anything.
Of he doens’t get anything I will not get anything.
Do I still have right over the ancestral property.-
UA property is considered ancestral when it hasn’t been divided for generations.
>And my dad is saying he will remove himself from inheritance so that he doesn’t get anything.
A good lawyer can easily deal with this.
-
SIt’s like my grandfather got property from his dad
His dad had 2 children him and other brother.
He has 4 children
2 boys and 2 girls.
Basically he didn’t buyed anything from his money.
It was a passed down wealth.
But the property was divided between his brother and him.
I’ll go and research for some good lawyers.-
UYeah so there are multiple owners of the property, that makes it messy. Also it’s not in your father’s name so that doesn’t help either. Most likely you will have to work and rent. You won’t be financially rich but rich in other ways. Away from your abusers
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
UDoes she have any jwels with her- can she use those for her survival? Like making an FD by selling those and using interest for survival.
I think divorce is the only option she has. I understand legal process is never a quick solution in India. But as you’ve narrated the situation it seems your father has already assessed his options.
Can you think about not quitting education because it’s the only thing that’s going to take you out of this mess. Trust me! Research about education loans.
-
SShe doesn’t have that much money.
All her jewellery was sold out for my father drinking.
We can survive for a year or two.
But after that things will br worse.
And how am I going to get a education loan.
I don’t have anything to show them.
I’m in deep depression since 10 months.
My 12th is near too.
Nothing studied.
Everything feels me metally crushing. -
-
-
