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UA close friend of mine (22F) just experienced something horrible. She lives on the ground floor of a rented apartment, and yesterday , while changing, she clearly saw the landlord’s son (M25+) lurking through the ventilator and watching her. There’s a balcony near the stairs that she forgot to block, which gave him the opportunity.
She is 100% sure it was him and that he saw her, but she has no proof (no photos/videos). She’s completely devastated, scared, and even feeling suicidal. She’s moving out today, but that won’t fix the damage done
I want to know the best possible legal action she can take in this situation.She is feeling absolutely helpless and doesn’t trust men at all right now. Any advice on how to handle this legally and emotionally would be appreciated. Thanks.
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UI think informing the landlord about his son’s behaviour and leaving a review on the property’s ad pages might be the only thing one could do.
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UShe talked yesterday. She told me they were being unusually nice to her and asked her to about forget it and not tell anyone . She could not stand that the was man standing right there confidently after doing that to her.
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EThey’re being nice because they don’t want this incident to be escalated, into the neighbours and on internet.
So she can do the damage to that guy as well.
She can make this an issue in whole neighbourhood, she should yell angrily.
And keep the recording on while having conversation, or ask them how will they compensate this incident.
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CYour friend is so brave to have had this conversation with the landlord around the perpetrator. Hats off to this lady and sending her a lot of energy.
Hope she finds better accommodation soon.
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Sorry for what your friend had to go through. Check if there is any CCTV available around the stairs capturing this incident. If there is none, it’s better to just forget about this and move on. Anyway your friend is moving out of that place so good riddance. Maybe take a short vacation somewhere in the state and forget about it.
Going through the legal way if you don’t have proof is a mental/time/financial drain and your friend will have to relive this incident numerous times which is totally not worth it. The outcome also won’t be any satisfactory either.
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PEven better, move out then lure him and break his legs or even better gauge his eyes out. Make him incapable of repeating the act again.
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SFile police complaint. They’ll find the evidence. Atleast, they can get the pics and videos deleted. You can take back the complaint thereafter if you don’t want to pursue
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LGood that she’s moving out. I’d say better she doesn’t speak harshly while she’s still there/ has her things there since we can’t be sure how he will react if he feels like she’s a threat. After she’s moved out, maybe a few friends can accompany her to confront them? You can still file a complaint, at least to ensure he hasn’t taken any pictures/ videos.
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PSee, there is not much that can be done legally without evidence. If you file even a police complaint it will be, he said she said kind of a dialogue.
Some satisfaction you can get is by speaking with neighbours after all your luggage and goods have left. Just pop in to neighbours who she may know, and just clearly tell why you are leaving. Pathetic parents know what their son did so they will try and cover it up every possible way. Also, ask her to stay strong and let them not bully her. Social embarrassment is the best you can achieve out of this. Move on rather than trying to drag this further as it will hurt you more.
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UShe’s not okay but handling herself quiet well. How do you suppose we nab him? She has no proof even though she is 100% positive it was him .
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Qmake sure her mental health is well. a therapist or counselor might help. once we are done with that. On other note ask her to ask the landlord to give in a written apology about situation and make sure nothing like that repeats. Third change the room.
Filing a case meanwhile her mental health is bad is a bad idea. Let her get a grip on herself and deal with the trauma and then ask her what does she wishes to do. -
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LThis is truly awful, and I’m so sorry your friend is going through this. This situation is completely understandable that she feels scared and helpless. Moving out is a good step for her safety, but she deserves justice too. Even without hard proof, she can still file a police complaint for harassment and invasion of privacy. If she’s up for it, talking to a lawyer or a women’s support organization could help her understand her options. More than anything, she needs support right now, just remind her she’s not alone, and what happened is not her mistake. Encouraging her to talk to a trusted friend, or counselor might also help her heal.
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UShe is close to me . I have been talking to her constantly . Her family is there too. About justice, I feel helpless, I feel ashamed. I can’t help her. I strongly suggested her to file FIR. She left it upto her parents and currently looking for a hostel room in uni .
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SNAL.
Just be there for her. Also please second guess the perception “she is handling herself well” as most of the times people don’t show the emotional damages upfront.
Please prioritise her mental health and therapy over “justice” as going through police and legal procedures have their own toll. If you are, by any chance, pushing for justice when she just wants to move on and is leaving things on her family, then please stop and just listen to her.
Am only concerned about possible pics or videos that guy might have of her. Rest justice unfortunately doesn’t help with feelings that come from violation, therapy helps with that, in the long run.
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