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Uso here is the girl X, she is really close to me. She had a boyfriend when she was 15, bf was 22 then. she shared her nudes, he even kissed her rubbed where she did not want. That day she ran from his house and blocked him from everywhere as he forcefully touched her.
now after 4 years, he is back in town, he tried to conctact her through insta, at first she resisted to talk to him, but got flattered later. she went to his place ( she says she went just to talk) he took her in her room, pulled his pants down and showed x her nudes, and threatened her to leak them if she does not give him bj, she cried and resisted but then he uses force on her head and did what he wanted.
now x has not slept from 3 days, whenever someone tries to talk to her she cries, she does not want to eat
and our boards are going on, we both are in 12th. i dont know how to help her, she is scared to tell thi to anyone, her parents will her if they get to know this.
her father is a menace of himself, he beats her with when she cant live upto his expectations. so she is sure she will get killed, and society will not accept here family.
i have tried to convince her that you are not the victim, allow me to take an action but she does not want society to know, she lives in a joint family, her family runs business, she thinks if anyone gets to knw about this, her whole family will be ruined.
please help me what how can i take her out of her trauma and get her justice
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Unot possible as OP mentioned 4 years ago she was 15 and now X must be 19 , POCSO nahi lagega as she’s no more a minor . r@pe ka lag sakta hai , provided agar evidence ho but ladki ke case me uski bhi zarurat nhi .
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Uread the post , usne kha 4 saal pehle 15 ki thi aur ab 19 ki hogi ya fir 18 ki , POCSO fir bhi nhi lagega as 18 pe ham minor nhi rehte ind me
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Mthere is no easy way out of this, her dad will know about any legal actions taken, her academic life will be shattered, justice will be delayed as usual. all of this will take a good amount of time. justice in India requires sacrifice and support. she will be left alone in this journey to attain justice. get her parents to support her, otherwise I do not think she will be able to handle the upcoming pressure. you should also get involved upto a limit. can not initiate anything without her consent, you can emotionally support her for now
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UFile the POSCO and rape case.
> at first she resisted to talk to him, but got flattered later.
> she went to his place ( she says she went just to talk)
And god give her brain.
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UStill. Can’t blame her for it. Groomers like this have a way of manipulating. There’s laws protecting minors for a reason.
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UWhy did she make him her boyfriend without expecting anything sexual between them? A boyfriend can be sexual with his girlfriend.
And why was she so interested in talking to him again after 4 years if she really had hated him?-
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UYou mean you’ll molest your gf if she refuses to take party in sexual activities.And that guy is pedophile this is no relationship.
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UWhy did she accept to be his girlfriend in the first place if she’s not comfortable with a sexual relationship? She also sent her nudes so she is not ignorant about the sexual part in a boyfriend – girlfriend relationship.
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PUske bf ka address bata do behen. Uske bf k nudes mai click kar dunga. Phir future mein he will get a dose of his own medicine.
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SMan looking at what shit people are going through our problems look so small
Firstly you’ll need to build a case against him
You cannot go to police and talk because hearsay is not valid unless you have proof
Contact a lawyer immediately ask him what things are needed to build a case
You can hire a private detective there are many to dig all his dirt once you have enough evidence
Then file a case with all the proof and make sure to share this story with Instagram pages to make it viral only then he will learn his lesson
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UShe shouldn’t have gotten in his house, in his room all alone, that will be a difficult case to explain to the authorities. Be it police or child protection services, there is no explanation how she got in there with him all by herself. It will probably only malign her image, plus the threat to leak the nudes. But you can always charge him on blackmailing and extortion
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UThere is no fault of her’s, she was intimidated into everything. You know this, I know this, she knows but the justice system in this country doesn’t work like that. It will take her years to prove why she got into a room in his own house with him all alone. The system will eat her up and chew her soul.
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UBut how is ‘how she got into room’, unless she was forced, even relevant??? The guy is still in possession of her pictures from when she was a child. He tried to rape her when she was a child. He groomed her. And the law is going to focus on how she got into the room? That is the least of the problems here!
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ULet her file a case of molestation and blackmailing. And since the guy has got nude pictures of a minor, it amounts to holding pornographic material which is also punishable under law, so that section can also be applied. It may take a while, but she will win it.
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UBro, she was 15! Pretty disgusting comment! Toh woh nagni ghumegi/ hogi toh tumhare jaise log uska bhi rape ya molest karenge kya? Kal tumhare beti ke sath aisa hua toh yahi bolega kya? Aur ghum nangi?
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MKoi nhi ghumti… Ye baat 15 saal ke bachhe ko pta hoti h ki opposite gender ke saamne nanga nhi hona h… Lekin nhi apne ko to bade logon jaise fun chaiye… To lo kr lo fun
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UBhai sorry kyu bol raha hai? Ldki was already a neglected child. Hogya bc.. kitne wahiyaat log hai ghtiya soch ..
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U“my dad doesn’t love me, let me remove my clothes and say hi to rich boys from out of town”
GTFO with victim-loving.
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UBro validation ke liye log kucch bhi krte hai.. and fas jaate hai.. iska matlab ye nhi jo unke saath hota hai wo cheez wo log deserve krte hai. For god’s sake y’all are pathetic
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U> iska matlab ye nhi jo unke saath hota hai wo cheez wo log deserve krte hai.
of course not. In an ideal world we all deserve everything we ever wished for. Some say such a world does exist outside of this one. Some also say this world is a test. One slip up and you’re reminded of your place immediately. So let’s not discuss who deserved what, we’re not the ones to judge that. What we can do, at most is uphold common sense as most of us seem to struggle even with that.
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MHaan… She was a neglected child… Neglect kiye hote na to 15 saal ki h 1 saal me hi nipat jaati… Kiske ghar me ye sb baatein ni hoti… Ki bachhe ko nhi maarte… Abhi saala 2 kaudi kamane ka haisiyat nhi h aur dusron ke saamne nangi hoke ghum lo… Thodi der me kothe me bhi baith hi jaao na… Fir jiske paas paisa hoga wo krke jaaega… Nihayati chutiya ho bhai tum
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UThe lesson learned could be not dating somebody considerably older than yourself. How is ‘don’t date at 15’ a lesson learned for a 19 year old? The adult can’t turn back time and un-date right? Also that ‘lesson’ is more like victim shaming! She was groomed by an adult. She was a child. The ‘lesson’ should be for the adult to not date, touch etc. a child!
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UI’m really sorry to hear what your friend is going through. She doesn’t have to face this alone—there are ways to ensure her safety and hold the person accountable without putting her at risk. I’m an advocate, and if you need guidance on how to proceed, you can reach out to me. Just Google my name, Jupiter Malviya, and you’ll find my contact details.
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CIf she doesn’t want to tell her parents regarding this or go to police to file any complaint, then there’s nothing you can do for her or she can do for herself except give in to all his demands.
And secondly does that guy stay alone that a girl entered his house and his parents didn’t even ask what a girl is doing in his house and he was able to be naked in his room, that too with a girl ?
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BI wish Indian parents would start teaching their kids healthy dating practices instead of just saying “don’t talk to the opposite gender”. That makes it easy for pdf-files like this one to manipulate them because they KNOW that the kid does not have their parents backing them.
I hope your friend comes out of this safe and sound.
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EWhy tf would she even fkin go, talk, get even fkin flattered wtf is even that? What’d she expect huh? She’s literally fked up in the head ffs. Sigh, mistakes she made at 15 was understandable and great that she saved herself. But wtf was sending nudes at the age of 15? How is that a mistake? That’s intentional isn’t it? Also, if she didn’t want any of this why share nudes? I’d say she wasn’t forced like how you just said it. Ofc absolutely go for the rape charges and hope he gets fked up. But seriously, that x friend of yours is in the BIG wrong for sharing nudes which can never be a “MISTAKE” cuz you’re sending them ffs bruh. Also, why get into same bs again? That’s fked up dude. That girl is for streets no joke. Also, doesn’t justify any action of that mc rapist, pls help her this way ATLEAST put posco and rape charges and file an fir too. Get a lawyer if must. Btw nal.
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UAnother victim blaming. The matter of concern here is being a teen she might Know what she’s doing is wrong or right. But that fucking adult knows that what he’s doing. Isn’t it concerning that he wanted to have sex with a 15 year old child. 15 YEAR OLD. Kept her nudes for years. That man is for jail and you for therapy no joke. Why getting in the same bs again? Have you known to concepts like manipulation? Not everyone is smart as you. Atleast be kind to people who already are suffering.
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EBe kind to those suffering? I understand and am always kind and with people who’re suffering, even she here, but wtf is manipulation “after years” ?? She saved herself by god’s will and herself, she fkin KNEW what had happened didn’t she? She thought it won’t happen? Even if she thought it wouldn’t happen and she’ll protect herself WHICH IS THE ONLY JUSTIFIABLE thing here, she must’ve thought she’d defend herself if anything goes wrong but cmon dude she GOT OUT of that worst nightmare and went into it again AFTER YEARS? If it were few days, weeks i would’ve understand maybe but what did she thought after 3 to 5 years? That mf not only should go to jail but should absolutely be rped there by other prisoners ffs and due worst. I hope she’s doing fine, i genuinely hope she didn’t do this intentionally and knowingly… She did make a big fkin mistake (nudes bhejna? Nahi pata? Sigh that’s too much buddy, getting into this fkin he’ll again, hopefully not intentionally) which will be with her for life but welp whether you understand or not, this is how it is. I do wish we could’ve done something for her and hope she did not do any of this BS by herself knowingly or intentionally like I said……. Baaki again hope she recovers, and be safe for life. Every one else too.
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UGod the victim blaming in the comments is pathetic. First of all as the op said her father is a menace, he physically and verbally abuses her. She was a neglected and pressured child. Parents bcho se dhang se baat krte nhi maarte pitte hai aur isi baat ka fayda predators uthate hai. Usko jaha se emotional support mila wo chali gyi udhr. She was just 15, a teenager everyone is gullible at that age upr se considering her situation its understandable ki why she did that.
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