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USo my friend 22(F) wants divorce with her partner 23(M). They started their relationship 1.5 years since. After some time he started becoming toxic and restricted her not to talk with her male friends inside and outside her college. They both had ego and they checked each others phones. As she said, he used to text other girls, while restricting her not to do the same. Later she was not given his phone very much. He was toxic and didnt give much value for her and even while s*x he didnt do things to satisfy her as well as talked about his ex in bed. After this toxicity was getting too much she broke up with him. As she said one day he met an accident and she was informed by one of their mutual friend. She didnt go to see him. Then he called her and begged her to see him crying and all. She went to see him and at the house there was no one and he had not much big problems in overall health. Seemed to be okay. Some shit happened there and, as she said, she was r@ped and impregnated there. He was afraid after knowing she is pregnant. And wasnt much supportive to his partner in this tough time. He didnt take her to any hospital because he was afraid. The abortion was eventually did after 2.8 months approx. then noth families decided to get them married. As they were muslims, muslim marriage (nikkah) was done and as on paper they are married but stays in two houses. She in hers and he in his. After a while he became toxic again and then again another day he marital r@ped her. When she said about her fears of getting pregnant again he told i pill will be fine and gave her that pill. She is still afraid of him but dont know how to get divorce. As someone said to her that because she is a muslim divorce procedure is different for them. What to do here?
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AWhat the hell did I just read?
All these at the age of 22-23.I think I am good, laying in the bed and watching Doraemon. 👍
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QWtf!! This is such traumatizing. Definitely take divorce as well as alimony in this case and moreover this immature boy should be behind bars.
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UBut when we checked as it is muslim marriage they both should live together for more than 6 months or something. The marriage happened six months ago and they are still in two houses, so….
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Divorce in muslims is slightly different. If the man is not willing to divorce, it may take a while. First thing to read is the nikahnama what all provisions are mentioned there .
After that she can file a petition in family court after which a notice may be served to the husband. After this there will be a hearing where both parties can bring witnesses. Maintenance may also be decided during his time .
She may even have to pay court fees. Better to engage a lawyer who specialises muslim personal law.
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UYeahhh i know, his friends saw us talking one day and went and told him. He came and beat me up. But i somehow convinced his father him and his friends that we were talking nothing but philosophy, politics and my personal issues but not hers. It was not expected and i could only come up with these. And i guess they first suspected me and her have affair as that shithead is like that he assumes everyone and makes her block everyone on instagram. Now i guess they are having suspicions that i am helping her or trying to save her as he called me and said “you dont need to save anyone and if you have anything to tell me you can openly do it” the guy is toxic, manipulative, he acts, cries, anger outbursts, etc, at the same time i think he is a big time idiot
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DBetter stay safe. Crimes of passion are very common. Even if he has to go to jail, it may not deter him.
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UMy man stay away from her NGL. Let her family deal with it. Eventually she may reconcile with him under family pressure aur sab ko koyi chahiye to blame and you will be the one for it. Don’t make this mistake. I have seen it happen to too many people who want to genuinely help but end up regretting it.
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AExactly, she has a family. Don’t get stuck into this matter especially when you know she is vulnerable.
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USeen too many people trying to become shining knights in white armour and ending up in not a good place. The most he should do is tell her what she can do and maintain distance
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UYeah i am doing that now…. I redirected her to connect with some people on instagram… one a journalist and feminist who might suggest some things (maybe maybe not) and one a law student… and the law student said about the muslim marriage law so i wanted to get more info thats all…. I have have cleared my side from his side and i getting away day by day from her also…so…. But idk she told me very detailed about the abortion part and that was you know disturbing…. So i couldnt cope with that kindof injustice as i havent dealt with these kinda situations… so i wanted to help… thanks mates😊😊😊😇
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